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March 2011 Moms
Anyone else lost their mom?
My mom died in January. Today is her birthday. We did not have the best relationship but I still loved her. My biggest regret is that I didn't tell her we were trying to have a baby before she died. We were trying, and my cousin told her and she was so excited! But I told her it wasn't true because she had been badgering me for years to have a grandkid for her but it always drove me nuts. I know she knows now and I know she's happy for us.
Even though I never expected to be able to run to my mom to ask for baby help or advice, it still feels really sad to be going through this rite of passage without her. Anyone else going through this? Any advice?
Thanks! (Sorry if I depressed you- it's kind of a bad day)
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Re: Anyone else lost their mom?
I believe the same thing. I actually told myself that it took so long for us to get pregnant because she was up there hugging on her grandbaby a little longer
My due date was the 8th originally but has been pushed up to the 1st.
You know it's funny- I was thinking about Mom last night and the one good thing I could think of was "at least she can't ever disappoint me or my kids." She was never going to be the perfect grandma- she had a lot of issues. My BFF is struggling with her MIL (who is my aunt) who is constantly disappointing her and her son- not showing up for things, canceling plans, not helping to babysit. At least my mom can't do that and I can tell my kids how much she would've loved them- because she would've, she just wouldn't have been the best at showing it.
I can understand, my mom passed when I was 15. I'm sad that she's not here for all the major events in my life. We were having a lot of family issues at the time of her passing and I was angry about some of the choices she had made before she died. I pretty much depend on my gf's for support and of course DH but I wish I could ask her questions about her pregnancy's. I like to think that my mom knows what's going on too. I'm sorry that you are having a sad day. : ( You can always come here to talk about whatever you need to I'm sure the other ladies would agree.
{{HUGS}}
Yes, I lost mine last April. I'm glad you posted this, it's comforting to know that there are others going through the same thing.
Birthdays and holidays are always the hardest, I'm sending big hugs your way!
I feel the same way, I have so many questions I wish I could ask her about pregnancy and childbirth. It feels like my life has changed and moved forward so much since she passed- I got engaged, married, and am now pregnant. The engagement she knew about (DH told her before I knew anything about it).
I wish I had some advice to give you but I don't, it's hard.
My mom died in 2004 when I was 27 - so I have some more distance than some of you. But I still miss her tremendously and periodically 'forget' for 1/2 a second...and think I should call her to tell her something about my son.
My husband's mother passed in 2006 so we have 0 grandmas around. Sigh.
Over time I found other women in my life who I can talk to about things that many people talk to their moms about. There are many loving aunts/cousins/friends who care about my son deeply, but I still know nothing compares to having your grandma.
It sucks - sorry you're dealing with such a recent loss. That is really hard. I hope you have some peace and comfort during your pregnancy.
I lost my mom 6 years ago this November, I was 19 at the time. She and I were very close and had a wonderful relationship, and it's been really tough to go through these life milestones without her. Getting married was hard, but going through pregnancy without her is even more so. There are so many things I wish I could talk to her about or ask her.
I do still talk to her all the time (when she was dying she suggested that I should do this once she passed) and it really does make it easier. I know it's silly, but I also feel like she has some sway in how life events work out. I ask her for help in getting pregnant quickly, growing a healthy baby, finding DH a new job when his work let him go, etc. When things work out, I can't help but feel that she played some role in it.
Having lots of female friends with babies helps a lot when I want to talk with someone or ask questions about pregnancy. Also, my sisters are so excited about their new niece or nephew and are wonderful to share the joys of my pregnancy with.
On a separate note, do you notice that most of our due dates are really close to each other (just a few days apart)? Weird...
BFP#2: EDD 2/11/14, MMC confirmed 7/15/13 (growth stopped at 6 weeks), D&C @ 12 weeks 7/25/13
My mom died in Feb 2009. Sept 12th was her birthday.... I admit it was a sad day. I was an only child, and Mom and I were really close. We talked on the phone daily. There are still times when I want to call her...and now that I am pregnant I miss her even more. I want to share all my news...
It really does suck.