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Coming out of the IF closet (long)
So DH and I have been trying to come out of the IF closet a little bit. We've been telling people on an individual/couple basis, when if "feels" right.
So my brother emailed me Monday and asked how we were doing, and asked when we were moving out to the burbs (near him and SIL). I'm pretty close with him, and I think he suspected that we were trying to get pregnant and not succeeding.
Anyway, I started out talking about how we aren't moving out there until we have at least one child, and that hasn't happened yet because we're dealing with IF. I told him about our 4 IUIs, and how we're moving toward IVF. I included the What IF video, and said he could ask me whatever he wanted.
He hasn't responded yet, which is totally unlike him. I mean, I poured my heart out, and he didn't even reply! They're really Catholic and probably don't agree with IVF, which didn't occur to me until I'd already sent the email. I suppose I should have expected that not everyone would be supportive, but so far everyone we've told has been so I guess I got a little spoiled.
There's no real point to this post, just wanted to share with you ladies. I guess I wasn't really as prepared as I thought I was for people's reaction to us telling them about our IF. I'd love to hear other people's experiences talking about IF if you want to share them!
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Re: Coming out of the IF closet (long)
Dealing with IF is so hard. We are still in the "IF" closet and only my BFF knows about our treatments and that is because she went through 5 IVF cycles to conceive.
IVF is a difficult process so I hope you get all of the family support you need. You know we are always here for you! ((hugs))
I'm sorry he didn't respond right away. That is the hard thing about email. It is very possible he didn't get it yet, or got super busy, or simply doesn't know what to say. If he did get it, he is probably processing and trying to understand what you're going through. Give him some time because this is so new to him I'm sure he was shocked. Good luck and I hope you hear back from him very soon!
Thanks so much, all! I am hoping he is just busy, or working on a response, etc. Maybe he's getting ready to tell me to just relax
I don't know what I would do without this board!!
I hope he is just trying to figure out the best way to respond. It is difficult for many people because they don't understand. It sounds like you guys are really close so maybe he is just trying to find the best way to be supportive.
I have finally started to tell people and surprisingly I have found everybody I have told very supportive. One of my most catholic friends told me her father's wife had IVF to conceive her sister. I was pretty shocked!
~SAIF/PAIF/Everyone Welcome~
Me= 37 and DH = 41
Dx: DOR, Endo, APA+ (really high beta 2 glycoprotein antibody and high everything else tested), heterozygous MTHFR mutation, positive for lupus anticoagulant, high FSH, low AMH and both tubes blocked (per HSG on 3/8/11)
IVF #1 - long lupron (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 4 retrieved, 3 fertilized; ET 2 blasts and 1 frozen = BFN
IVF #2 - a version of antagonist with EPP (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 6 retrieved, 4 mature, 3 fertilized, 2 blasts and 1 frozen blast transferred on day 5 = BFN.
IVF #3 April was postponed to May, May was canceled. June/July was canceled. Had a cyst aspiration and then began IVF #3 in August. ER on 8/22; ET on 8/24 with AH. +HPT on 9/5. Beta #1 (11dpo) = 3; Beta #2 (15dpo) = 29; Beta #3 (17dpo) = 60; Beta #4 (19 dpo) = 118. Heartbeat at 6 weeks 6 days =132. Lil is here!
TTC#2: Trigger + TI = BFN; Clomid + Trigger + IUI = BFN.
IVF #4: BCP + MDLF + Lovenox = 7R, 1F = Transferred 1 6-cell embryo on day 3 = BFN
IVF #5: MDLF + Lovenox = 4R, 1F = Transferred 1 10-cell compacting embryo on day 3 = BFN
IVF #6: (New RE): Long Antagonist November 2014 (transferred two 8 cell grade 1 embryos and froze one blast) = BFN
FET#1: BFN
I bet he is just processing the info...maybe taking it in and thinking about what to write back. He probably does not want to say the "wrong" thing. I know when I told my VERY catholic cousin that we would consider IVF she sent me all of these things from the "church", which do not support IUI or IVF. I no longer discuss our IF with her. Sorry you are having to deal with this. I have basically told everyone from friends to family....the others seem excited about it. My Grandparents call all the time to check on me, which is great.
Hang in there-I bet you will have an email from him shortly!!
Oh-I love your profile pic!! I only made it to 2 games this season :-( Do you go to an RE in the city?? Mine is in Orland Park.
I'm sorry he hasn't responded, love. I hope he is just busy. I am very Catholic as well but I am wholeheartedly for IVF. My thoughts are that God wouldn't have given us the technology if he didn't want us to use it.
Much
to you 
Carina 12.28.2010 | Aurelia 9.23.12 | Chart - Round 3
We are also in the IF closet, I am sorry you are dealing with this, it is something that we may face soon too, thanks for sharing
thanks, sweets
congrats on getting the crib put together! hope the cats leave it alone!
thanks! ypgm