Community› The Bump Message Boards› Baby Showers
Baby Showers
New Discussion

No shower, but what do I tell friends?

shoebox4shoebox4
in Baby Showers

Hi ladies,

 This is an etiquette question. I'm not planning on having a baby shower since we dont have many friends here in this town plus hubby and I both have families out of country and out of town. We were just going to buy everything either at consignment stores or new. We did register for few things since I know that my coworkers are planning on having a small shower for me after thanksgiving.

 I have few friends who live about an hour away and they will be expecting a baby shower invitation. How do I tell them that I am not having a shower? I dont want them to think that I had one but never invited them to the shower. I would like to politely tell them that I'm not having one and I'm definitely not expecting them to have one for me? Dont want them to have the guilt!

Thanks!! 

Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
Report Reply to Post

Re: No shower, but what do I tell friends?

  • KSME924KSME924
    I wouldn't say anything w/o being asked 1st.  If someone, seemingly, came out of the blue and told me they weren't having a shower a part of me would wonder if their intention was to get me to offer to throw one.  When asked about a shower, just tell them nobody has offered to throw one.
    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • butterfly82103butterfly82103
    well my family and my fiancees is not the wealthys bunch but my aunt said she was going to throw me one because i have no friends or really nobody and then she backed out when she offered because she asked me have i had one yet and this is my third child and i have never had one not even with the other 2 so really im not sure what to say it would be nice to have at least one b ut im getting fixed after this one so no luck for me ive learnt not to get y our hopes up and just go to yard sales and check on craigslist and pray for the best even tho i still dont have much for my baby girl but i try my hardest because i know i will make do with what i have so far 
    Pregnancy%20ticker
    Report Reply
  • pawcallpawcall member

    You say nothing.

    If they ask, you say that you are not aware of anyone throwing a shower for you.  If they offer to throw one and you don't want one, you can politely decline, and say that you would prefer not to have one/aren't up to one/whatever your reasoning is.  If they ask if/where you registered, it's perfectly fine to let them know where you've registered.

    ~Mom to an amazing Jan 2011 boy~
    ~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~

    [spoiler]
    BabyFruit Ticker[/spoiler]

    Report Reply
  • mypreciouscargosmypreciouscargos member
    ditto here!
    image
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"