A question for the "regulars"

[Deleted User] · September 2010

So I SWEAR I'm not trying to just stir the sh!t here. I am wondering, however, what your expectations (which might be the wrong word) of the tri boards are? I mean, they include a 3 month span of pregnant women and you would expect that there would be questions that range from just entering the 3rd to OMG I've had my baby! I guess that I am surprised that some of you are seemingly wanting things to stay centered (again, probably NOT the right word) around where you are in your pregnancy.

Why not use your month board, where people are in basically the same boat? Or are at least closer to the topics you want to talk about?

I am just kind of wondering what the thoughts are & understand why all the frustrations of people posting in week 27 with all their questions that you are all done with answering/reading etc. I mean, of course newer people will look to people with the answers or experience for help.

I am IN NO WAY telling anyone what/where/how to post. At. ALL! Just curious and/or nosy.

Thanks to anyone that reads/responds. Smile

J+MS · September 2010

I'm 38 weeks, I've been answering your MP, PTL, BH, BS questions for 10 weeks, yes I am sick of it. lol

Mrs.Johns · September 2010

I didn't think anyone expects things to stay centered around where they are in their pregnancy. It's more about that there are friends who have moved to 0-3 that are missed and some new people coming over from 2nd tri.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

J+MS:
I'm 38 weeks, I've been answering your MP, PTL, BH, BS questions for 10 weeks, yes I am sick of it. lol

LOL I haven't even asked a MP question yet!

J+MS · September 2010

kgorman:
J+MS:
I'm 38 weeks, I've been answering your MP, PTL, BH, BS questions for 10 weeks, yes I am sick of it. lol
LOL I haven't even asked a MP question yet!

It was a general "your" but give it time.

chach916 · September 2010

I'm by no means a regular, but I think the annoyance is not one question itself, but the fact their there are 10 BH questions in a row that basically say the exact same thing. If you just scrolled down (or googled), you'd find your answer.

Maybe I'm wrong?

aforst · September 2010

IDK, I just ignore the posts I don't want to answer.

MJHershey · September 2010

I think its natural to get tired of the same questions.. I felt the same at the end of 1T and 2T... I did not get angry at any of the new posters, they have a right to ask just like we did back then...

But it doesn't mean we can't be tired of it. Part of the process.

I think it would all be easier if we had a board that had a useful search feature or we could make things 'sticky' with common FAQs of the Trimester. (Hint, Bump gods!)

uluvfranke · September 2010

I think its moreless when you scroll down and see someone has posted the same question 8xs in two days it becomes annoying. And questions like " I think I am gonna die what should I do?", these questions that you know you should call you dr shouldnt be posted. If you have a question or just want to post, just check some other posts before asking if you want to avoid the flame. If not, then cross your fingers

[Deleted User] · September 2010

Mrs.Johns:
I didn't think anyone expects things to stay centered around where they are in their pregnancy. It's more about that there are friends who have moved to 0-3 that are missed and some new people coming over from 2nd tri.

I get that. And I admit that "centered" wasn't the best word. I guess I just wonder why the posts about being tired of the same questions that you would probably expect from people entering their 3rd trimester.

~Flossie~ · September 2010

I don't mind reading and responding to posts that are for the entire 3rd tri (from beginning of 3rd tri to birth like what OP's is talking about), but I have noticed in the last maybe week or so that there does seem to be a thing going around where being snarky is the "in thing" around here. It is getting a little old in my books.

CinemaGoddess · September 2010

chach916:

I'm by no means a regular, but I think the annoyance is not one question itself, but the fact their there are 10 BH questions in a row that basically say the exact same thing. If you just scrolled down (or googled), you'd find your answer.

Maybe I'm wrong?

This is what it is for me. TB has a shiitastic search function, but by just scrolling down or going back a page, a lot of questions are answered already.

wife1014 · September 2010

You'll understand in 10 weeks...

I personally don't mind answering the questions. What really annoys me are the stupid questions which only require a little google search or the OMG I think I'm having pre-term labor, should I call the Dr? A lot of us have been together for months so we know the dynamics of these tri boards and have made them fit our needs...which is just a little bit of support and a lot of entertainment. The months boards aren't suited for many of us. Make sense?

MJHershey · September 2010

uluvfranke:
I think its moreless when you scroll down and see someone has posted the same question 8xs in two days it becomes annoying. And questions like " I think I am gonna die what should I do?", these questions that you know you should call you dr shouldnt be posted. If you have a question or just want to post, just check some other posts before asking if you want to avoid the flame. If not, then cross your fingers

This.

