i'm also tired of hearing...

weddingcaketaster · September 2010

"you know, you can have 1 beer or a glass of wine..." people are obsessed with it! I feel guilty enough about my coffee and that i had to take Benedryl a few times...putting my child at risk isn't worth a Bud Light. I don't understand why people are so pushy about it. Strange.

jc51723 · September 2010

That is annoying! We haven't really told anyone, but I know I will get grief for giving up caffeine -- I quit my coffee cold turkey on the day I got my BFP, and it was a rough couple days! But you know what I am over it now and I actually feel great! Which works out well because just the smell of coffee makes me want to gag!

I know 'they' say it is OK to have a cup a day, and maybe it is, but to me the peace of mind is totally worth it.

ETA: Oh and I totally agree about it NOT being OK to have a beer or glass or wine -- just wanted to point that out

Angel0423 · September 2010

"you know, you can have 1 beer or a glass of wine..."

I think people want to believe that, so they want to see someone do it. There is no safe amount of alcohol for a developing baby to tolerate. If you wouldn't give it to your healthy 3 month old, 7 year old, 16 year old, why would you give it to someone still developing major organs??

FlipFish · September 2010

I totally agree. Why take the risk over something so dumb? I got mad the other day just having to walk past a truck repainting lines in the parking lot b/c I had to inhale the fumes for a few seconds.

skhynes · September 2010

I feel like certain people always will encourage you to drink, pregnant or not. A few times I've declined alcohol and someone will give me a hard time and then I tell them I'm pregnant and they still push it. What the hell?

I know some people who chose to drink small amounts during their pregnancy, but I'm not a big drinker anyway so why the hell would I risk it?

BetchySprout · September 2010

Angel0423:
"you know, you can have 1 beer or a glass of wine..."
I think people want to believe that, so they want to see someone do it. There is no safe amount of alcohol for a developing baby to tolerate. If you wouldn't give it to your healthy 3 month old, 7 year old, 16 year old, why would you give it to someone still developing major organs??

Yes there is. I don't drink at all, but the US is not the end all be all of research. In other countries women are encouraged to drink wine daily. The problem with Americans is that there is no moderation. A 6 oz glass of wine a woman in France drinks with dinner is much different than the 6 pack of beer with a bottle of wine a lot of American's would down if they heard "moderation".

Like I said, I don't drink at all, not even a little. Not for any reason except I don't like the taste. It is personal choice obviously. Just don't judge people who do make that choice for themselves.

Mrs.VanMus · September 2010

Pattypoundcake:
Angel0423:
"you know, you can have 1 beer or a glass of wine..."
I think people want to believe that, so they want to see someone do it. There is no safe amount of alcohol for a developing baby to tolerate. If you wouldn't give it to your healthy 3 month old, 7 year old, 16 year old, why would you give it to someone still developing major organs??
Yes there is. I don't drink at all, but the US is not the end all be all of research. In other countries women are encouraged to drink wine daily. The problem with Americans is that there is no moderation. A 6 oz glass of wine a woman in France drinks with dinner is much different than the 6 pack of beer with a bottle of wine a lot of American's would down if they heard "moderation".

Like I said, I don't drink at all, not even a little. Not for any reason except I don't like the taste. It is personal choice obviously. Just don't judge people who do make that choice for themselves.

Patty covered it. I have cousins in Italy who have had red wine occasionally and the babies come out just fine. Not saying I plan on killing a bottle or a glass for that matter anytime soon, but my own midwife rec. a small glass of red wine when I was in my third tri and extremely agitated with a work related issue.

JenTorrge · September 2010

I agree. That IS annoying. Same people who pester people to have a drink when they're not expecting. It's definitely not worth the risk to me. I have one cup of coffee per day (instead of my usual 2) and cut way back on sugar and WAY WAY back on all the fake sugars. I want to give this baby every chance I can to be completely healthy!

nycteach · September 2010

Mrs.VanMus:
Pattypoundcake:
Angel0423:

"you know, you can have 1 beer or a glass of wine..."

I think people want to believe that, so they want to see someone do it. There is no safe amount of alcohol for a developing baby to tolerate. If you wouldn't give it to your healthy 3 month old, 7 year old, 16 year old, why would you give it to someone still developing major organs??

Yes there is. I don't drink at all, but the US is not the end all be all of research. In other countries women are encouraged to drink wine daily. The problem with Americans is that there is no moderation. A 6 oz glass of wine a woman in France drinks with dinner is much different than the 6 pack of beer with a bottle of wine a lot of American's would down if they heard "moderation".

Like I said, I don't drink at all, not even a little. Not for any reason except I don't like the taste. It is personal choice obviously. Just don't judge people who do make that choice for themselves.

Patty covered it. I have cousins in Italy who have had red wine occasionally and the babies come out just fine. Not saying I plan on killing a bottle or a glass for that matter anytime soon, but my own midwife rec. a small glass of red wine when I was in my third tri and extremely agitated with a work related issue.

You see the same thing in the UK. Lots of pregnant women will order a glass of wine with dinner in a restaurant. I don't do it, but it is not seen as unusual here.

elisbu · September 2010

My sister had two glasses of wine during her pregnancy and I did not judge her at all!

But for me, I just don't think I can do it.

To each their own!!

Stephcara · September 2010

I agree with Patty and have some of my own beliefs.

I admit, I love some wine and martinis on the weekends, but the minute I get that BFP, I do stop for the full 9 months. However, I would not judge a glass or two of wine at the end of a pregnancy, we're talking the 37+ week mark.

my sister grew up here in NJ but later lived in a different country where actually all 3 of her kids were born. She also saw women drink during pregnancy there and still had her "American" beliefs and did not. Hoewever, by her 3rd pregnancy she did have a glass of wine or two at the very end and I did not judge. She said that if she lived here, probably not but it was so the norm there that she felt comfortable doing it.

pinkflipflops44 · September 2010

I was outside with tons of drinking going around me all day yesterday and didn't really have any desire to even have a sip of beer until we won the game and then I felt like chugging a sip of an ice cold Killians down. But all the beer was gone so I just chugged my caffeineated oh so yummy coca-cola.

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