i gotta put this out there....

kpadilla80 · September 2010

vagina... after baby... throwin a hot dog down a hallway???

ok that may be too graphic for some, but i gotta hear it ladies, i'm hella freaked out by this... i know what all the damn books say "oh your body is designed for this... you will be back to normal after some time... do your kegels!" ahhhhhhhhhhhh shut the freak up!

whats the real deal?

is my little lady gonna be the same!?!?!?!?! honestly, i reeeeeally like my hoo hah and i aint too pleased that it may not be the same sexual being afterwards.

i'm reeeally looking forward to getting back to my sex life after baby, and honestly, i'm pretty freaked that everything will change... i also dont wanna look down there afterwards and see a set of (well, i'll keep the graphic negative comments about scary lookin va jays to myself)

any other 1st timers freaked out about this????

any second or third timers out there that can reassure me hot amazing sex goes on??? lol

i can't stop reminiscing about how sex used to be!!! HELP!!!!!!!

mom2amelia · September 2010

I had the same fears as you before having my DD, but I can assure you that everything went right back to the way it was before and hot and steamy sex returned to my life!!

danienross · September 2010

honestly, i am a first timer but i am kind of hoping it doesn't go completely back to normal. i, however, am an exception i'm sure. i have a medical condition that causes my vaginal muscles and nerves to overreact to penetration making things very painful. i'm hoping that childbirth will convince my body that sex is no big deal and i hope things aren't quite so tight. i don't want my lady parts all jacked up but a small change might be a good thing for me.

scoutkate · September 2010

Wow. Lots of punctuation in your post.

"Hotdog down a hallway" is bunk. Our first time postpartum felt like losing my virginity again.

kpadilla80 · September 2010

danienross:
honestly, i am a first timer but i am kind of hoping it doesn't go completely back to normal. i, however, am an exception i'm sure. i have a medical condition that causes my vaginal muscles and nerves to overreact to penetration making things very painful. i'm hoping that childbirth will convince my body that sex is no big deal and i hope things aren't quite so tight. i don't want my lady parts all jacked up but a small change might be a good thing for me.

oh my, well i hope some good changes for you then

designermusings · September 2010

Sorry to burst your bubble. My husband was previously married and has kids from that marriage. Before we ever dreamt of going serious or getting married he 'fessed up:

Even though he told his then wife that it was just fine, it was NOT the same. It can improve a little overtime, but he compared it to stretched sleeves on a sweater.

I never forgot. I do my kegels and hope for the best.

J+MS · September 2010

scoutkate:
Wow. Lots of punctuation in your post.

"Hotdog down a hallway" is bunk. Our first time postpartum felt like losing my virginity again.

Was it painful? That's what I'm worried about.

kpadilla80 · September 2010

scoutkate:

Wow. Lots of punctuation in your post.

"Hotdog down a hallway" is bunk. Our first time postpartum felt like losing my virginity again.

lol, yeah sorry, didnt know how else to put it out there in a "PC" manner lol, ok good, i have only 2 friends that have babies and they are not very detailed about sex like that.... more resereved

PS... i am a severe abuser of punctuation!

Mrslove78 · September 2010

Well, you have to wait for everything to go back. Even the stretch marks eventually fade so much that you hardly see them anymore. But, as far as the VJ, mine went back.

frschaffner · September 2010

scoutkate:

"Hotdog down a hallway" is bunk. Our first time postpartum felt like losing my virginity again.

This. 5 months later, if we don't have sex at least every other day, it still feels that way. For me, it's a lot tighter inside now. TMI - I do *** a lot more now...it just makes me laugh though cuz it tickles.

kpadilla80 · September 2010

J+MS:
scoutkate:

Wow. Lots of punctuation in your post.

"Hotdog down a hallway" is bunk. Our first time postpartum felt like losing my virginity again.

