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May 2011 Moms
Wishing I could see a doc sooner
Can't get my first appointment until I'm in my 11th week- it seems so far away! I'm struggling with m/s and migraines and would love to hear a damn heartbeat so I can get that "it's worth it" feeling. Right now, I just feel like crap and have no idea if everything is going okay!
My biggest fear right now is to suffer through all of this only to find out at 11 weeks something is wrong...
Not happy, but with our health insurance and location it doesn't appear I have another option except to wait till late Oct. So I'm reading about all of your wonderful recent doc appointments and wishing I didn't have to wait so long...
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Re: Wishing I could see a doc sooner
It is a long time to wait. In the meantime though, you have no reason to think anything is wrong. If you are having a really hard time with your m/s, then I'd suggest calling your doctor to see what they would recommend.
Please don't feel jealous, though. Many of the women who are getting multiple betas or having an early u/s is because they have had losses, have experienced fertility issues or have other reasons for closer monitoring. That is not something to be jealous of. Trust me on that one.
Missed m/c 11.09 | Missed m/c 3.10 | We miss you & love you so.
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Formerly toddandjulie
Many of the ladies who have had appointments and an u/s already, have experienced a loss in the past or had difficulty getting pregnant.
I understand your fears (I have them myself), but I'm not sure being jealous of the incredible hardships these ladies have faced is appropriate.
It is very common for healthy women, under the age of 35 (esp if this is your first pregnancy and you have not experienced difficulties) to not have an appointment and/or u/s until 8-12 weeks. Although we don't post about it as often, there are many of us here in the same boat as you. I know it's easier said than done, but try to hang in there and enjoy this time.
Okay- not jealous- I know it's good to be considered low risk (although they didn't really ask me any questions to determine if I was, but I know that I am), and having many friends who have had tough pregnancies I know I'm lucky to be feeling everything I'm feeling.
So perhaps I'm frustrated and just wish I could get in to a doc and get a little peace of mind. I'm feeling very "on my own" in this process so far. It wasn't until I googled my allergy medicine did I learn it's a big no-no in pregnancy. I caught that early but would love to see a doc to make sure I'm not doing something else wrong and that everything is on track!
I totally understand.
My first appointment isn't until next week (and that's only because the OB is going by my LMP and thinks that I will be almost 9 weeks when I will actually only be 7 weeks - I know when I ovulated), and even at that appointment they will only be doing a physical exam and pap smear. I wont get an u/s until 20 weeks, so I completely understand your frustrations. Unfortunately, I have found this practice of no unnecessary or early u/s to be very common now-a-days.
In the mean time, does your office have a nurses line that you can call with questions? There should be someone that you can contact with non-emergency questions that you may have until your first appointment.
I completely understand, with my son I didn't see the doctor until I was 12 weeks, this time around I have already seen him twice with my third coming up on the 22nd. I would trade anything to not be high risk. Its no fun.
The 1st tri is so hard now knowing whats going on and the worry that comes with it. Please try to relax (easier said then done) and you can always call your doctor to see what they say. I phone call is always free. I know this doesn't help much, but please don't be jealous. I am sure all of us would trade to be in your shoes!
I can completely relate. I went in to a doctor two days after my first positive at home, and the test came up negative at the doctor's office so they sent me home and said to come back in a week (since I still hadn't missed my period and it was so early). I had a mini-breakdown yesterday feeling like I was "alone in this" (as you said) and I just wanted reassurance from a doctor. Calling and talking to the nurse really calmed me down. She said to just take of myself, keep taking my vitamins, eat right and drink lots of water... and relax! It's hard not knowing what's going on inside our bodies, and I too have a huge fear of going in for my first ultrasound and finding that I m/c (which I think at this point will be at about 8-10 weeks... it hasn't been scheduled yet).
I have been taking HPTs every morning and keep getting positives, and I'm telling myself that's a good thing. This morning I woke up and my boobs aren't feeling as tender and I haven't had any cramping. Those were my only two "symptoms" and now that they're gone, I have to keep myself from worrying.
It's good to have this board to talk to and relate with. My husband just keeps telling me to calm down and not think about it. Easier said than done, lol.
Thanks for the support ladies. Reading these boards has definitely been helpful (and sometimes troubling when I read the problem stories! Although, it's a reality check that anything can happen).
My husband is more frustrated with the late appointment date than I am. I think he just doesn't know what to do with himself because I am just NOT myself right now and while he's all happy and excited, I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel yet. Doesn't feel real- just feel sick.
I feel your pain! My doc office wouldn't give me an appt. till my 10th week, I then had to cancel (parent night at the school I teach at), so now I can't go in till the 11th week. Crossing my fingers that everything will be ok when I go on Oct. 20th!! Frustrating, I thought they would want to see me earlier, especially a first time mom. They will have no clue what my starting weight is or anythign since this is also a doctor I just swithced over to. UGH.
Hope that your weeks go by quickly!