Feeling bad for hubby

stacey86 · September 2010

My hubby's work in the past three weeks has started pulling "little stunts" to "screw him over". For example he is suppose to recieve $100 a week for using his own vechile, well the past three weeks that havent put that on his check. Now he has to jump through all these hoops to get that money. Plus there is several other things that are happening that are really starting to get to him.

He wants to leave so bad he is miserable and its killing me to see him like this. At the sametime I just want him to suck it up and deal! I emotionally cant deal with this right now. Im due in a few months and wish that I could just tell him to quit and we will figure it out, but thats so NOT possible right now.

Any support I can get from you ladies is greatly appreciated.

I feel like im falling apart!

papagena · September 2010

((hugs)) Encourage him to start looking for another job. I don't think it's at all realistic these days to quit without having something to go to, personally, especially with a LO on the way. Still, I am here to tell you that work stress invariably has an effect on home, so better to be supportive and try and encourage him to get in a better situation than deal with work crap and a nb.

Hyfagal · September 2010

I'm sorry they're being shady. My H also hates his job. Our finances can't handle him changing jobs especially with a baby on the way so I'm stuck between being the sympathetic wife and stressing that he'll walk out one day. It's tough. : (

stacey86 · September 2010

He is actively looking for a new job, I just hate to see him so depressed. I just want to take the pain/issues away for him and I cant

stacey86 · September 2010

Hifagal I am really worried that he will walk out and I think thats what is really stressing me out we are finacially ok but not if he isnt working.

papagena · September 2010

stacey86:
He is actively looking for a new job, I just hate to see him so depressed. I just want to take the pain/issues away for him and I cant

I hear you. We kind of went through this with DS & DH's job at the time. Part of me wanted to be really supportive, listen to all the stories and be really consoling and the larger part of me wanted to say 'screw work - lets focus on being the happy pg couple/new parents'. Most definitely not fun.

yourmom5309 · September 2010

papagena:
((hugs)) Encourage him to start looking for another job. I don't think it's at all realistic these days to quit without having something to go to, personally, especially with a LO on the way. Still, I am here to tell you that work stress invariably has an effect on home, so better to be supportive and try and encourage him to get in a better situation than deal with work crap and a nb.

This. Sorry things are so rough. Hopefully all will get better soon.

kmlevine04@gmail.com · September 2010

We deal with this all the time too: my husband was in construction a few years ago and got laid off..wasn't able to find work for about 8 months, and is now starting from scratch in the insurance field in claims, which is horrible, and pays pretty awfully. but we can't afford to be with out benefits, which allows me to work per diem and make some more money that way, but today he came home so depressed about it...and the job is just getting worse because like 5 people have quit and the company is only replacing half of them, so the volume of work keeps going up, no overtime or anything. the hardest thing is that there really aren't other options, he just has to suck it up and deal with it until something better comes around at the same company. so tonight i just 'gave him the night off' of worrying about it. told him to have some drinks, relax and just do whatever he wants to take his mind off it.....now just wish i could do the same!

kmlevine04@gmail.com · September 2010

and sometimes i worry he'll just snap on a customer and get fired, or flat out just walk out one day, but i let him vent, then say 'you can handle it though right?' and he can...i know he wouldn't do anything to jeapordize our security especially with a LO on the way....i'm sure your husband wouldn't either!

CutieBean79 · September 2010

Oh boy, DH's work issues are so hard to know how to handle. I've always found that he just wants me to listen and be supportive. It's usually best for him to get actual advice from my dad or his friends.

bcarroll28 · September 2010

My DH hates his job too right now. I know he wants to quit and I wish it were that easy but he has been looking for something else. I worry about it a lot. Hopefully your husband will be able to find another job quickly but I know it is difficult with the way the economy is now. Good luck!

HoolahZinger · September 2010

Im so sorry. I don't even know what to say but I just hope things get better. Maybe get out in the sun. I know when I feel blue it always helps to get some extra vitamin D...kicks up the spirits a bit. Just know it will all work out for the best. Hang in there!

stacey86 · September 2010

Thanks ladies for all the support I really appreciate it. The good news is Hubby had a pretty good day at work yesterday (saturday) and he is off for the next two days!!!

missbobbijean · September 2010

My hubby has been working SO HARD lately with only a couple of days off in the last month. He even left the house at 1:30am this morning - Sunday -to work a 16 hr day! I just keep reminding him that he's doing SO MUCH for our family and how much I appreciate his hard work and dedication. If he works hard now he can take off a lot of time when the baby is born and we can be a family on maternity leave together. (for a couple of weeks anyway!) Just show him your love and support. If things are great at home and in all other parts of his life, work crap doesn't seem like such a big deal anymore. Anything helps! Hang in there!

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