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Anyone keep the gender a secret?

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I saw a post about keeping the name a secret, and I wonder if anyone has ever decided to keep the gender a secret. I considered this if/when we have another baby because I don't want name suggestions. They really couldn't say anything this time because LO is a jr. (we're calling him by his middle name though, not his first and NOT Jr.) Also because I feel annoyed with gender specific advice and people throwing their gender specific clothes at me without asking.
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  • FlumbyFlumby
    DH and I decided to keep our babies sex and name a secret. Both sets of grandparents thought it would be fun for them to be surprised, and I HATE HATE HATE gender specific things. Just because my baby is a girl doesn't mean her room has to look like a pink cotton candy machine exploded in it! Instead of telling people we are keeping the sex a secret we are telling everyone we are team green. One of my cousins and his FI know we are having a girl so we are hiding any girl stuff I have bought (which isnt much) at their house cause we are moving next week and my mom would be PISSED if she found out before LO arrives.
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  • Mt2G1012Mt2G1012
    We are keeping the name a secret.  She has been named since 12 1/2 weeks after I got my CVS back and no one buy DH and I know the name still.  We were going to keep gender a secret and did from the CVS until week 20.  We just didn't want people questioning why we knew so early since only my mom knew why we were having the CVS done.  We were going to keep it a secret the whole time, but it got hard since we always referred to her as "she" and "her" and then have to backtrack on the words.  It just got too difficult trying to pretend I didn't know it was a girl.  The name has been easy though.
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  • OctGirl80OctGirl80 member

    We thought about it, but decided we'd tell since we want to know ourselves. LO hasn't cooperated in any u/s yet, so we'll see.

     

    You're going to get that advice anyway and without telling gender, you'll just end up getting it for both. I don't think anyone as found a way to avoid it yet. If they have, please share the secret!

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  • FlumbyFlumby

    imageheatherm818:
    We are keeping the name a secret.  She has been named since 12 1/2 weeks after I got my CVS back and no one buy DH and I know the name still.  We were going to keep gender a secret and did from the CVS until week 20.  We just didn't want people questioning why we knew so early since only my mom knew why we were having the CVS done.  We were going to keep it a secret the whole time, but it got hard since we always referred to her as "she" and "her" and then have to backtrack on the words.  It just got too difficult trying to pretend I didn't know it was a girl.  The name has been easy though.

    That is definitely the hardest part. Some days I just have to tell myself today we are going to say he and him. Although we got used to doing this before we knew the sex because we didn't know until 24 weeks.

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  • AllSmiles1210AllSmiles1210 member
    We're keeping the sex a secret for now. We are planning on revealing it at our shower. I've slipped to a couple people but I trust that they won't tell. We're thinking that if people don't know the sex then maybe we'll get more practical gifts at the shower over a million pink outfits.
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  • EstellankaseEstellankase member
    After 31 weeks of being team Green we were thinking about finding out the gender on Monday.  After our NP slipped a little bit we're almost positive LO is a boy.  We're not going to tell family though until after LO is born.  We don't want to hear any, "I told you so's"  About us not being able to hold out. lol
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  • EstellankaseEstellankase member

    imageFlumby:
    DH and I decided to keep our babies sex and name a secret. Both sets of grandparents thought it would be fun for them to be surprised, and I HATE HATE HATE gender specific things. Just because my baby is a girl doesn't mean her room has to look like a pink cotton candy machine exploded in it! Instead of telling people we are keeping the sex a secret we are telling everyone we are team green. One of my cousins and his FI know we are having a girl so we are hiding any girl stuff I have bought (which isnt much) at their house cause we are moving next week and my mom would be PISSED if she found out before LO arrives.

    I love that all of our NB and 0-3 in gender neutral.  To me there's something so baby and cute about all the yellow and green! 

     

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  • cari12cari12

    Nope, but I have a friend due any day now that is doing this and I'm so impressed they've kept it a secret all along. I'd slip up within an hour!

    That being said, I've known people who done it in the past as well and the whole "we don't want gender specific things" argument usually backfires. In their experiences, no one buys them anything until after the baby is born and then they get bombarded with pink or blue anyway :) Unless of course you tell people you don't want gender specific colors...

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  • spunkyprincessmandespunkyprincessmande member

    We kept it a secret until my shower two weeks ago.  Only grandparents knew (because they were throwing the shower).  Mostly we did it because we really wanted to know, but everyone kept telling us not to find out.  We figured we'd find out and just not tell anyone.  It was kind of fun keeping it a secret.  Some people really wanted to know and couldn't wait until the shower.

    At the shower before guests came into the room (it was at my parents' church) we had two guessing jars so people could guess if it was a boy or a girl.  I have two younger nieces and one dressed in pink while the other wore blue so that they could give people directions.  Once people walked into the room they were bombarded with blue and "It's a boy!' decorations.  The shower theme was "boy."  Everyone really loved it and said it was a good idea.  A lot of them even enjoyed trying to get us to tell.  We had only two slip-ups.  One was within a couple of days of finding out, some friends were trying to get us to tell and they asked me if I could feel the baby move yet.  I said "Oh yeah, he moves all the time!"  Oops!  The second was another friend referring to my baby as Micah in front of DH.  I didn't tell her, but she was just trying to get a reaction out of my H--it worked.  He looked at me and said, "You told her?!"  I had to tell him, "No, but you just did."  Other than that, we were really good about not telling anyone and always referring to him as "the baby" when around other people.


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  • jedrumwrightjedrumwright

    imagefmgrice:
    We're keeping the sex a secret for now. We are planning on revealing it at our shower. I've slipped to a couple people but I trust that they won't tell. We're thinking that if people don't know the sex then maybe we'll get more practical gifts at the shower over a million pink outfits.

    We're doing this as well. Our family is in Ar so we wanted to tell them something in person. Also, I don't want a sh!t ton of pink. 

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