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F/U to Angel's post: what song helped you thru m/c?
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I loved the lyrics that Angel just posted, and it got me thinking about the music that helped me through my experience... I know we must all have them. So my question is, what was "your song" during that hard time? Post lyrics too if you can...
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Re: F/U to Angel's post: what song helped you thru m/c?
"I have a dream" from Mamma Mia
Best lyrics in the song:
If you know the wonder of a fairytale, you can face the future, even if you fail.
And we all know how much of a failure you feel like after an m/c.
I had a few, but one of the main ones was "Just Wait" by Blues Traveler:
If ever you are feeling like you're tired
And all your uphill struggles leave you headed downhill
If you realize your wildest dreams can hurt you
And your appetite for pain has drinken its fill
I ask of you a very simple question
Did you think for one minute that you were alone
And is your suffering a privilege you share only
Or did you think that everybody else feels completely at home
Just wait
Just wait
Just wait
And it will come
If you think I've given up on you you're crazy
And if you think I don't love you well then you're just wrong
In time you might take to feeling better
Time is the beauty of the road being long
I know that now you feel no consolation
But maybe if I told you and informed you out loud
I say this without fear of hesitation
I can honestly tell you that you make me proud
Just wait
Just wait
Just wait
And it will come
If anything I might have just said has helped you
If anything I might have just said helped you just carry on
Your rise uphill may no longer seem a struggle
And your appetite for pain might all but be gone
I hope for you and cannot stop at hoping
Until that smile has once again returned to you face
There's no such thing as a failure who keeps trying
Coasting to the bottom is the only disgrace
Just wait
And it will come??
Without a doubt, "HELD" by Natalie Grant
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iOufqWodFNo
Lyrics:
They let him go.
They had no sudden healing.
To think that providence would
Take a child from his mother while she prays
Is appalling.
Who told us we'd be rescued?
What has changed and why should we be saved from nightmares?
We're asking why this happens
To us who have died to live?
It's unfair.
Chorus:
This is what it means to be held.
How it feels when the sacred is torn from your life
And you survive.
This is what it is to be loved.
And to know that the promise was
When everything fell we'd be held.
This hand is bitterness.
We want to taste it, let the hatred know our sorrow.
The wise hands opens slowly to lilies of the valley and tomorrow.
(Chorus)
This is what it means to be held.
How it feels when the sacred is torn from your life
And you survive.
This is what it is to be loved.
And to know that the promise was
When everything fell we'd be held.
Bridge:
If hope is born of suffering.
If this is only the beginning.
Can we not wait for one hour watching for our Savior?
(Chorus)
This is what it means to be held.
How it feels when the sacred is torn from your life
And you survive.
This is what it is to be loved.
And to know that the promise was
When everything fell we'd be held.
I had 2.. the first one I posted and then this one... Casting Crowns-
I was sure by now,God, that You would have reached down
and wiped our tears away,
stepped in and saved the day.
But once again, I say amen
and it's still raining
as the thunder rolls
I barely hear You whisper through the rain,
"I'm with you"
and as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise
the God who gives and takes away.
Chorus:
And I'll praise you in this storm
and I will lift my hands
for You are who You are
no matter where I am
and every tear I've cried
You hold in your hand
You never left my side
and though my heart is torn
I will praise You in this storm
I remember when I stumbled in the wind
You heard my cry to You
and raised me up again
my strength is almost gone how can I carry on
if I can't find You
and as the thunder rolls
I barely hear You whisper through the rain
"I'm with you"
and as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise
the God who gives and takes away
Chorus
I lift my eyes onto the hills
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth
I lift my eyes onto the hills
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth
Chorus
"Held" is a very good one. Also "Glory Baby" by Watermark. I posted it on my blog today.
Glory baby you slipped away as fast as we could say baby?baby..
You were growing, what happened dear?
You disappeared on us baby?baby..
Heaven will hold you before we do
Heaven will keep you safe until we?re home with you?
Until we?re home with you?
Miss you everyday
Miss you in every way
But we know there?s a
day when we will hold you
We will hold you
You?ll kiss our tears away
When we?re home to stay
Can?t wait for the day when we will see you
We will see you
But baby let sweet Jesus hold you
?till mom and dad can hold you?
You?ll just have heaven before we do
You?ll just have heaven before we do
Sweet little babies, it?s hard to
understand it ?cause we?re hurting
We are hurting
But there is healing
And we know we?re stronger people through the growing
And in knowing-
That all things work together for our good
And God works His purposes just like He said He would?
Just like He said He would?
