3rd Trimester

I am going to hit someone

The next person who tells me that...oh you think your tired now just wait till the baby is born... or any version of that statement is getting slapped. Maybe its me being hormonal but I am not stupid so please stop talking to me like I am. Just because I am a new mom doesn't mean I am in total denial as to what my life will be like with a child. I do not find it funny or cute when a parent tells me the obvious in a way that makes it sound like I have no clue what I am in store for. I get it, I wont know until my child is born but I don't like being talked to like I am dumb.

Sorry, rant over.  If I am being a b!tch I apologize but I swear it just grates on my nerves whenever someone tells me that.

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          Connor - 12/15/10                                     Abby - EDD 11/29/13
Lilypie - (bLG7)

Re: I am going to hit someone

  • Nope I totally agree with you... its irritating as all get out...
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  • I'd hit them too. I'm so over the "oh man, you're going to have your hands full" comments. No, really? TYVM, Captain Obvious.

    And as a 2nd time mom, I slept better after my first was born...granted I was still up every couple of hours, but when I did sleep it was a LOT better than any sleep I got the last month of pregnancy :)

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  • I alternate between that comment and the "you're pregnant?!?" comment...I'm skinny except for the huge baby bump on my torso.  So I've been alternating between saying something about how "nope, I've just been working on my beer belly," or "oh my gosh!  I better check it out - I had no idea I was pregnant!"
  • i HATE this...i want to tell them "do you have ANY idea how often i get up at night to pee? it's every hour to every hour and a half if im lucky! but i'm so thirsty when i hoist myself out of bed belly first that not drinking at night is not an option..and the baby, who HAS to be some sort of blood relative to the hulk, kicks it actually moves me around and he kicks for HOURS at a time starting at 1am usually till about 4" haha. i don't think i sleep now..i'm just going through the motions..
  • I am with you!!

    My own personal favorite is "oh just wait"!  

    "I am a little achey" -- oh just wait!

    "My car seems so messy" --- oh just wait!

    "I stubbed my toe"--- oh just wait!

    Really?  Really!!  I just want to hit people. 

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  • Well they don't mean to hurt your feelings or talk down to you, it is just something people say. Every PG woman gets it. I just laughed it off. Don't let it get to you, try not to be so sensitive and worked up over trivial stuff and then you won't be so angry you need to write out a whole post about it.
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  • Ummm my sleep is sooo shitty right now that i guarentee that i will sleep better when I am not pregnant even if it is in two hour periods !!
  • I am with you !! Any version of "just wait" makes me want to throw something. My MIL is the worse for this and I want to slap her. 
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  • imageLitchfieldMom:
    Ummm my sleep is sooo shitty right now that i guarentee that i will sleep better when I am not pregnant even if it is in two hour periods !!

    THIS!! You mean I might get to sleep for 2 whole hours in a row?!!! That would be spectacular! I'm only getting 4-6 hours of sleep in a 24 hour period right now, and its very broken up throughout the day, so I'm very prepared for sleep deprivation! I would rather get up to a screaming newborn than screaming hips!Crying

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    imageLitchfieldMom:
    Ummm my sleep is sooo shitty right now that i guarentee that i will sleep better when I am not pregnant even if it is in two hour periods !!

    THIS!! You mean I might get to sleep for 2 whole hours in a row?!!! That would be spectacular! I'm only getting 4-6 hours of sleep in a 24 hour period right now, and its very broken up throughout the day, so I'm very prepared for sleep deprivation! I would rather get up to a screaming newborn than screaming hips!Crying

    ummmm yeah- i wish it was that simple. I thought the same thing last time too. well at least i can sleep in spurts and my hips won't hurt etc. However it just makes it that much worse- because you can't even draw on 'reserves'- because you spent the last 2 months with crappy sleep- and then add on top of the constant getting up and taking care of a newborn. It makes you feel like you have been hit by a MAC truck - sucks but just how it is.

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    ummmm yeah- i wish it was that simple. I thought the same thing last time too. well at least i can sleep in spurts and my hips won't hurt etc. However it just makes it that much worse- because you can't even draw on 'reserves'- because you spent the last 2 months with crappy sleep- and then add on top of the constant getting up and taking care of a newborn. It makes you feel like you have been hit by a MAC truck - sucks but just how it is.

    I'm sorry, but wasn't this OP about how annoying people like YOU are?

  • imagemcdmaw:

    I am with you!!

    My own personal favorite is "oh just wait"!  

    "I am a little achey" -- oh just wait!

    "My car seems so messy" --- oh just wait!

    "I stubbed my toe"--- oh just wait!

    Really?  Really!!  I just want to hit people. 

    It makes me want to stop talking about my pregnancy all together to anyone. 

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              Connor - 12/15/10                                     Abby - EDD 11/29/13
    Lilypie - (bLG7)
  • I want to join this club!  The 'oh just wait' I have no defense against, but whenever someone tells me 'you think you're tired now...' I just tell them that I've been an insomniac for years so I know how to handle a lack of sleep when I'm not caring for a parasite.  That usually shuts 'em up but it still irritates the he77 out of me!



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  • OMG I totally hear you. You know what's ever worse? When your brother in law (A man - ie an individual who will never be so much as 2 minutes pregnant as long as he lives since he's a MAN).... telling you (in your second trimester) "You think you're sore / tired now, just wait until you're 40 weeks. THIS coming from a man whose wife only made it to 34 weeks (after going into labor at 33 weeks and spending a week in the hospital on rest!) AAARRRGHHHH!!!! And you can't deck them because they only say these things at family gatherings. GRRRR!!!

     Of course you don't like being spoken to like you're some idiot who has no idea what she's in for. But everyone has such good intentions....sigh.....

     Oh equally bad - everytime something happens during my pregnancy, my Mom is like "well THAT didn't happen during my pregnancy" like because it didn't I must be lying because my pregnancy (and everyone elses) is supposed to go just as hers did, her pregnancies being the gold standard. Also, another one of her favourites: "That won't happen during your labor, it didn't happen during mine"... GRRR!! People need to shut the hell up around us preggos.  

  • imageDaniLorello:
    Nope I totally agree with you... its irritating as all get out...

    Ugh, same here! Or the, "Get as much sleep as you can now, because you won't get any when the baby comes..."

    Well I CAN'T get any sleep now, so it doesn't really make an effing difference, does it?

    Agh!

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