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BrandiFergusonBrandiFerguson
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So my 'bestie' and I are supposed to go into town next weekend and do last minute baby shopping and pick up some things for her son's bday party.  She has this annoying bum of a boyfriend that is ALWAYS around bc he has no job or $ or car.  She has put in that he may go.  My DH is NOT going bc it is supposed to be a girl's day!!! If this bum goes then I am not going.  She says I am being really mean and should think how I would feel if she said this about my DH.  First of all, my DH has a J O B and his own vehicle and we can be apart for a while and not be accusing each other of cheating.  lol I just don't like this immature 30ish year old man that is bleeding my friend dry finacially.  Not to mention she has two kids of her own and is constantly putting them aside to do the things that this man wants to do on her dime, gas, and vehicle.  I can't stand it...am I being unreasonable to not want to see his face daily?!?
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  • PunkyBoosterPunkyBooster member

    I have a friend like this. The best thing I found that works is, "I would love to just have one on one time with you on Saturday."

    Sometimes she gets REALLY mad about that though. most of the time she is respectful of my wish. 

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  • Mrslove78Mrslove78 member
    We have the same friends.  I DON'T understand the attraction to this type of guy!!!  I've seen it many times.  Depending on how much $$$ she has, and how much credit she has, it won't be that much longer before he's run his cycle and moves on to the next girl to dry up, or she can't afford him anymore.  I wouldn't go either.  I'd rather go alone than with her and her leach BF.
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  • Kitiara5512Kitiara5512 member

    Ugh, This is the same friend you were talking about the other day? How rude. No new mama wants to go baby stuff shopping with her friends boy toy... this is a girlie activity. Sounds like time to drop the friend or at least let her know (although you probably have already) that you like spending time with her and miss your time together for just the two of you and maybe he could go have a guys day out with his friends that day. If she cant agree to that, go shopping without her or with some other friends. Girl time doesnt have anything to do with whether or not he has a job or his own car or not, it has to do with wanting to spend time with your friend, not being the third wheel while she hangs out with her boytoy.

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  • OctGirl80OctGirl80 member
    I totally agree with you. I would tell her you were really looking forward to a girls only day and if he's goes, it's not going to be the same so you'd rather not. Besides, IMO, most guys have no interest in baby stuff, especially if it's not their LO. I imagine this guy is hardly going to follow you around quietly and patiently while you look at baby clothes. I picture whining and bitching, which will just ruin the entire trip for you.
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  • Hawt83Hawt83
    I love my best friend, but i CANT stand her bf...he is SUCH a prick...I always make a point of plannng stuff when I know he is at work.  I am lucky to have her in my life that I am not willing to give up my best friend just because I really dislike her BF.   Also, dont be shy about saying " GIRLS ONLY" to your friend, no one wants the tag-along-slacker-bf tagging along!
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  • BrandiFergusonBrandiFerguson
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    Ugh, This is the same friend you were talking about the other day? How rude. No new mama wants to go baby stuff shopping with her friends boy toy... this is a girlie activity. Sounds like time to drop the friend or at least let her know (although you probably have already) that you like spending time with her and miss your time together for just the two of you and maybe he could go have a guys day out with his friends that day. If she cant agree to that, go shopping without her or with some other friends. Girl time doesnt have anything to do with whether or not he has a job or his own car or not, it has to do with wanting to spend time with your friend, not being the third wheel while she hangs out with her boytoy.

    this one doesn't like me being around her without him to 'defend' himself against my evil plot to destroy him!! lol what a looser! and yes same chick..different day.

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  • BrandiFergusonBrandiFerguson
    imageKitiara0364:

    Ugh, This is the same friend you were talking about the other day? How rude. No new mama wants to go baby stuff shopping with her friends boy toy... this is a girlie activity. Sounds like time to drop the friend or at least let her know (although you probably have already) that you like spending time with her and miss your time together for just the two of you and maybe he could go have a guys day out with his friends that day. If she cant agree to that, go shopping without her or with some other friends. Girl time doesnt have anything to do with whether or not he has a job or his own car or not, it has to do with wanting to spend time with your friend, not being the third wheel while she hangs out with her boytoy.

    this one doesn't like me being around her without him to 'defend' himself against my evil plot to destroy him!! lol what a loser! and yes same chick..different day.

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  • lesleslielesleslie
    If he insists on going I would honestly cancel and go on my own. Hopefully she'll soon get the hint that you're not going to put up with him crashing every one on one outing you've planned with her.
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