Have you heard of this? My sis is helping plan a shower and the mom-to-be is doing this.
I understand that some people have a problem with receiving lots of cute clothes instead of other things they actually need. Plus clothes can be relatively cheap gifts.
I like to lurk on this board and wondered what you ladies thought.
Re: Withholding gender to avoid receiving clothes at shower????
I think if that's the case, people will buy you really cute green and yellow clothes.
I've never heard of this!
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The reason behind not telling what it is is strange to me. I didn't register for any baby clothes yet I received tons of them, people like buying baby clothes, they will probably get them regardless.
That sounds manipulative and like you're trying to shake down your guests. People who want to buy clothes will buy clothes, people who don't use registries will continue to not use registries, and people who like to shop from registries will find out where you're registered.
I haven't heard of anyone doing that but it does make sense because people love to buy baby clothes but who can blame them they are so cute! i get if the mom to be is worried about getting too many clothes in the wrong size or in just one size. but generally withholding gender isn't going to stop people from buying clothes. just tell your sis to let mom to be know that she's probably going to get clothes and it would just be easier if everyone knew what she was having and to include gift receipts so if she gets too many she can return and get bigger sizes or items that they might need.
I knew someone who didn't want to announce the gender before her shower because she hated pink and didn't want a ton of pink clothes for the baby if it was a girl. She ended up having a boy, but I would be grateful that people were willing to buy me the clothes in the first place.
People will always buy tons of clothes. There's no way around it. It will just be neutral instead of either pink or blue.
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You can't control what people will buy you. It is totally her choice to not tell people, but I think the reason is ridiculous as well. People love to buy baby stuff, and they really like to buy baby clothes.
I have received a ton of clothes and blankets and the items that I don't think I will be able to use I have kept in the packaging and will most likely be giving out to other's that have babies in the future.
There are ways to make everything you get work for you and the baby, and I think the mother-to-be is being a little selfish and controling.
We don't know gender because we don't want to and want the surprise at the birth. I have realized that this might be a nice side effect of not just getting 50 cute dress or 50 cute tshirts/shorts. However, not telling just for this reason does sound tacky.
The shower is a beautiful gesture your family & friends do for you because they care and love you. They are not to be expected and not to be dictated as to exactly what you expect everyone to bring. As parents it is our responsibility to provide all that we will need for the baby - shower or not.
I agree. We don't know what we are having (and are letting the LO surprise us) and my MIL has already said she buys boys and girls clothes at every sale she sees.
Exactly.
We're team green and got a fraction of the clothes I have seen at showers I have attended and received probably 97% of the baby items or gear we registered for. But we also got a crazy amount of blankets.
But saying all of that, the idea of keeping the sex of the baby a secret always rubbed me the wrong way.
I would have agreed with the green and yellow sentiment, until I went baby clothes shopping during my state's sales tax free week before I knew we were having a boy. I went to every store in the largest mall in the state - each store had one gender neutral clothing item. Some stores had none - the entire Carter's store was separated into boys and girls and there wasn't a single item in there that could pass - even the non pink and blue items had embroidered cars or princesses on them.
So actually, I think it will likely decrease the number of clothing she gets.
Personally, I would be less passive aggressive and just include a line on the invitation stating that we have already been gifted a large amount of clothing and politely request not to receive more. I'm the type of person who HATES wasting the money I spend on someone's gift by purchasing them something they don't want or need - so if I knew someone already had enough of something, I would appreciate the polite heads up and get them something else.