Again, useful search feature, Bump. Look into it.

bisabelm · September 2010

I am not that far along nor am I one of the "regulars" you speak of but I think a big issue might be the repetitiveness of questions that can easily be googled or searched for if you just go back a few pages. Obviously not everyone is going to look back at past questions and sometimes google sucks but I think there is a certain way to ask a questions without it being the same thing over and over again. Of course as some ladies get closer to their due date they've seen these questions for 3 months and after a certain point it becomes annoying. Same thing happens in the other tri boards and I think it just makes people ready to move on.

J+MS · September 2010

cinema_goddess:
chach916:

I'm by no means a regular, but I think the annoyance is not one question itself, but the fact their there are 10 BH questions in a row that basically say the exact same thing. If you just scrolled down (or googled), you'd find your answer.

Maybe I'm wrong?

This is what it is for me. TB has a shiitastic search function, but by just scrolling down or going back a page, a lot of questions are answered already.

This. Less asking of the same questions 10 times a day = room for more fun posts for all of us.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

uluvfranke:
I think its moreless when you scroll down and see someone has posted the same question 8xs in two days it becomes annoying. And questions like " I think I am gonna die what should I do?", these questions that you know you should call you dr shouldnt be posted. If you have a question or just want to post, just check some other posts before asking if you want to avoid the flame. If not, then cross your fingers

Well, yeah. I do try to see what's happened for at least 2 pages before I ask another question, but sometimes miss that something has been asked. A good search function would definitely help!

And I agree on any forum that people looking for the advice of a doctor without actually calling is stupid, and totally understand the flames on that!!

LILBIT1221 · September 2010

I dont think (at least not for me) that it has anything to do with the questions that get asked. Its more just the whole... hmmm... aura of the board I think. Everything has just kind of changed. Maybe its that some of the Older Regulars have moved over to 0-3 or maybe its just that we are all just so "over it" that we are losing our minds...but it HAS changed...and Im not sure its changed for the good...that was all I was saying.

LadyDelilah · September 2010

I answer what I want to answer and I usually read everything. Im usually nice/helpful about whatever it is unless some one is redic or rude about it. Then I feel it free to get snarky...

Hyfagal · September 2010

J+MS:
I'm 38 weeks, I've been answering your MP, PTL, BH, BS questions for 10 weeks, yes I am sick of it. lol

I'm a reg over on 2nd tri, so over there, I expect everyone to have spent the same amount of time I have and to have seen all those questions over and over again, like I have. Or at the very least scan the first page of posts for their question.

And "s/o morning sickness ending" ::open post:: "when did it end for you?" If you see that there is a m/s post already maybe you should open that one and read it instead of adding your own because you are also curious. You can substitute m/s with MP, contractions, etc.

~Flossie~ · September 2010

LILBIT1221:
I dont think (at least not for me) that it has anything to do with the questions that get asked. Its more just the whole... hmmm... aura of the board I think. Everything has just kind of changed. Maybe its that some of the Older Regulars have moved over to 0-3 or maybe its just that we are all just so "over it" that we are losing our minds...but it HAS changed...and Im not sure its changed for the good...that was all I was saying.

I completely agree.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

LILBIT1221:
I dont think (at least not for me) that it has anything to do with the questions that get asked. Its more just the whole... hmmm... aura of the board I think. Everything has just kind of changed. Maybe its that some of the Older Regulars have moved over to 0-3 or maybe its just that we are all just so "over it" that we are losing our minds...but it HAS changed...and Im not sure its changed for the good...that was all I was saying.

Oh, I didn't mean to pick on ANYONE!! I was just being curious. And having your support structure completely morph is a little unsettling. OK, probably a lot.

bisabelm · September 2010

Hyfagal:

J+MS:
I'm 38 weeks, I've been answering your MP, PTL, BH, BS questions for 10 weeks, yes I am sick of it. lol
I'm a reg over on 2nd tri, so over there, I expect everyone to have spent the same amount of time I have and to have seen all those questions over and over again, like I have. Or at the very least scan the first page of posts for their question.
And "s/o morning sickness ending" ::open post:: "when did it end for you?" If you see that there is a m/s post already maybe you should open that one and read it instead of adding your own because you are also curious. You can substitute m/s with MP, contractions, etc.

I am ready for you to migrate over already. I was also sick of the "when did you feel baby move" posts.

J+MS · September 2010

LILBIT1221:
I dont think (at least not for me) that it has anything to do with the questions that get asked. Its more just the whole... hmmm... aura of the board I think. Everything has just kind of changed. Maybe its that some of the Older Regulars have moved over to 0-3 or maybe its just that we are all just so "over it" that we are losing our minds...but it HAS changed...and Im not sure its changed for the good...that was all I was saying.

The only thing giving off an "aura" is that creepy ying/yang profile pic you have with the sperm in it. Devil bahaha

lilmgirl · September 2010

LILBIT1221:
I dont think (at least not for me) that it has anything to do with the questions that get asked. Its more just the whole... hmmm... aura of the board I think. Everything has just kind of changed. Maybe its that some of the Older Regulars have moved over to 0-3 or maybe its just that we are all just so "over it" that we are losing our minds...but it HAS changed...and Im not sure its changed for the good...that was all I was saying.