Miss you everyday
BRIDGE:Miss you in every way
But we know there?s a
day when we will hold you
We will hold you
You?ll kiss our tears away
When we?re home to stay
Can?t wait for the day when we will see you
We will see you
But baby let sweet Jesus hold you
?till mom and dad can hold you?
You?ll just have heaven before we do
You?ll just have heaven before we do
I can?t imagine heaven?s lullabies
and what they must sound like
But I will rest in knowing, heaven is your home
And it?s all you?ll ever know?all you?ll ever know?
And later, when I got pg for the third time and was so scared and dealing with all those 1st tri emotions...
"In Repair" (John Mayer)
Too many shadows in my room?
Too many hours in this midnight?
Too many corners in my mind?So much to do to set my heart right?
Oh it's taking so long i could be wrong, i could be ready?
Oh but if i take my heart's advice?
I should assume it's still unsteady?
I am in repair, i am in repair?
Stood on the corner for a while?
To wait for the wind to blow down on me?
Hoping it takes with it my old ways?
And brings some brand new luck upon me?
Oh it's taking so long i could be wrong, i could be ready?
Oh but if i take my heart's advice?
I should assume it's still unsteady?
I am in repair, i am in repair?
And now i'm walking in the park?
All of the birds they dance below me?
Maybe when things turn green again?
It will be good to say you know me?
Oh it's taking so long i could be wrong, i could be ready?
Oh but if i take my heart's advice?
I should assume it's still unsteady?
Oh i'm never really ready, yeah, oh, i'm never really ready?
I'm in repair, i'm not together but i'm getting there?
?
Better in Time:
It's been the longest winter without you
I didn't know where to turn to
See somehow I can't forget you
After all that we've been through
Going coming thought I heard a knock
Who's there no one
Thinking that I deserve it
Now I realize that I really didn't know
If you didn't notice you mean everything
Quickly I'm learning to love again
All I know is I'ma be ok
[Chorus:]
Thought I couldn't live without you
It's gonna hurt when it heals too
It'll all get better in time
And even though I really love you
I'm gonna smile cause I deserve to
It'll all get better in time
I couldn't turn on the TV
Without something there to remind me
Was it all that easy
To just put aside your feelings
If I'm dreaming don't wanna laugh
Hurt my feelings but that's the past
I believe it
And I know that time will heal it
If you didn't notice boy you meant everything
Quickly I'm learning to love again
All I know is I'ma be ok
[Chorus:]
Thought I couldn't live without you
It's gonna hurt when it heals too
It'll all get better in time
And even though I really love you
I'm gonna smile cause I deserve to
It'll all get better in time
Since there's no more you and me
It's time I let you go
So I can be free
And live my life how it should be
No matter how hard it is I'll be fine without you
Yes I will
[Chorus: x2]
Thought I couldn't live without you
It's gonna hurt when it heals too
It'll all get better in time
And even though I really love you
I'm gonna smile cause I deserve to
It'll all get better in time
Every time I hear this song now I think of you, because it was on your myspace.
Fix You by Coldplay
When you try your best but you don't succeed
When you get what you want but not what you need
When you feel so tired but you can't sleep
Stuck in reverse.
And the tears come streaming down your face
When you lose something you can't replace
When you love someone but it goes to waste
Could it be worse?
Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you
And high up above or down below
When you're too in love to let it go
But if you never try you'll never know
"Just what your worth"
Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you
Tears stream, down on your face
When you lose something you cannot replace
Tears stream down your face and I...
Tears stream, down on your face
I promise you I will learn from my mistakes
Tears stream down your face and I...
Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you.
Hmm.. One that I really connected with was "Stealing Babies" by Our Lady Peace. Its not particularly uplifting though..
I'm teething on answers you're saving
How are you going to make me sleep again?
Well I'm dreaming you're stealing babies
When you gonna make me understand?
Why?
How should I say "I'm so sorry!"?
How should I pray, to know that we're alive?
Eve stands alone
By the knock on the door
By the thin in her bones
She's courageous and loving
Exhausted and cold
She's not ready to go
So the ghost on the phone
Helps her safely into her dream
You're leaving pieces of family
How you gonna help them understand?
Well I'm screaming
You're stealing babies
Why you wanna knock us down again?
Why?
How should I say "I'm so sorry!"
How should we pray, to make us feel alive?
