Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss

looking for support...

I still can't believe that I have a reason to be posting on this board, but I can use all the support I can get.  On 9/1/10 at 38w5d pregnant, I noticed decreased movement from my sweet little girl.  I had worked the night before (I am an RN and work nights) and came home and slept until 2:30pm.  When I woke up I realized she was not moving like usual.  I tried some tricks- ate dinner and had a lemonade, but with no response from her.  I was hoping she was just preparing to come out.  I called the OB at 6:30 who had me come in to the hospital for a non-stress test.  We arrived at 7pm and were taken to a triage room.  The nurse couldn't find the heart beat.  The doctor then came in and did an ultrasound.  He told us her heart had stopped beating.  We were devastated.

I was induced.  I started with cervadil that night and had a foley bulb/pitocin the next day.  My sweet little Ella was born sleeping at 3:55am on 9/3 after 40 minutes of pushing.  She had a full head of daddy's dark hair, daddy's lips, my nose and the most adorable hands and feet I've ever seen.  My heart is still broken that my perfect little girl is gone.

We had her creamated so we could bring her home with us to our new house.  We have a beautiful baby block urn with her remains. 

We have a great desire to have another child as soon as the OB clears us to TTC.  We can never replace our beautiful little girl, but our desire to be parents to a take home baby is great.  I hope to find support from you ladies and try to support you all as well.

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  • I'm so very sorry for what you are going through.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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  • We are here for you.  I am so sorry for your loss.  My heart is broken for you.
  • No mother should ever have to say goodbye to her children, my heart is wrecked for you and your family.  You will find a lot of wonderfully supportive women here.  I am thinking of you and your family and will be praying for you.
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  • I am so so sorry for your loss. I hope you take all the time you need to heal.
  • My heart breaks for your terrible loss.  Know that you are in my T&Ps.  I hope that you can find comfort in the ladies on this board.
  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  Reading your story is absolutely heartbreaking.  I hope you find much comfort and support on this board.
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  • I am so, very sorry for your loss. My heart is breaking for you. 

    Hugs to you. 

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  • I am so sorry for your loss. 
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  • I am so very sorry for your loss. I know how devastating it is to hold them and not be able to take them home. I'm a RN too and sometimes knowing too much can make it so much more traumatic. We buried our twins 2 weeks ago and it is an emotional roller coaster every day. I will be praying for you. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to PM me.
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  • I am so sorry for your loss......your story is heartbreaking.  You are in my thoughts and prayers. 
  • I am so sorry for your devastating loss. I hope you find this board to be a source of comfort and support, as I have. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
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  • I am so very sorry for your loss, and can't imagine what you're going through..These boards are amazing, and offer a great deal of support..My thoughts are with you..
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  • I am so, so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby girl. Your story is absolutely heartbreaking. This is a very supportive board and I hope you find some comfort here.

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  • Oh, no. I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine the pain you are feeling right now. (((hugs))) to you and I wish you all the best.
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  • I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful Ella.  We lost our Eliott at 37 weeks in a similar way - I woke up and noticed he wasn't moving.  This has been the hardest thing I've ever gone through.  If you want to talk, feel free to PM me.
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  • Thank you all for your kind words.  I'm hoping that we all have our happy endings soon.  Looking forward to getting to know you all and hoping we can lean on each other through the difficult road ahead of us all.
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    I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful Ella.  We lost our Eliott at 37 weeks in a similar way - I woke up and noticed he wasn't moving.  This has been the hardest thing I've ever gone through.  If you want to talk, feel free to PM me.

     I'm so sorry to hear of your loss as well.  I love the name Eliott.  Hope we can lean on each other for support in the coming months.

  • imagepetitbelle:
    I am so very sorry for your loss. I know how devastating it is to hold them and not be able to take them home. I'm a RN too and sometimes knowing too much can make it so much more traumatic. We buried our twins 2 weeks ago and it is an emotional roller coaster every day. I will be praying for you. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to PM me.

     Being an RN was hard, but delivering at the hospital I work at was even harder.  I am so thankful for two of my L&D nurses.  They were amazing, so compassionate.  I hope to go back and see them when I am ready.  I also hope that next time I am there (under better circumstances I pray!) for l&d that they are my nurses.  How far along were your twins?  I am so sorry for your loss as well.  Your daughter is beautiful by the way!

  • I was so sad reading your story and I am heartbroken for you, your husband and beautiful daughter.  Our stories are very similar except you were 8 weeks farther along and my baby was a boy, Ace.  I am so, so sorry for your loss.

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  • I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.  Joining the unacceptably large number of stillborn mommies is something that no one should ever have to experience.  I hope that you can find what you need here, and that it will help you to recover.
  • I am so, so sorry for your loss. You came to the right place for support though. This board helped me SO much (and still does). My thoughts and prayers are with your family!
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