DH and I moved about 45 min from our friends and family. Before we had DD we thought nothing of driving down for the evening a couple times a week to still hang out with our friends. We can't do that now as DD goes to bed at 7. We do try now and then and as time goes on...no one really wants to hang at our house when they could be out at a bar or something

We are the first in our group to have kids so no one else is in our boat. DH works 3rd shift as a police officer and I am alone alot in the evening so it gets lonely for me. I thought of meet up to find mommy groups or the My Gym for babies to meet other moms. The groups in this area only have activities geared more towards SAHM since the activities are always weekdays in the morning or afternoon and I work full time. So where do we meet some new friends in our area? Any ideas?
Re: I need some friends...where do I get them?
It's really hard to make other mommy friends when you work FT and can't go to those mommy groups. I actually made friends with a lady off Craigslist. When I met her to buy a Moby we hit it off. We get together once every other month maybe. She's pregnant - due in October so really tired these days. But her son was born the day after mine, in the same hospital, and get this...we had the same OB! Weird, huh? But that was a freak accident that we became friends through CL.
I really only have a couple other mommy friends - but everyone is so busy that we don't hang out often. I never feel up to it on weeknights, and weekends are usually busy with family stuff/weddings/whatever.
Do you have any ladies at work that have kids that you could hang out with one weekend?
I don't know if you are religious or not but I made some mom friends at my church. Now I work at few hours at my church doing day care and I met friends through that too.
Who knows. It wouldn't hurt to try it out ( of course saying this applies to your religous situation).
I wish I knew the answer for that one. Most of my friends have moved on since I had DS because they perceive me as a "NO" sayer for the nights out. It used to bother me before, but now I totally understand.
We hang out with a few couples who have kids, a few cousins who live in the area but all of them are almost 1 hour drive. We do make the drives on weekends because we like DS to get some interaction with others.
Not really. Only one other girl my age and this is going to sound weird, but she doesn't go anywhere without her husband. He is super jealous or something. She couldnt even come to DD's 1st b-day because he was working so she had to stay home (I swear I am not making this up).
We did join a nice church here and had DD baptized in December. Ashamed to say we haven't gone much since. DH and I want to go more, but he works nights and sleeps during the day, so he'd be sleeping at the times Sunday masses are scheduled. I guess I need to get over it, but feel awkward going alone with DD and worry she will start her screeches or trying run around or something and they will wonder who the new people are making a big scene
Ugh I hate over-controlling men like that!!! Well why not invite them all over for dinner one weekend? She can bring her hubby and LO. Then your DD and her LO can have a playdate too!?
That would be interesting...LOL. Her DH isnt the most social person as you can imagine.
Can you have a sitter come 1/wk, or even 2/mos? You could take a class to learn something, a language, piano, knitting, foreign policy
Or join something that has monthly night time meetings if you can't get away too often. Do some volunteer work... just something to change up your day-to-day routine.
You may or may not meet friends right away, but you'd be doing something to enrich your life!
The local CO nest board is awesome and 99% of my friends came from that board. We have book clubs, cooking club etc. I feel very fortunate.
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I joined my local sorority alumnae group. Not specifically moms, but I met some good friends.
Meet-up groups- I joined a few.
My town also has a newcomers & neighbors group we joined that is mostly all other parents. See if your town offers anything like that!
OMG me too!