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Final decision: boy name. And... my in-laws suck.
Henry George it is. (George is my dad's name). ETA: I had said it's my dad's middle name - it's his first name! I think I was typing too fast - trying to get to the vent portion of the post. 
Thanks for letting me vent.
DH called his (worthless) father and (EVIL) stepmother in TX and told them, what a mistake. They didn't come out and say they hate the name, but they might as well have. And then proceeded to give him grief over the fact that we visited DH's bio mom and her husband in their new house in Alabama this summer and "never visit" them in TX. Of course, despite being invited numerous times, they have not come to visit their only grandchildren since DD #2 was born. Then they gave him attitude about DH's bio mom coming to visit when this baby is born. Underlying theme here: they always "compete" with her, and the fact is she is ten times the grandparent they'll ever be.
F them F them F them. When DH hung up the phone he threw it across the room. It takes a lot to rile him up, but boy can his dad and stepmom do it in about 4 seconds flat.
And yet I'm sure they'll sit around and wonder why we didn't choose DH's dad's name (David) as a first or middle name for our son.
Idiots.
Wife, Musician, Fed, WW-er, and Mom of three little kids - not necessarily in that order.
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Re: Final decision: boy name. And... my in-laws suck.
Ugh, I am so sorry for you guys about them. It's always sad when a guy wants to tell his Dad something and then gets flack for it...
Love the name though! Despite what the ILs say!
I love the name.
Your ILs? Not so much.
Love the name!! Ben's middle name is after my dad:) Sorry about the in-laws:(
I really like the name a lot. Sorry to hear about the drama with DH's dad/step-mom. I know that family situations like that are so hard to deal with.
Thanks guys. Feels good to vent a little. This is an old story - the tension between DH and his dad and stepmom. The three of them deal with it in the most unhealthy way. They hurt each other, then pretend nothing happened, then go on with life until the next time they hurt each other. It's absurd. I just hate that they always seem to take DH out at the knees during happy moments - or what should be exciting or happy moments. They pulled a ton of crap during our wedding planning and during our reception (just as an example) so it's like they deliberately wait until a moment when DH is on a high and then BLAM.
This on the heels of the huge blow up we had with his ex-stepdad and his wife this summer, which DH has glossed over but I know really hurt him. (He also acts like nothing happened with them, me, I'm still furious). DH's bio mom is not a perfect saint, but out of all my sets of in-laws she and her husband are my favorite, and I wish they were the only ones in our lives.
Bleh.
We're having breakfast with my parents this morning and at least I know I can count on them. They'll say they love the name whether they do or not (which is the polite thing to do).
Uhg, sorry they are such asshats. It can be very very difficult to do, but I think sometimes with toxic relationships like that you have to put some time and distance between you and them just to keep your sanity. I've had to do that with some family of my own and it took me a very long time to come to that conclusion.
I LOVE the name. I grew up with an elderly neighbor named George who I loved (even named one of my dolls after him - "Georgette" who I still have) and tried to convince my H to consider the name for our son, but we ended with Henry instead. (can you guess which name I voted for in your poll?
1) Great name - classic, and your dad must be so honored. I'm sure your son will be happy to have it as he grows.
2) Your in-laws should get the Triumph the Insult Comic Dog treatment, if you know what I mean. The drama never ceases to amaze me, but I can't help but get a little excited about the latest installment of the soap opera that is your life with your in-laws when I see a post title like this. At least you get validation here.
3) I'm confident your DH will be a fantastic dad to your son because of all that he's been through with his own parental relationships. A silver lining to the whole lousy situation.
1) Thanks!
2) I'm here to entertain.
Thank goodness this set is in TX and we DON'T see them very often. I wish we could just cut them out, but DH has lots of love for his dad because, well, he's his dad. Unfortunately. And DH constantly holds out hope that his dad at least will someday act like a real dad and show some semblence of being a good father. And then his hopes get dashed every.single.time. I wish he'd give up hoping. Ditto his ex-stepdad.
3) YES - this exactly. There is a "benefit" to DH having such horrible parents and that is, he does the exact opposite of most of his parents and it makes him a fantastic dad!!!!
Agreed!
I'm sorry you have to deal with all this. We have a blended grandparents situation (mom + stepdad, dad + stepmom) and everybody acts like adults, which means having more grandparents is a blessing. I wish it was the same for you all.
DD1 9.24.06
DS 7.1.08
twins due 9.7.11 lost twin A at
DD2 4.7.12
Fabulous name! So classic.
Your in laws are the suckiest of sucky and I'm so sorry you're stuck with them. I certainly gives me a new appreciation for mine, if nothing else.