Eve stands alone
By the knock
On the door
By the thin in her bones
She's courageous and loving
Exhausted and cold
She's not ready to go
So the ghost on the phone
Helps her safely into her dream
It must be our egos
It must be my lack
of faith that it might not come back
It must be our egos
It must be my lack
of faith that it might not come back
I've been weighed down again
I'm weighed down again"
m/c 1/2/08 and 3/12/08
Eve Amelia- Born 2/24/09. 6lb 9.9oz
Natalie Ruth - Born 6/13/11 7lb 6.6oz
m/c 1/2/08 and 3/12/08
Eve Amelia- Born 2/24/09. 6lb 9.9oz
Natalie Ruth - Born 6/13/11 7lb 6.6oz
"Life ain't always beautiful" by Gary Allan, and, because I was due with my first (resulted in a loss) in September, "Wake me up when September ends" by Green Day. Here are the lyrics to "Life...":
Life ain't always beautiful
Sometimes it's just plain hard
Life can knock you down, it can break your heart
Life ain't always beautiful
You think you're on your way
And it's just a dead end road at the end of the day
But the struggle makes you stronger
And the changes make you wise
And happiness has it's own way of takin' it sweet time
[chorus]
No,life aint always beautiful
Tears will fall sometimes
Life aint always beautiful
But it's a beautiful ride
Life aint always beautiful
Some days I miss your smile
I get tired of walkin' all these lonely miles
And I wish for just one minute
I could see your pretty face
Guess I can dream, but life dont work that way
But the struggles makes me stronger
And the changes make me wise
And happiness has it's own way of takin' its sweet time
No, life aint always beautiful
But I know I'll be fine
Hey, life aint always beautiful
But its a beautiful ride
What a beautiful ride
Ok, this is eerie:
I just went to light my candle for remembrance day, and went to play music on my Pandora.com station, and this song was on....I just think its freakily appropriate for PL Remembrance...
?
"Kite Song" (Patti Griffin)The Sunday after there was laughter in the air
Everybody had a kite
They were flying everywhere
And all the trouble went away
And it wasn't just a dream
All the trouble went away
And it wasn't just a dream
In the middle of the night
We try and try with all our mights
To light a little light down here
In the middle of the night
We dream of a million kites
Flying high above
The sadness and the fear
Little sister just remember
As you wander through the blue
The little kite that you sent flying
On a sunny afternoon
Made of something light as nothing
Made of joy that matters too
How the little dreams we dream
Are all we can really do
In the middle of the night
The world turns with all of it's might
A little diamond colored blue
In the middle of the night
We keep sending little kites
Until a little light gets through?
Lyrics of Slipped Away by Avril Lavigne
Nah-nah, nah nah nah, nah-nah
I miss you, miss you so bad
I don't forget you, oh it's so sad.
I hope you can hear me,I remember it clearly...
The day you slipped away
Was the day I found it won't be the same
Oh Nah-nah, nah nah nah, nah-nah
I didn't get around to kiss you
Goodbye on the hand.
I wish that I could see you again,I know that I can't
Oh
I hope you can hear me,
'cause I remember it clearly...
The day you slipped away,
Was the day I found it won't be the same
Oh
I've had my wake up,
Won't you wake up,
I keep asking why.
And I can't take it,
It wasn't fake, it
It happened, you passed by
Now you're gone, now you're gone
There you go, there you go--
Somewhere, I can't bring you back!
Now you're gone, now you're gone
There you go, there you go--
Somewhere, you're not coming back
The day you slipped away,
Was the day I found it won't be the same, oh...
The day you slipped away,
Was the day that I found it won't be the same oh...
Nah-nah, nah nah nah, nah-nah
I miss you
Love Land by Martina McBride:
Amazing all the progress we've made since the days of Thomas Edison
Still only God gives life in spite of modern medicine
Doctor's voices whispered we did all that we could do
But your baby wasn't strong enough
To make it the whole nine months
And as my world broke in two
He said I'll carry you through to Love Land
For the longest time I blamed myself
Thought I was paying for my mistakes
But we tried again
Now we're watchin' him blow three candles out
He's daddy's little man
And only God could have planned
The steps I've taken
That led me to where I am
Love Land
Anywhere you hold my hand
Is Love Land
A few months before I lost the baby, my grandma-who was one of my best friends- passed away. Her most favorite song was Storms Never Last by Waylon Jennings and Jessi Colter. I listened to it a million times...
Storms never last do they baby
Bad times all pass with the wind
Your hand in mine stills the thunder
And you make the sun want to shine.
You followed me down so many roads baby
I've picked wild flowers and sung you soft sad songs
And every road we took God knows
Our search was for the truth
And the clouds brewing now won't be the last.
Storms never last do they baby
Bad times all pass with the wind
Your hand in mine stills the thunder
And you make the sun want to shine.
