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i want a party, but not a lot of gifts

weddingcaketasterweddingcaketaster member
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would this work? I want to celebrate with my family and friends, but me and DH live in the city in a small downtown apartment.  We can't have a lot of stuff.  My family and friends that live in the suburbs really don't get it...we don't have space to store clothes until the baby is a year old, or anywhere to put 500 diapers.  It will be hard because it is the first grandchild on both my mom and my dad's side of the family (and they come from large families). I won't want to sound ungrateful or snobby, but i really just want to have a nice day with family and friends (and have some cake lol). 

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Re: i want a party, but not a lot of gifts

  • babyhunbun7babyhunbun7

    Maybe have a get together but do not call it a baby shower.  People are going to buy you a gift if they want to but maybe who ever hosts the shower can gently tell people that gift cards are the way to go as you do not have a lot of space, that way you can buy things as you need them.  Maybe you can store some items at your moms?

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    In the end people will do what they want to do and you just have to make sure that whatever you can't store is returnable.
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  • weddingcaketasterweddingcaketaster member
    yeah we can store some stuff at my parents' house, but they are in NY and we are in Chicago, so the logistics of it kinda sucks.  I have some time to plan it out though i guess!

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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member

    I'm a fan of honesty.  My IL's don't get the concept either that our space is limited (small rowhome in the city).  One time we finally had to out and out say "large gifts are a problem. We don't have a lot of space.".

    W/ your parents at least, I would be upfront - tell them you know they are excited, but you're concerned about space.  You ask that they keep this in mind - and to spread the word. 

    In the end, people will still do what they want to do, but if I were told 'we really don't have space', I would keep that in mind when getting a gift.  That might actually lead me to getting a gift card instead w/ a note "to use down the road when there is more that you need or you have the space"

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    imageEastCoastBride:

    I'm a fan of honesty.  My IL's don't get the concept either that our space is limited (small rowhome in the city).  One time we finally had to out and out say "large gifts are a problem. We don't have a lot of space.".

    W/ your parents at least, I would be upfront - tell them you know they are excited, but you're concerned about space.  You ask that they keep this in mind - and to spread the word. 

    In the end, people will still do what they want to do, but if I were told 'we really don't have space', I would keep that in mind when getting a gift.  That might actually lead me to getting a gift card instead w/ a note "to use down the road when there is more that you need or you have the space"

    Unfortunatly... I tell my parents this on a regular basis.  It has not helped at all.

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