XP: BFing moms nursing past 12 mo, how do you deal with the ?'s

SWILM · September 2010

I plan on letting DS self ween, if it happens at 12 months or 24 months I'm not worrying about it. But ever since he hit the magical 10 months, people keep being like "oh I bet your so excited to ween!" or "oh isn't it great you only have to nurse a couple times a day now" finally I lost it and was like "you know, we had a really rough start, I didn't truly enjoy breastfeeding till he was 3 months old. I think we'll nurse for an extra 3 months just to make up for that time"I just hate these comments, and the looks I get when I say we'll ween at 2 if he hasn't already. I mean its not like we'll be nursing 7-8 times a day until we ween. We'll nurse at night, in the morning and naps. How do you deal with the comments?

EcoBaby · September 2010

I really don't get that many comments, but I just say, "I am hoping to breastfeed until he's 2. Ideally, he would self-wean, but I think I'm going to stop at 2 for myself" - that is just the truth. If they don't like it, too bad. If they say, "WHY?!" - I just say "because it is the best for him."

If I had someone asking me if I was going to stop bf'ing at 6 months, I probably would have said something like, "What would I give him instead?" Because honestly, I don't know what people do - supplement with formula? Start cow's milk?

To me, it just makes sense for our situation to bf until he's at least two.

SWILM · September 2010

EcoBaby:
I had someone asking me if I was going to stop bf'ing at 6 months, I probably would have said something like, "What would I give him instead?" Because honestly, I don't know what people do - supplement with formula? Start cow's milk?
To me, it just makes sense for our situation to bf until he's at least two.

haha you could do what my husbands friends wife did. Just totally stop bfing at 6 months and not supplement. The kid only gets food and water at this point. oh yeah and juice.

I did bring up the fact that babies are supposed to have SOMETHING like BM or formula for a year, but she didn't listen. Not my kid, not my problem.

sunnyday016 · September 2010

No one really knows that we still BF unless they ask. She nurses before bed and in the morning. It's not that I'm ashamed to talk about it-it just literally never comes up. Maybe you just have really nosy people in your life :P

EcoBaby · September 2010

InLoveWithMySchmeester:
EcoBaby:

I had someone asking me if I was going to stop bf'ing at 6 months, I probably would have said something like, "What would I give him instead?" Because honestly, I don't know what people do - supplement with formula? Start cow's milk?

To me, it just makes sense for our situation to bf until he's at least two.

haha you could do what my husbands friends wife did. Just totally stop bfing at 6 months and not supplement. The kid only gets food and water at this point. oh yeah and juice.

I did bring up the fact that babies are supposed to have SOMETHING like BM or formula for a year, but she didn't listen. Not my kid, not my problem.

I think this is proof why you shouldn't take comments personally. Obviously, the people are not educated on the subject, and they must not even be following their doctor's advice. I think these types of situations when you just need to feel good about your choices and let the comments roll off your back.

zeesbride · September 2010

I really dont get too many comments, but something that has shut up the older generation that seem to have them MOST issue with me still BF'ing is that I will continue atleast through flu season. Since Zara has never had a serious cold ( 2 minor snotty occurrences even when I got sick myself) I just play up the building of immunities and they dont question me further.

Alirebco · September 2010

I used to say stuff like, oh, well I'll think he'll stop breastfeeding by the time he is in college. That normally shuts people up!

erbear · September 2010

I used to just smile and say "thank you". Not worth getting all riled up about...my kid, my decision, and I found that if I didn't engage people in the conversation, they stopped asking inappropriate questions.

NeenTheBean · September 2010

Luckily in the group of people I hang out with bfing past 12 months is common. With DS1 he was small so people didn't really think he was 18 months but closer to 10. DS2 is already huge so I'm sure I'll get more comments. I usually say you don't pull a bottle out of their mouths the second they turn 12 months why should I do that with BFing?

Quazel · September 2010

"The nutritional and immunilogical (sp?) benefits don't magically stop at a year so neither will we."

I used the cold and flu season thing when DS turned a year last January and people asked. Then I had to move on to what I have above!

Wally3 · September 2010

I bf to about 20 months. After a year I stop pumping - if I wasn't there he ate food or bottle bm in the beginning. I was feeding before bed and first thing in the morning. Nobody was around at those times except DH - I didn't bring it up very often. I did a couple times and just said it was still working for us so I will keep until one of us is done. Weaning happened slowly and easily with very gentle encouragement from me - just not offering or offering milk or food instead.

futrkingsley · September 2010

My DS is 26 months and we still nurse a lot and sometimes out in public. He's a big kid and looks like an average 3 year old. We get looks and some comments and I do my best to ignore them. Not any one else's business but mine and his. He gets great comfort from it, it's the only quiet time I get with him and he's obviously doing well so if I were so inclined, I'd tell people to suck it. But I don't.

Quazel · September 2010

futrkingsley:
I were so inclined, I'd tell people to suck it. But I don't.

LOL!!!!!

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