Was it painful? That's what I'm worried about.

good lord i hope not painful!?

maybe just like havent done it in forever, and then gets better??

kpadilla80 · September 2010

designermusings:

Sorry to burst your bubble. My husband was previously married and has kids from that marriage. Before we ever dreamt of going serious or getting married he 'fessed up:

Even though he told his then wife that it was just fine, it was NOT the same. It can improve a little overtime, but he compared it to stretched sleeves on a sweater.

I never forgot. I do my kegels and hope for the best.

jaw drop

kg_08 · September 2010

Sex has changed for me.... for the better!

We got cleared for sex at 3 weeks, and it took like 10 minutes for him to get in because it was kinda hurting.. but that's because it was actually tight!

Since then, we've had sex a ton and it's actually way better now than it ever was before the baby.

kpadilla80 · September 2010

frschaffner:
scoutkate:

"Hotdog down a hallway" is bunk. Our first time postpartum felt like losing my virginity again.

This. 5 months later, if we don't have sex at least every other day, it still feels that way. For me, it's a lot tighter inside now. TMI - I do *** a lot more now...it just makes me laugh though cuz it tickles.

Yes

kpadilla80 · September 2010

sweeeeeeet... i am mostly feeling better i started to cry last night cause DH and I were like remember that one time when, and this time that we, etc... and i'm like are we ever gonna be that hot again!?!

thanks ladies

OctoberBabyH · September 2010

kpadilla80:
designermusings:

Sorry to burst your bubble. My husband was previously married and has kids from that marriage. Before we ever dreamt of going serious or getting married he 'fessed up:

Even though he told his then wife that it was just fine, it was NOT the same. It can improve a little overtime, but he compared it to stretched sleeves on a sweater.

I never forgot. I do my kegels and hope for the best.

jaw drop

W T F

Like in Borat when he says "Hangs like sleeve of wizard" That is the second time in 2 days on here that phrase came to mind when someone brought up a DH comment regarding PP vagina. Wow, just WOW!

scoutkate · September 2010

J+MS:
scoutkate:

Wow. Lots of punctuation in your post.

"Hotdog down a hallway" is bunk. Our first time postpartum felt like losing my virginity again.

Was it painful? That's what I'm worried about.

It was for me, obviously it won't be for everyone. We were cleared at six weeks but it was too painful then. We tried multiple times but had to stop because it hurt so bad. I don't think we managed it until eight weeks pp. And at 16 weeks pp he still has to be really gentle with me. My episiotomy is still really tender.

J+MS · September 2010

designermusings:
Sorry to burst your bubble. My husband was previously married and has kids from that marriage. Before we ever dreamt of going serious or getting married he 'fessed up:
Even though he told his then wife that it was just fine, it was NOT the same. It can improve a little overtime, but he compared it to stretched sleeves on a sweater.
I never forgot. I do my kegels and hope for the best.

Hmm

monkiem · September 2010

OP, why are you so worried about what your VAGINA looks like post-pregnancy? Why are you so concerned with what your sex life will be after baby arrives? Do you make money based on those two things?

Indifferent

discobush · September 2010

monkiem:
OP, why are you so worried about what your VAGINA looks like post-pregnancy? Why are you so concerned with what your sex life will be after baby arrives? Do you make money based on those two things?

Eh, I've never made a dime off mine and I definitely care (and worry). Thanks for posting this, OP!

CamrynnsMommy · September 2010

It all goes back to normal, your hoo hah that is! I cannot promise that hot, amazing sex will though! Listen to me when I tell you, do not look afterwards, you will never be the same!

*KC*luvs*RJ* · September 2010

The first time we had sex after DS was born, DH was amazing at how tight I was and loved it. She'll go back to normal. :-)

Erina1004 · September 2010

scoutkate:
Wow. Lots of punctuation in your post.

"Hotdog down a hallway" is bunk. Our first time postpartum felt like losing my virginity again.

THIS!

kg_08 · September 2010

monkiem:

OP, why are you so worried about what your VAGINA looks like post-pregnancy? Why are you so concerned with what your sex life will be after baby arrives? Do you make money based on those two things?

