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kimberleigh30
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Grandparents name - vent
kimberleigh30
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This is DH and I first baby. My sister has kids and H's brother has kids so my nieces and nephews already have grandparents name.
Does my LO HAVE to call their grandparents name by the same name as the other nieces and nephews call them?
I hate the name my nephews call MIL. Hate it with a passion. Before the baby was born DH told MIL that we do not want LO to call her that and we want something normal (more traditional). She kinda just blew off H and keeps referring to herself as what the other kids call her. I on the other hand, when I'm with LO and MIL I always refer to her as Grandmom.
We just got LO Christened yesterday and the cars are signed by what the other kids call her and not Grandmom (what I want her to be called). I sometimes think I should just let this go and let her be called what she wants to be called, BUT since DH told her our wishes, I feel like she is going behind my back and doing this for spite.
I already spoke to DH about this and he says that he?s staying out of this and this is between me and Mil.
UGH
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Re: Grandparents name - vent
Sometimes kids just call their grandparents what they can say. Who knows what your LO will come up with?
For example: My MIL was called "Grammy" by their oldest grandchild. However, when grandchild #4 came around, she started calling my MIL "Mimi" her version of "grammy". Because of this, grandchildren #2 & #3 also now call her Mimi. The only kids who call her "grammy" are grandchild # 1 and her sister (#5). We'll have DS call her Mimi since that's what the majority of the kids call her.
Your LO will probably call her what your LO hears MIL being called the most, or some derivation of it.
I grew up calling my grandmother 'Grandma' and I was left to choose what I called her, there were no requests of what to be called. So far my MIL is insisting on being called 'Nana' which I can't stand. When she holds DD, she sounds out "Na-Na" and I want to scream! I'm not knocking anyone who called their grandmother 'Nana'...it's just not my thing. I'm not going tell my daughter (or any future children) what to call their grandmother, that will be left up to them, in fact I'll probably refer to my MIL as their 'Grandma' anyway!
Bungi (Bun-ge)
I dunno, but it must be the 13 year old boy inside of me that everytime I hear Bungi, all I can think of is bunghole
I always think of the dog in Peter Pan!
DS is grandchild #9 for my mom. All her grandchildren call her Nana. She is Nana. If DS ends up calling her something different because of pronunciation, then that's fine and cute. (My sister, whose name starts with J, is known as 'Gibby' cuz the oldest niece had trouble with J's.) But I would never specifically tell him to call her something different just because I didn't like it.
To me, it's like saying to someone, "I know your name is Tom, but I'm going to call you Dave."
Personally, I would not get worked up about it. It's just a name. But everyone has their issues, I guess.
Baby Boy #1 born 1/15/2010
Babies #2 & #3 arriving Spring 2014 (EDD June 18)
LOL! I don't think I would like that either. All you can really do is refer to MIL as whatever you would like her to be called while you are talking to LO. She will be with you more often than MIL so she will most likely pick up on what you say.
I'm peaking over from 3-6 but kids will call them what they want. My son made up names for both my MIL and FIL and they seem to be pretty happy with it. It does get confusing because none of the grandparents have the same name we have:
MIL: Meme (Mimi)
FIL: Peepaw
Mom: Meemaw
Dad: Papaw
Just let your kid decide but just know there is a possibility they will go with what they hear the most.
lol my mil insisted that her first grandchild call her something that did not sound grandma-y to her cause she thinks she's not old enough to be called grandma
the woman is over 50 yrs old. So she picked her name and told her first grandchild to call her that. Well me and mh hate that name so mh taught our son who is the 2nd and only a yr older than the 1st to call her what he wanted.... so now she's known by 2 names by 2 grandkids. And since we have 2 now, the other is outnumbered. lol
just teach your kid what you want him to call her and see what happens. They are going to call her whatever they choose in the end anyway.
Saw this post from another board and it caught my eye as my mom really wanted my niece and nephews (older than my children) to call her nana.
I'm in the minority but I think my children should call their grandparents whatever the grandparents want to be called. Especially if there are older grandchildren who have already set the precedent. It's the one time in your life you can pick your "name" so why not, who is it hurting? It's nice to have grandparents invested in your children's life so I say let them call themselves whatever they like if it makes them happy.
On a side note, my cousins kids called their grandmom "dot". For some unknown reason the eldest grandchild coined the name so that was that, they all followed suit.
LOL - ugh
Gosh, that is an awful name. Why would she WANT to be called that?
I agree though, your LO will call her whatever and MIL will have to go with it. :P
I really wanted my MIL to be a Nana (since that i what her mom is) but she wants Grandma, same as my mom. Whatever - they will both have to be Grandma Firstnames unless DS comes up with something better.
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Agree 100%. As long as the grandparent isn't asking to be called Mom or Dad, I couldn't care less.
Is it "grandma" in another language?
Consider yourself lucky they don't want to be called "Lola & Dude"
MIL wants to be called Lola b/c it's Filipino for Grandmother (she doesn't have a drop of Filipino blood). Dude....who knows.
This makes me chuckle every time I hear it!
My mother wants Grams... because she is obsessed with the show Charmed. I'm trying to train Liam to call her Looney.
No, just what the nephews's came up with when they were little. I don't know why she even with it.
A. I think your husband is chicken poopy for his response, IMO he should support you on this
B My MIL wanted to be called "grandmom" which wasn't okay with me. I plan on being mom and to put grand in front of it makes it sound like she's the better mom? Anyway I said I was open to discussion but Grandmom was off the table. Grandma doesn't bother me though. At any rate only 1 has she referred to herself as such otherwise we call her Grandma and it seems to be going fine.
I don't have any suggestions for you but I wanted you to know that someone understood your pain!
My grandmother is called Big Nana to differentiate her from my mother, who's also called Nana by her grandkids. One of my nieces started calling Big Nana "White Nana" and my mother "Chocolate Nana" because of their hair colors. I thought it was hilarious!
Baby Boy #1 born 1/15/2010
Babies #2 & #3 arriving Spring 2014 (EDD June 18)