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Thanks for everyone's support. It means a lot to me. I have decided I do not want to make things work with DH. Im too hurt. He was my first and only love and I can't believe he betrayed me like this. He betrayed our family. I will not take Eva away from him, but we will not be together anymore. I am so heartbroken. He says he got drunk with his friends one night and felt the rush of the escape and one thing led to another. He says I have been too tired lately and he just couldn't handle it. I have only been tired for a couple of weeks cause Eva is teething!!! He said he thought even after having a baby we would still go out a lot with friends and get a babysitter more often and it wasn't what he expected parenthood would be. What hurts the most is that HE wanted to have a baby so bad. He packed his bags and went to stay with his brother. The only thing that gets me through is knowing that DD with never remember us together and not have to go through the hurt of knowing about the divorce. I honestly thought we were happy. Anyway, Thanks again for everyone's well wishes.
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  • CTri17CTri17 member

    oh (((hugs))) mama. I'm glad you updated us.

    You have to know first that this isn't your fault. Being tired is not an excuse to cheat, nor is the fact that you guys don't go out as much.

    I'd think about counseling just to help you through it. Hug that baby girl tight.

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  • AFWife1229AFWife1229
    I'm so sorry, That's awful. You're a strong woman. I know it's not much, but I honestly think its better to never know parents together than go through a divorce later on. My parents divorced before I could remember and now having friends who's parents got divorced when they were like 15, I'm glad mine did it sooner. Good luck to you!
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  • NeenTheBeanNeenTheBean
    Thoughts and prayers your way momma! I hope things get better for you from here on out.
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  • asiabutterflyasiabutterfly
    I hope you got my message. Thinking about you. Be strong!!
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  • worstnightmareworstnightmare

    I'm really sorry.  You will be better off without him though.  You will find someone who loves you and will want to raise your daughter with you.

    Take care 

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  • sarahmae8sarahmae8 member
    Oh my. My heart is breaking for you. I know this must be such a hard decision, but you must do what is right for you and your daughter. Praying for you.
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  • lmpdjclmpdjc member
    ((HUGS))  I am so sorry that you're going through this.  I went through something similar with my first husband (my 14 yr olds dad.)  Stay strong, I know it's hard.  You will get through this, promise!
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  • RedWingsFanRedWingsFan member

    I'm so sorry that you are dealing with this, but good for you for making the decision that works the best for you.  I honestly don't think I could stay with my H if he ever cheated.

    Hang in there and make sure you do whatever you need to do to protect you and your daughter from a financial standpoint - I would definitely consult with a lawyer ASAP.

    (((HUGS)))

     


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  • lulupinkertonlulupinkerton member

    Thank you for the update.  It's pretty terrible what he did to your family and I hope that you have a soft place to fall.

    Just keep doing what is best for you and your daughter.  I am so sorry for your hurt.

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  • earthyakyearthyaky member

    imageJuliaGooolia:
    Thanks for everyone's support. It means a lot to me. I have decided I do not want to make things work with DH. Im too hurt. He was my first and only love and I can't believe he betrayed me like this. He betrayed our family. I will not take Eva away from him, but we will not be together anymore. I am so heartbroken. He says he got drunk with his friends one night and felt the rush of the escape and one thing led to another. He says I have been too tired lately and he just couldn't handle it. I have only been tired for a couple of weeks cause Eva is teething!!! He said he thought even after having a baby we would still go out a lot with friends and get a babysitter more often and it wasn't what he expected parenthood would be. What hurts the most is that HE wanted to have a baby so bad. He packed his bags and went to stay with his brother. The only thing that gets me through is knowing that DD with never remember us together and not have to go through the hurt of knowing about the divorce. I honestly thought we were happy. Anyway, Thanks again for everyone's well wishes.

    Why didn't he talk to you about it first? His weakness and inability to buck up and be a supportive husband is not because you're too tired. What an absolute rubbish excuse to cheat.

    Big fat bear hugs to you. I think you are doing the right thing.

     

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