Ditto this and Mrs.Johns. It's not so much the actual pregnancy related posts, but just who was all here hanging around.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

wife1014:
You'll understand in 10 weeks...

I personally don't mind answering the questions. What really annoys me are the stupid questions which only require a little google search or the OMG I think I'm having pre-term labor, should I call the Dr? A lot of us have been together for months so we know the dynamics of these tri boards and have made them fit our needs...which is just a little bit of support and a lot of entertainment. The months boards aren't suited for many of us. Make sense?

Haha! Come back in 10 weeks & see my posts then! Wink

As far as the month boards go, my month board (mostly) is that combo of little bit support & entertainment. Although, I've very briefly lurked on some of the other month boards & some are better than others for sure.

MSC03 · September 2010

8 BH contraction posts in a row=annoying

6 "I'm breech at 20-some weeks!" posts in a row=annoying

9 MP posts in a row=annoying

It's not about where people are in their trimester, it's if the topic has been already covered in oh--that last 10-20 minutes or so.

And for the record, AW'ing your lack of weight gain so that everyone tells you how great you look is always annoying.

Kellina · September 2010

I think every board has this problem, yes? I know I ignore about half of what's posted on 12-24... It's all about switching to whole milk and why isn't my kid walking??? UGH

monkiem · September 2010

It's not just the questions - or the frequency with which they are being asked - it's the sheer stupidity of some of them.

Most of us have kind of banded together, to form a sort of 'unique' friendship that will hopefully last.

Also, most of us have enough common sense to do our own research before we ask repetitious questions, or questions that may very well could get us flamed. We will call our doctors before we post a question asking if we are experiencing PTL or whatever.

There are times, however, where stupidity REALLY comes out of the woodwork, and there will be oodles of snark. Most of us (or at least I) will respond to said stupidity with the same attitude as we would in real life to our real life friends.

It's not that we don't 'accept' new posters - if only they would learn to lurk a bit before posting, and also LOOK for themselves for any information before asking. I don't think I've ever asked anything medical-related to this pregnancy because for this, I have my doctor and an entire OB practice to phone should I have questions...this is what I pay them for.

These boards are really for entertainment purposes, as well as just to keep me company, as I don't work, and there's only so much cleaning, laundry and cooking I can do. I take most things I read on ANY board with a grain of salt, and do my own research. It's not the end-all-be-all.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

~Flossie~:
I don't mind reading and responding to posts that are for the entire 3rd tri (from beginning of 3rd tri to birth like what OP's is talking about), but I have noticed in the last maybe week or so that there does seem to be a thing going around where being snarky is the "in thing" around here. It is getting a little old in my books.

Yeah, the being snarky for the sake of being snarky is getting old. Although I've been on the receiving end of it a time or 2 & it was a little deserved, and I did try to make the best of it. When I've been the one that was a ding-bat in the first place, I do try to own that. I have seen some just b!tching at people though, and I try to walk away from & just plain 'ol stay out of that.

I do agree with some of the other posters that sometimes people really DO have it coming though. It's a tough balance.

OliveBaby · September 2010

I am baffled on a daily basis by the number of women (on all the tri boards) who post asking for advice/help from random internet strangers. It's one thing to ask for recommendations on say, maternity jeans, and a whole other thing to want to know if what they are feeling is pre-term labor.

bisabelm · September 2010

monkiem:

It's not just the questions - or the frequency with which they are being asked - it's the sheer stupidity of some of them.

Most of us have kind of banded together, to form a sort of 'unique' friendship that will hopefully last.

Also, most of us have enough common sense to do our own research before we ask repetitious questions, or questions that may very well could get us flamed. We will call our doctors before we post a question asking if we are experiencing PTL or whatever.

There are times, however, where stupidity REALLY comes out of the woodwork, and there will be oodles of snark. Most of us (or at least I) will respond to said stupidity with the same attitude as we would in real life to our real life friends.

It's not that we don't 'accept' new posters - if only they would learn to lurk a bit before posting, and also LOOK for themselves for any information before asking. I don't think I've ever asked anything medical-related to this pregnancy because for this, I have my doctor and an entire OB practice to phone should I have questions...this is what I pay them for.

These boards are really for entertainment purposes, as well as just to keep me company, as I don't work, and there's only so much cleaning, laundry and cooking I can do. I take most things I read on ANY board with a grain of salt, and do my own research. It's not the end-all-be-all.

I have to agree 100% with this even though I am just starting in 3rd tri. I personally ignore 99% of the medical questions because, like you said, thats what OB's, books, and google are there for. I prefer to read posts from people I recognize and posts that have more to do with whats going on in our normal lives/funny vents/comical observations..things like that.

