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DH gave LO formula...

LouiseB2001LouiseB2001 member
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It is daddy day and DH went downstairs with LO to give me half an hour more sleep this morning. He came up 15 min later and asked me to feed her, but I was *so* tired that I asked for half an hour more (= 45 min) *after* feeding her. When I got down half an hour later he was feeding her formula! Firstly, I find it silly to give her (our emergency) formula when I am in the house, secondly we had two bottles of breastmilk in the fridge! His response was that he didn't want to wake me up again and the the formula would go off quicker than the BM (it was an open bottle). I guess I can see where he is coming from but I was so sad. Don't get me wrong, lots of people have to feed their LOs formula and I understand that, but I worked so hard to get BF going and almost had to give up in the beginning, so it means so much to me that she gets my milk. Guess it is time to build up a stash so we don't have to have formula in the house.
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  • desmerelda317desmerelda317
    Aw, I'm sorry your sad and I can understand your feelings.  If it is any help, there were times I was BEGGING my son to take formula.  He refused any kind of bottle (and I tried them all - I have quite the bottle stash now.  It rivals our CD stash in quantity lol).  I could only be away from him for a couple hours at a time until he was about 10 months old and my pumped breast milk was pretty much worthless because it had too much lipase and so DS didn't like it anyway.  I would have loved it if he could have taken a bottle of formula every now and then just so I could have 3 hours out with girlfriends or DH for dinner and a movie.  But it is all a moot point now that he's 18 months and weaned.
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  • LouiseB2001LouiseB2001 member
    Thanks, you are right, I should appreciate that she is so good with bottles. She will drink anything, even at room temperature and it does make it easy to go out for more than 2 hours. The formula doesn't hurt her definitely, I just thought it was dumb because it was right next to 'the real stuff'. 
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  • anna7602anna7602 member

    I'm a firm believer in getting some "me" time as a mom, whether that be time to sleep, spend with friends, or pursue some hobby, but if you're going to stress out so much about whether your LO is having formula instead of bm when you can't feed her, maybe the 45 extra minutes of sleep isn't worth it as this point. You could also try having DH bring her to you in the morning and just nursing her lying down so you can get a few extra minutes of rest in...

    Also, if your goal is to build up a stash, don"t forget to pump whenever your LO is drinking a bottle of EBM or formula.

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  • EcoBabyEcoBaby
    Awww... I'm sorry. I would be pretty mad about that too. He probably really did try to do the right thing and let you sleep. I'm guessing you FF before because otherwise it would be strange that he would even think about it.
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  • LouiseB2001LouiseB2001 member

    imageEcoBaby:
     I'm guessing you FF before because otherwise it would be strange that he would even think about it.

    Yes, we had to supplement in the beginning and I *almost* gave up breast feeding because I had to pump and feed her with a bottle for the first 3-4 weeks. We haven't had formula in the house for a while though but our part-time nanny started this week so we had to have something just in case. I m over it now, just pumped the first 4 oz for my freezer stash :-)

     

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  • QuazelQuazel member
    I think I would feel odd about it too but, trying to look on the bright side, I think it is awesome that your DH tried to give you a break and made do himself.  DH and I used to each sleep in one day on the weekend and it used to vaguely upset me that I had to wake up when DS wanted to eat (I could never fall back to sleep), I could never get more than 4 hours of sleep without feeding him.  Having a single bottle of formula won't undue the hard work you have done to nurse and now you still have bottles for your LO to use.  Not to belittle your feelings at all, just trying to see the silver lining of how awesome your DH is!
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  • erinmserinms member

    Before we started to supplement with formula when needed (maybe 10 months or so), that would have made me so upset.  I think I will be much more relaxed with the next baby, just because it is easier to let go a little bit and not worry about using formula from time to time.  But I totally understand how that would stress you out (even though you know it is OK).

    Honestly, I read your question and then laughed when I scrolled down and saw the picture of your daughter.  That kid is perfect!  Whatever you are feeding her, she is obviously thriving, so I think you can take infant nutrition off of your list of concerns- she is a doll, and obviously you are doing everything right!

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  • Married2MrWrightMarried2MrWright member

    imagedesmerelda317:
    Aw, I'm sorry your sad and I can understand your feelings.  If it is any help, there were times I was BEGGING my son to take formula.  He refused any kind of bottle (and I tried them all - I have quite the bottle stash now.  It rivals our CD stash in quantity lol).  I could only be away from him for a couple hours at a time until he was about 10 months old and my pumped breast milk was pretty much worthless because it had too much lipase and so DS didn't like it anyway.  I would have loved it if he could have taken a bottle of formula every now and then just so I could have 3 hours out with girlfriends or DH for dinner and a movie.  But it is all a moot point now that he's 18 months and weaned.

    I produce excess lipase too and my DD refused all bottles at 8 weeks old (we introduced them at 4 weeks she did okay with them but definitely developed nipple confusion as was evidenced by her crazy latch, "clucking", etc.)  DH taught her how to take my milk from a cup (actually a cap from one of her many rejected bottles).  I always expressed fresh milk and didn't realized the lipase issue until the weekend before I returned to work and DH was doing a "practice run" with millk stored overnight in the fridge. 

    ACK!  Thankfully I quickly realized the issue and learned that I could store my milk without it "turning" by deactivated the lipase by scalding the milk (heating quickly to 170 F and cooling immediately).  I've been doing that ever since and all has been well.  Just wanted to share in case someone is reading this and has the same issue and doesn't know what to do about it. 

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