If your having LO's close together?

Mrslove78 · September 2010

What are peoples reactions?

DH and I planned both DS and this child, but people automatically say... oohh look at you having another one already... 1 wasn't good enough huh? Or surpise, surpise huh?

STFU dumbass drunk, I'm glad you never had kids, is what I want to say.

Ljojo · September 2010

I had someone say that they didn't think it was possible to have kids that close together. Seriously!? If I had it my way we would have had our second baby months sooner, it just took longer than we thought.

elliek05 · September 2010

LOL, people think they're really clever. I got "Was there nothing good on TV or have you turned catholic?" Ummm... that's nice.

LB1988 · September 2010

We planned on having ours close together. If anyone says anything I was just going to give them a stupid look and say we're trying to keep up with the Duggars so we can get on TV too. People need to mind their own.

*KC*luvs*RJ* · September 2010

I get that crap all the time, and it pisses me off. No, neither of our boys were a mistake. Would you like me to explain to you how the children we lost while trying for both boys were also not a mistake? People need to mind their own business and keep their judgmental opinions to themselves.

OctGirl80 · September 2010

We want to start trying for #2 as soon as the Dr gives us the go ahead after #1 (we'll see how that works). SIL thinks that anyone who doesn't put at least 5 years between kids is eff'd up. Our family, our decision, shut up.

knorton · September 2010

Ours will be 12 months apart. We planned it. We are nervous but excited for our kids to grow up with each other. I have had many close friends ask if it was planned.

cari12 · September 2010

Ours will be around 16-16.5 months apart and we planned it this way. I haven't gotten too many comments aside from "wow you'll be busy!" though. Most people who know us, weren't that surprised

Oh wait, I think I did get a couple of "you aren't trying to beat the Duggars?" comments early on - because having 2 kids close together automatically means you're going to keep popping them out. We are D-O-N-E for a LONG time after this one comes! We'll entertain the idea of a 3rd in a few years

eris1995 · September 2010

Ours were both planned - and even with DS1 we had people asking us if it was a surprise and calculating when our wedding was. We got married 7 months before I got pg. This time around a few more people have asked if it was planned...VERY annoying.

ju.vanderw · September 2010

Ours will be 13 months apart, and the second was a surprise. It took us over 2 years to get pregnant with DD, and it was actually a relief to think that we don't have any problems!

I haven't had snide comments, but people look at me like I'm crazy. Even my best friend said, "Oh man, good luck!" like I'm about to walk down the stairs of hell.

I've never done this before, so for me, I won't know better... But I am excited that they will grow up close in age, and will play together!

NorcalLinds · September 2010

No one has said anything about the age difference (21months) I live in an area of older moms. Most common to be 35-40, everyone seems to be on to #2 as well.

Arielle27 · September 2010

This is our first, but we are basically planning to have one after another if we are lucky enough ... I have been surprised at people's reactions (really patronizing comments and little smirks). What is so wrong with wanting this??

A friend of mine is now 32 and it took her 2.5 years (and 3 IVF treatments to get pregnant the first time). Even after all that, people are rude to her and tell her NOT to try to get pregnant again yet (which she has openly been doing since her first was about 8 months). Poor girl, she actually has to justify her reasoning that it could take another 2-3 years, so why should she have to wait??

I wish people would just live their lives as they want to, and leave everyone else alone.

boobgenie409 · September 2010

Same here, my kids will be 19 months apart and this woman I've known for years realized I was pregnant and looked me dead in the eye and said "Another one?" I just said - yea, while i'm still young you know. She reacted in a way that was almost like I was taking another cookie from a dessert dish. This other couple just stare at my belly like it's nasty or look at me up and down with that 'Why' look on their face. Problem is a lot of couples around us are choosing not to have kids. We just are not one of them.

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