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Attachment Parenting
BFab11
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Looks like bed sharing is coming to an end (long)
BFab11
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For bedtime I nurse DS and he falls asleep while we cuddle. Then I'd go out in the living room, watch a couple shows, bump, then go to bed. I noticed the other day that when I'd get into bed DS would stir and wake up enough to pee (not just notice he was wet; when he sleeps longer he doesn't pee for some reason), then get mad he was wet, then wake up enough during the diaper change to need to nurse back down.
So, the other day we cuddled until he fell asleep, and I did my normal nightly stuff in the other room. I decided to go sleep in the guest bedroom to start the night and see if he slept longer. Sure enough, he did!
Yesterday morning I cleared out our entire guest room, got all the boxes out, took apart the bed, moved the frame and box spring out, cleaned, vacuumed, put the mattress on the floor, moved his changing table from my room to his, took all the blankets off, and washed the sheets (put only the fitted sheet on the mattress). My plan was to put DS to sleep in there and bring him back to our bed when he woke.
He slept for 6 hours straight (the longest EVER), and I nursed him in his bed, and was going to bring him to ours when we were done. Well he finished nursing, turned his head away from me, and went back to sleep!! His diaper was dry, and he slept for another 3 hours. When he woke up again I changed him, brought him to my bed, nursed him, and he slept for another hour.
This is the best he's ever slept. I'm sad because I love bed sharing and the cuddles, but he sleeps better on his own. At least I still get to cuddle him to sleep, but he's growing up so fast! 
He's only 4 months old, why is so independent?!?!
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Re: Looks like bed sharing is coming to an end (long)
I love bed sharing to and feel your pain on the idea of giving up the cuddles, but it sounds like your LO is ready for it. Some people would say your lucky that your LO is so easy in regards to sleep and having such an easy transition.
I know that I'm lucky he's transitioning and doing it on his own and without tears, but I didn't think it would be this soon! I'm happy that he's doing well, just sad to see my little guy growing up so fast.
Around 5 months old we went through something similar and thought DD was ready for her own sleep space. I hadn't come across the floor bed concept at the time, so we transitioned her to her crib in her room. She rocked it the first week, struggled another half week, then we brought her back to our bed until her first birthday.. which I was thrilled about! I was so happy to have our cuddles back! This could very well just be a phase, so don't get too broken up about it yet. And if it doesn't turn out to be a phase, be proud of your brave sweet boy, and take advantage of having your bed back to you and DH.
Good luck with whatever plays out from here. And know you aren't alone in being sad over what seems like the end of sleep-sharing.
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I feel your pain. We start DS out in his crib, then stay up for a few hours. He used to wake up right around the time we went to bed, so I would bring him in bed with me and sleep with him all night. Then he started sleeping longer and longer stretches. Now he sleeps in his crib until around 4am. The other day he slept until 5am. :-(
Last night, I was so happy because he woke up around 1am. I must be the only mother on earth who doesn't want her baby to sleep through the night. :-)
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