LILBIT1221 · September 2010

kgorman:

LILBIT1221:
I dont think (at least not for me) that it has anything to do with the questions that get asked. Its more just the whole... hmmm... aura of the board I think. Everything has just kind of changed. Maybe its that some of the Older Regulars have moved over to 0-3 or maybe its just that we are all just so "over it" that we are losing our minds...but it HAS changed...and Im not sure its changed for the good...that was all I was saying.
Oh, I didn't mean to pick on ANYONE!! I was just being curious. And having your support structure completely morph is a little unsettling. OK, probably a lot.

Oh I didnt take it that way.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

LILBIT1221:
kgorman:

LILBIT1221:
I dont think (at least not for me) that it has anything to do with the questions that get asked. Its more just the whole... hmmm... aura of the board I think. Everything has just kind of changed. Maybe its that some of the Older Regulars have moved over to 0-3 or maybe its just that we are all just so "over it" that we are losing our minds...but it HAS changed...and Im not sure its changed for the good...that was all I was saying.
Oh, I didn't mean to pick on ANYONE!! I was just being curious. And having your support structure completely morph is a little unsettling. OK, probably a lot.

Oh I didnt take it that way.

OK good!

[Deleted User] · September 2010

bisabelm:
monkiem:

It's not just the questions - or the frequency with which they are being asked - it's the sheer stupidity of some of them.

Most of us have kind of banded together, to form a sort of 'unique' friendship that will hopefully last.

Also, most of us have enough common sense to do our own research before we ask repetitious questions, or questions that may very well could get us flamed. We will call our doctors before we post a question asking if we are experiencing PTL or whatever.

There are times, however, where stupidity REALLY comes out of the woodwork, and there will be oodles of snark. Most of us (or at least I) will respond to said stupidity with the same attitude as we would in real life to our real life friends.

It's not that we don't 'accept' new posters - if only they would learn to lurk a bit before posting, and also LOOK for themselves for any information before asking. I don't think I've ever asked anything medical-related to this pregnancy because for this, I have my doctor and an entire OB practice to phone should I have questions...this is what I pay them for.

These boards are really for entertainment purposes, as well as just to keep me company, as I don't work, and there's only so much cleaning, laundry and cooking I can do. I take most things I read on ANY board with a grain of salt, and do my own research. It's not the end-all-be-all.

I have to agree 100% with this even though I am just starting in 3rd tri. I personally ignore 99% of the medical questions because, like you said, thats what OB's, books, and google are there for. I prefer to read posts from people I recognize and posts that have more to do with whats going on in our normal lives/funny vents/comical observations..things like that.

Yeah, I hear you on that. I sometimes wonder if some people have even read a book on pregnancy with some of the questions.

And I am one of those that doesn't have a lot of questions when I go in for my appointments, but when I have many, I'll be damned if they aren't going to stay until I have all my answers.

Kitiara5512 · September 2010

For me its nice to have posters that either are going through something I will be soon (in a few weeks) or will get to where I am shortly. I tried the month boards and it was okay, but seemed that there everyone was more fixated on having the same stuff going on more, and since I am due the first weekend of Oct, I felt it was more beneficial to me to be around people due in Sept. I think this board also goes off the whole pg topic more often, so while I get all the pg and LO related info I want, there are non related discussions that let me feel more a part of a community than just talking about babies and being pregnant all the f-ing time. I have become so used to a lot of people here, and since I mostly bump from work, by the time we run out of topics or discussions here, its almost time to go home anyway, so it doesnt make sense for me to be on multiple boards.

CherryStarburst · September 2010

heckysue:

I think there are 2 different things going on...one is like LILBIT said. It's just different, not the same people or vibe. I attribute part of that to people moving on or just going on early mat leave/bedrest where they're not logged in at work all day. THAT is more of just an observation that the core group has evolved...but that happened to an extent on 1st and 2nd too. I think it's why a lot of us were 2nd tri holdovers lol.

As for being tired of the same old ?'s, I don't really mind a well-though out, valid question even if it is MP related or whatever. But not only do I think you should scroll through a page or two to see if it's been asked...I think you should have read one pregnancy book by now. If this is your FIRST resource for a question like "I just passed some gooey slime from my vag and I have no idea what it is...help!" I am thinking you are a borderline irresponsible parent for even making it to 3rd tri without knowing what a MP even IS.

I do get a little tired of peopel who seem to have recently transitioned to "regular" status who seem to pick up on snark as a way to fit in though and make snarky comments just for the heck of it instead of just when someone's truly being a moron.

Thank you! Who are you HeckySue and why are you in my head? You always seem to say exactly what I was thinking- although much better worded

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