Storms never last do they Jessi
Bad times all pass with the wind
Your hand in mine stills the thunder
And you make the sun want to shine...
Noone by Alicia Keys
I just want you close
Where you can stay forever
You can be sure
That it will only get better
You and me together
Through the days and nights
I don't worry 'cuz
Everything's going to be alright
People keep talking they can say what they like
But all I know is everything's
going to be alright
No one, no one, no one
Can get in the way of what I'm feeling
No one, no one, no one
Can get in the way of what I
feel for you, you, you
Can get in the way of what I feel for you
When the rain is pouring down
And my heart is hurting
You will always be around
This I know for certain
[ Find more Lyrics at www.mp3lyrics.org/ab ]
You and me together
Through the days and nights
I don't worry 'cuz
Everything's going to be alright
People keep talking they can say what they like
But all I know is everything's
going to be alright
No one, no one, no one
Can get in the way of what I'm feeling
No one, no one, no one
Can get in the way of what I
feel for you, you, you
Can get in the way of what I feel
I know some people search the world
To find something like what we have
I know people will try try to
divide something so real
So til the end of time I'm
telling you there is no one
No one, no one
Can get in the way of what I'm feeling
No one, no one, no one
Can get in the way of what I
feel for you.
I loved "No One" by Alicia Keys too - that came out shortly after my m/c and that was kind of the song I dedicated to DH because he totally carried me through that dark time.
The other one I got a lot of comfort from was "It Takes a Little Time" by Amy Grant ...
It takes a little time sometimes
To get your feet back on the ground
It takes a little time sometimes
To get the Titanic turned back around
It takes a little time sometimes
But baby you're not going down
It takes more than you've got right now
Give it time
What's this walking thru' my door
I know I've seen the look before
Sometimes in faces on the street
Sometimes in the mirror looking back at me
You can't fix this pain with money
You can't rush a weary soul
You can't sweep it under the rug, now honey
It don't take a lot to know
Now it may not be over by morning
But Rome wasn't built in a day
You can name that thing a thousand times
But it won't make it go away
Let me put my arms around you
And hold you while you weep
We've been talking and you know what
I'm sick of this talk
And it's nothing that won't keep
The song "With Me" by Sum 41 was the first song that came on the radio in the car right after I found out I was m/c. It struck a chord with me and I play it often and remember my first baby. Every time I hear it, I get choked up (like I am right now
). Here are the lyrics:
I don't want this moment
To ever end
Where everything's nothing, without you
I wait here forever just to,
To see you smile
'Cause it's true
I am nothing without you
Through it all
I've made my mistakes
I'll stumble and fall
But I mean these words
I want you to know
With everything, I won't let this go
These words are my heart and soul
I'll hold on to this moment, you know
As I bleed my heart out to show
And I won't let go
Thoughts read unspoken
Forever and now
And pieces of memories
Fall to the ground
I know what I didn't have so
I won't let this go
'Cause it's true
I am nothing without you
On the streets, where I walked alone
With nowhere to go
I've come to an end
I want you to know
With everything, I won't let this go
These words are my heart and soul
I'll hold on to this moment, you know
As I bleed my heart out to show
And I won't let go
In front of you're eyes
It falls from the skies
When you don't know what you're looking to find
In front of you're eyes
It falls from the skies
When you just never know what you will find
What you will find
What you will find
What you will find
What you will find
I don't want this moment to ever end
Where everything's nothing, without you
I want you to know
With everything, I won't let this go
These words are my heart and soul
I'll hold on to this moment, you know
As I bleed my heart out to show
And I won't let go
I want you to know
With everything, I won't let this go
These words are my heart and soul
I'll hold on to this moment, you know
As I bleed my heart out to show
And I won't let go
When the rain comes by Third Day
When the rain comes, it seems that everyone has
gone away
When the night falls, you wonder if you shouldn't
find someplace
To run and hide
Escape the pain
But hiding's such a lonely thing to do
I can't stop the rain
From falling down on you again
I can't stop the rain
But I will hold you 'til it goes away
When the rain comes
you blame it on the things that
you have done
When the storm fades
you know that rain must fall
on everyone
Rest awhile
it'll be alright
No one loves you like I do
When the rain comes
I will hold you
It's kind of a sad song in general, but I found one verse of "Another Suitcase" from Evita really resonated with me. ?It goes;
Call in three month's time and I'll be fine, I know
Well maybe not fine, but I'll survive anyhow
I won't recall the names and faces of each sad occasion
But that's no consolation here and now
(and the chorus is:)
So what happens now? ?So what happens now? ?Where am I going to?
(and the reply is:)
Don't ask anymore.?