Unusual Situation - Need Some Advice!

Re: Unusual Situation - Need Some Advice!

• Scout05 member

  September 2010

  Is there a stated office policy regarding co-workers dating?

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• KWPNJumper55

  September 2010

  ambrandau2:

  Is there a stated office policy regarding co-workers dating?

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  This! And if there isn't, you really shouldn't worry much. There will probably be gossip but you'll just have to ignore it.

  

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• Jen98jib member

  September 2010

  I've been advised not to inform work until end of first trimester.  I think in your case you especially should follow this advise.  Then, I would ask for a meeting with your boss or supervisor and tell them one on one.  Technically, you don't have to say who the father is but they'll probably figure it out.

   

  ........ born 11/16/11 at 36 weeks weighing 3 lbs, 6 oz

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• alfulton99

  September 2010

  Wow, you guys are quick! No, no policies against dating. I feel like being up front about it would minimize the gossip but he wants to keep the lid on for as long as possible...

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• Scout05 member

  September 2010

  *mandalynn*:

  Wow, you guys are quick! No, no policies against dating. I feel like being up front about it would minimize the gossip but he wants to keep the lid on for as long as possible...

  In that case, I think you are both right.

  It is totally understandable to keep a pregnancy quiet until the second trimester or so. There are reasonable privacy and health reasons for that.

  But I think being open about anything is ALWAYS the best policy, especially in a situation where things are a little touchy.

  You might start getting sick, which makes it hard to hide, and eventually it's going to be obvious. It's worse, IMO, to have gossip and secrets than to just say "here's what's going on, we are really excited!"

  It's not like you've done something wrong or shameful, after all.

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• Eros

  September 2010

  I don't think you can officially get in trouble, especially since your bosses know you are dating.  They can't be mad that you, an adult woman, are pregnant.  Personally, I would keep it quiet until I started having bad m/s.  If that happens and it interferes with work, I would tell my bosses just to be open and honest like you said.  GL!

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• kmw326 member

  September 2010

  I would keep it to myself for as long as I could. Of course people will gossip, it's human nature. It's also none of their business. You should probably tell your boss when the first tri is over; it's not necessary before then unless you have bad m/s and it's obvious. I'm ten weeks and haven't told my boss yet or any of my coworkers, even though people are suspecting. I deny it becuase it's really none of their business until I am ready to break the news.

  

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• meganscrivner

  September 2010

  I work with my DH & am also faced with how soon to tell our bosses! I'm trying to wait until the 2nd trimester, but with how sick I've been, it's getting harder to hide. If you can, I'd wait until the 2nd tri, but totally up to you. I'm sure they will also be supportive & it won't be an issue! Good luck!  

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• bikernun

  September 2010

  I concur with what the other ladies have been saying. Keep it to yourself at least until the 1st trimester is over.
  

  

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