WTH Indifferent IMO it's weird if someone DOESN'T think about those things... some people just enjoy sex with their husbands....

Marinewife81 · September 2010

kg_08:
monkiem:

OP, why are you so worried about what your VAGINA looks like post-pregnancy? Why are you so concerned with what your sex life will be after baby arrives? Do you make money based on those two things?

WTH IMO it's weird if someone DOESN'T think about those things... some people just enjoy sex with their husbands....

This. MH and I were once-or twice-a-dayers before we got pg. We miss being with each other sexually. It's even hard to snuggle because of the belly and my not being able to get comfortable. We're both looking forward to resuming our normal healthy sex life again.

Kitiara5512 · September 2010

May take from 6 weeks to a full year, and every person is different, so it may not go back down to 100% prepreg tightness even after that time. However, that does not mean that you and YH/SO wont continue to enjoy sex.

designermusings · September 2010

OctoberBabyH:
kpadilla80:
designermusings:

Sorry to burst your bubble. My husband was previously married and has kids from that marriage. Before we ever dreamt of going serious or getting married he 'fessed up:

Even though he told his then wife that it was just fine, it was NOT the same. It can improve a little overtime, but he compared it to stretched sleeves on a sweater.

I never forgot. I do my kegels and hope for the best.

jaw drop

W T F
Like in Borat when he says "Hangs like sleeve of wizard" That is the second time in 2 days on here that phrase came to mind when someone brought up a DH comment regarding PP vagina. Wow, just WOW!

He is home today on furlough and I'm upstairs working. I reminded him he had said that years ago...and he said he has "high hopes" for us. No pressure there. Now I'm crying.

afiyfah · September 2010

I didn't have any problems, and kegals do help.

cndmexbaby · September 2010

monkiem:
OP, why are you so worried about what your VAGINA looks like post-pregnancy? Why are you so concerned with what your sex life will be after baby arrives? Do you make money based on those two things?

Seriously? This post is ridiculous.

mommy2bee109 · September 2010

designermusings:
OctoberBabyH:
kpadilla80:
designermusings:

Sorry to burst your bubble. My husband was previously married and has kids from that marriage. Before we ever dreamt of going serious or getting married he 'fessed up:
Even though he told his then wife that it was just fine, it was NOT the same. It can improve a little overtime, but he compared it to stretched sleeves on a sweater.
I never forgot. I do my kegels and hope for the best.
jaw drop

W T F
Like in Borat when he says "Hangs like sleeve of wizard" That is the second time in 2 days on here that phrase came to mind when someone brought up a DH comment regarding PP vagina. Wow, just WOW!

He is home today on furlough and I'm upstairs working. I reminded him he had said that years ago...and he said he has "high hopes" for us. No pressure there. Now I'm crying.

Your H is a douche.

cari12 · September 2010

Maybe if you're Michelle Duggar...

DH has assured me that nothing has changed down there ;-)

mrsjenni · September 2010

Lurking b/c I'm bored...

So, after having TWO kids now, I can honestly say that everything goes back to normal. I've had two 9+ pound babies and DH claims that I'm exactly the same as I was before.

And, I should just mention, sex is WAY better now since I've had two kids. Way better.

kpadilla80 · September 2010

monkiem:

OP, why are you so worried about what your VAGINA looks like post-pregnancy? Why are you so concerned with what your sex life will be after baby arrives? Do you make money based on those two things?

because it was a verrrry nice plus for mine and DH's relationship before pregnancy... and during, ehhhh not so much.... hoenstly i dont wanna be that couple that lets the baby take all the romance/passion/etc out of what we have.... i think its mainly cuz i was reading all about the tearing and what you should do and blah blah, then asked my friends and they freaked me out...

make money off it.... hmmm, its a thought.... Hmm

kpadilla80 · September 2010

cari12:

Maybe if you're Michelle Duggar...

DH has assured me that nothing has changed down there ;-)

LMAO... oh trueeeeeeeeeee ew mental pic

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