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i'm worried. (long vent)
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i went to the doctor yesterday and i'm a little bit worried. i'm feeling a bit depressed and i feel like a failure at pregnancy.
first - i was told 2 weeks ago by the specialist who did the growth u/s that baby was measuring quite large (5 lbs 2 oz at 30 weeks). he seemed concerned by it, especially because i am (or was pre-pregnancy) pretty petite.
so i went to my regular doctor yesterday. the guy is usually a total jokester. well i have never seen him that serious ever! first they re-tested me for GD, since that could be the cause of the baby being so big, and the specialist felt i was tested too early the first time. then he discussed my weight. he said he is not usually a stickler for weight but that mine could be an issue for me. (i'm 5'1, was 128 pre-pregnancy, which was a little heavy for me, and i have gained 38 lbs so far - im 32 weeks 5 days.) he started saying that if i gain too much weight it can effect the baby and also the delivery and i won't be able to handle the delivery, especially if she is as big as she measures (also by belly measurements i am 2 weeks ahead). he said that i could end up needing a c-section and then started telling me all of the complications that can come along with c-sections and there were things i had never heard of or even considered and it really made me nervous.
also, my blood pressure is high. he actually didnt mention that, but the nurse did. it has been 140/80 for my last two visits (which were 4 weeks apart). pre-pregnancy i was typicallly 110/70. i know that high blood pressure can lead to preeclampsia so that has me nervous as well.
i feel like all of these things are things that i could have easily controlled - my weight, my blood pressure - with a healthier diet and then i wouldnt be more at risk for these issues. i feel like i've put my baby in danger by being too careless and now im feeling horrible.
i know that i just need to eat healthier now and watch my weight gain amd stay away from salt and high sodium foods. but i'm just so nervous now.
any advice or thoughts are greatly appreciated.
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Re: i'm worried. (long vent)
Coulda, woulda, shoulda....you can't go back in time, so don't beat yourself up.
Just make sure you're doing things now to keep your babe healthy. I'm sure everything will turn out fine.
Please know that having a high blood pressure does not LEAD to preeclampsia. It is a symptom of preeclampsia. It can also mean you just have high blood pressure.
Watching your blood pressure is smart - but know that NOTHING you do can cause pre-eclampsia.
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I think you are putting yourself in a really tough place. Yes, at 5'1", you are tiny. You realize that you are putting yourself in physical danger by treating your body the way you have. That's the first step.
I'm not going to say "poor you, etc.".
You're an adult. There are things you change about your lifestyle that will ultimately lead to a better, healthier and happier you. Hopefully, you will raise your children to make good choices about this, as well.
If you can, please start taking steps to make yourself a little healthier every day that goes by. A few hints: chopped carrots and celery kept in cold water in the fridge. Cut apples up, and squeeze lime juice on them to keep them from going brown. Drink LOTS of milk. It's good for you, LO, and it will also help your metabolism.
I would trust the doctors. If both of them are worried, I would try to schedule an appointment with both of them, to discuss what your options are. Also, see if they recommend a therapist - just someone unbiased to talk to about your feelings. It really helps.
Try not to worry, though. What's done is done. The bright side is you're receiving good prenatal care, and your LO will be taken care of.
Focus on the NOW and in the FUTURE...this will help, I think.
thank you for the good advice.
and dont worry - i definitely wasn't looking for a "poor you". im fully aware of what ive done.
i just want to add - i havent been eating "horrible". i didnt want it to seem like i have been sitting around eating chips and cookies and nothing else. my meals for the most part are healthy. i think i was eating too much and then on top of that "indulging" in unhealthy things a little too often. and i was going to the gym and walking up until a couple weeks ago when i pulled a muscle in my back/ribs - which is still causing me pain. anyway, im not getting defensive - youre advice was fantastic - i just realize that perhaps i gave the wrong impression. i was not being totally "abusive" to my body - i just wasnt being that healthy.... if that makes sense.