Weight and IF (long vent)

legaleagles · September 2010

I am overweight, probably about 50 pounds, although my nutritionist, trainer, and primary care doc have said I'm fine where I am and if I want to lose weight I should only lose 25 max because my body fat %age is good and I'm quite muscular (though I've lost some of that) so they don't think the BMI is the right scale for me.

When I met with the RE for the first time she told me to lose 20 pounds. I gained WW on July 21 and I've lost 2 pounds. Last time I was able to lose any significant amount of weight it became obsessive for me (and I am in recovery from an eating disorder so I have to be careful with obsessive tendancies). I of course cried and cried about being told a specific number - I've become obsessed with that number. I am trying my best and workout a lot - I'm running my 5th half marathon in 2 weeks and ran my first full marathon in June. i cycle and do weights.

Since my first RE appt I've been seeing the nurse practitioners in the clinic and they have never mentioned weight. Now that I didn't respond to the femara and am thinking about injectables I am seeing the RE again tomorrow and I'm terrified. I know weight can affect PCOS, but I've was annovulatory and had elevated testosterone even when I was lighter. This has been a problem for me since I had my first AF - I didn't have another one for several years after that when I finally told the doctor and I started provera.

Anyways, long story short, I'm terrified of being lectured. I'm doing everything right - exercise, WW, and have a nutritionist and a trainer, but I'm so worried about being lectured tomorrow.

Not sure I'm looking for advice (though any successes would be helpful, maybe WW isn't the right diet for someone with PCOS, I don't know). just neeeded to vent. I'm so so scared to lectured tomorrow.

njohnson1972 · September 2010

I don't have any advice, but I wanted to wish you good luck with your appointment tomorrow.

legaleagles · September 2010

njohnson1972:
I don't have any advice, but I wanted to wish you good luck with your appointment tomorrow.

Ah, thanks!

Rachael07.07.07 · September 2010

(((hugs))) I hope that tomorrow there will be no lecturing. When you are there, just talk with the doctor and let him know all that you are doing and see if he has any advice of what you should try next. You might not have lost any numbers because you are converting to muscle. Do you feel any different, like more solid, less jiggly, etc? Try to think positive about tomorrow. You are doing the best you can. You joined the weight loss group from here on fb right? There's a lot of us in that boat. PCOS does seem to do best with a South Beach type of diet from what I can tell.

legaleagles · September 2010

Rachael07.07.07:
(((hugs))) I hope that tomorrow there will be no lecturing. When you are there, just talk with the doctor and let him know all that you are doing and see if he has any advice of what you should try next. You might not have lost any numbers because you are converting to muscle. Do you feel any different, like more solid, less jiggly, etc? Try to think positive about tomorrow. You are doing the best you can. You joined the weight loss group from here on fb right? There's a lot of us in that boat. PCOS does seem to do best with a South Beach type of diet from what I can tell.

I just did - I think I had the invite sitting for a while and just noticed it in my notifications yesterday and accepted so I'll definitely have to check it out regularly now.

Thanks!

Medtwin · September 2010

I also am on WW since 7/29 & have lost 13.8.. first let me tell you this.. make sure you EAT all your points in a day..or you will not LOSE..you will maintain..

Secondly, I've done 3 ivf cycles..& have come right out & asked my RE if i my weight is causing me to 'not get preg'.. & she said "no"..she said, 'if you lose weight, it'll only help you to get healthier for a pregnancy.. but it's not what's preventing you from getting pg.'.. sooo.. keep at it.. you wont get lectures.. we cant start worrying about that.. this is hard enough!

good luck!

vanessagorc · September 2010

Hi-

I know this situation well, and it is really hard. I was very overweight for a good portion of ur my life.

I lost over 100 lbs, about 10 yrs ago and it is a really hard struggle.

I used to live in fear of lectures, or any type of weigh in situation.

Let me know if u ever want to talk about it...i've been there!

legaleagles · September 2010

Medtwin:
I also am on WW since 7/29 & have lost 13.8.. first let me tell you this.. make sure you EAT all your points in a day..or you will not LOSE..you will maintain..

Secondly, I've done 3 ivf cycles..& have come right out & asked my RE if i my weight is causing me to 'not get preg'.. & she said "no"..she said, 'if you lose weight, it'll only help you to get healthier for a pregnancy.. but it's not what's preventing you from getting pg.'.. sooo.. keep at it.. you wont get lectures.. we cant start worrying about that.. this is hard enough!

good luck!

Thank you!

I am refocusing this week (started last week, but then went away to wine country for my anniversary and obviously went off track a bit). I guess I just have to keep trying.

Congrats on your successes!

legaleagles · September 2010

vanessagorc:
Hi-

I know this situation well, and it is really hard. I was very overweight for a good portion of ur my life.

I lost over 100 lbs, about 10 yrs ago and it is a really hard struggle.

I used to live in fear of lectures, or any type of weigh in situation.

Let me know if u ever want to talk about it...i've been there!

Thank you!

Yellow_Daisy · September 2010

(((hugs)))

I am so sorry that you are going through this. For years I struggled with my weight at one point barely being 100lbs because I was starving myself. That unfortunately transitioned into binge eating and then I got sick and gained a ton of weight. I hate looking in the mirror because somehow I have gone from being sickly thin to being obese, I wish I could find a happy medium and I am working on getting to a healthy weight the right way this time. I have flat out asked my RE if my weight is an issue and she said no. I asked my MFM, endo and primary as well and they all said it would be great if you lost weight, but it isn't going to stop you from getting pg. Ideally I need to lose 100lbs, but I am working on small goals of 10lbs right now. If talking about your weight bothers you tell your RE what you are doing and that you don't want to talk about it anymore because of your history with eating disorders. Any doctor worth their salt will back off after that because they know that pressing the weight issue can cause more harm than good. For years after the anorexia I couldn't be weighed at all. When I went to the doctor I would be weighed with my back facing the scale and they never told me how much I actually weighed. Give them boundaries and make it clear that this is what you need to be healthy both physically and mentally. Your doctor should respect your wishes. I would imagine anyone running their 5th half marathon is pretty healthy so don't be too hard on yourself.

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