Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Angel5218
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Re: I am going to hit someone
I'd hit them too. I'm so over the "oh man, you're going to have your hands full" comments. No, really? TYVM, Captain Obvious.
And as a 2nd time mom, I slept better after my first was born...granted I was still up every couple of hours, but when I did sleep it was a LOT better than any sleep I got the last month of pregnancy
I am with you!!
My own personal favorite is "oh just wait"!
"I am a little achey" -- oh just wait!
"My car seems so messy" --- oh just wait!
"I stubbed my toe"--- oh just wait!
Really? Really!! I just want to hit people.
Brady Phoenix, 8.29.09
Claire Zoe, 10.26.10
THIS!! You mean I might get to sleep for 2 whole hours in a row?!!! That would be spectacular! I'm only getting 4-6 hours of sleep in a 24 hour period right now, and its very broken up throughout the day, so I'm very prepared for sleep deprivation! I would rather get up to a screaming newborn than screaming hips!
ummmm yeah- i wish it was that simple. I thought the same thing last time too. well at least i can sleep in spurts and my hips won't hurt etc. However it just makes it that much worse- because you can't even draw on 'reserves'- because you spent the last 2 months with crappy sleep- and then add on top of the constant getting up and taking care of a newborn. It makes you feel like you have been hit by a MAC truck - sucks but just how it is.
I'm sorry, but wasn't this OP about how annoying people like YOU are?
It makes me want to stop talking about my pregnancy all together to anyone.
Connor - 12/15/10 Abby - EDD 11/29/13
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OMG I totally hear you. You know what's ever worse? When your brother in law (A man - ie an individual who will never be so much as 2 minutes pregnant as long as he lives since he's a MAN).... telling you (in your second trimester) "You think you're sore / tired now, just wait until you're 40 weeks. THIS coming from a man whose wife only made it to 34 weeks (after going into labor at 33 weeks and spending a week in the hospital on rest!) AAARRRGHHHH!!!! And you can't deck them because they only say these things at family gatherings. GRRRR!!!
Of course you don't like being spoken to like you're some idiot who has no idea what she's in for. But everyone has such good intentions....sigh.....
Oh equally bad - everytime something happens during my pregnancy, my Mom is like "well THAT didn't happen during my pregnancy" like because it didn't I must be lying because my pregnancy (and everyone elses) is supposed to go just as hers did, her pregnancies being the gold standard. Also, another one of her favourites: "That won't happen during your labor, it didn't happen during mine"... GRRR!! People need to shut the hell up around us preggos.
Ugh, same here! Or the, "Get as much sleep as you can now, because you won't get any when the baby comes..."
Well I CAN'T get any sleep now, so it doesn't really make an effing difference, does it?
Agh!