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futuremrshackney
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Couple of questions.. Long.
futuremrshackney
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Hi ladies.. I have a few questions, somewhat unrelated and a quick backstory (sorry if you've heared this one before!)
Backstory:
DH's cousin W got a married woman pregnant while they were having an affair. She has since seperated from her husband, and from what I understand they are now living together. DH's aunt is throwing this woman a baby shower this weekend... I believe the shower is more for aunt than it is for the woman considering this is her third child, anyways I digress... I got the invitation, and I RSVPd that I likely couldn't attend, I said due to work but its actually due to the fact that my DH doesn't have to work and we only get one weeknd a month off together. I'm sending a gift with MIL so that part is covered. So here is my question:
Do I invite her to my shower if I actually end up having one? I've never met this woman... I was thinking it may be a little taboo to invite her, and that just inviting DHs Aunt would cover the situation since I really think shes the only reason why I was asked to attend anyway.
Also... My mil has told me she wants to have my shower November 27th. I think the timing is horrible.. people will be out of town for family functions/thanksgiving, and its exactly 4 weeks before LOs due date. Also, the only location we could have it would be my house.. mil lives in a studio apartment, and my mother is a hoarder... neither of them want to pay to rent a room/hall, which I understand. I have terrible visions of me running around trying to clean up after everyone and doing all the prep work. Lastly, although they both talk about the shower, neither one will talk to each other, both continually tell me "Tell her to call me!!" I've given them both each others number and I'm tired of having that same "JUST CALL HER" conversation with both of them.
What would you do in this situation? Scrap the entire idea, tell them to forget it? Continue to bug them until they call each other? Set them up on some suprise blind date?? (JK)... Its just all getting on my nerves.
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Re: Couple of questions.. Long.
I wouldn't invite this lady
Nov 27 - considering it will be at your place you should def. have a say...what about the weekend before?
Tell your mom and MIL to talk to each other and that you aren't their messenger....that's all lol
Thanks ladies...
I am going to assume that inviting DHs Aunt is enough... I don't want it to come across rude but had it have been cousin Ws ex gf that got pregnant it would be different. I knew that girl for years and we spent a lot of holidays / get togethers with each other. I'm not saying that I'm unwilling to meet her and befriend her, I'm totally open to it, but I don't think inviting her to my babyshower is the right way to kick off our relationship.
Concerning the shower, I still don't know the right course of action. I do like the suggestion of just hosting lunch and having the moms talk it over. Maybe if I bring up the weekend being a poor choice (this won't be the first time I have), they will discuss it and at least see my concerns...
since this hasn't been answered:
my shower was hosted in my house (by my mom, sister and 2 friends) but still was all organized prepared by them, DH took me out that day (i don't remember what we did) so they could work on it and when I had to go home to shower and get ready they covered my eyes so I wouldn't see anything in advance
they cleaned up after the shower too
so what I'm saying is that having it at your place isn't problem if your hosts are thoughtfull