Newbie here. When can I tell people?

etermo · September 2010

I really just want to tell people- someone anyone.
I'm six weeks, almost seven... Can I at least tell my mom?

SittinUnderAPalmTree · September 2010

It's totally up to you! There is no rule saying when it's okay to tell. A lot of people wait until they are 12 weeks because the risk of miscarriage is lower at that point. However, I would say tell the people you would want support from if, heaven forbid, something were to happen.

Good luck for a happy, healthy pregnancy!!

bubbles231211 · September 2010

SittinUnderAPalmTree:

It's totally up to you! There is no rule saying when it's okay to tell. A lot of people wait until they are 12 weeks because the risk of miscarriage is lower at that point. However, I would say tell the people you would want support from if, heaven forbid, something were to happen.

Good luck for a happy, healthy pregnancy!!

This exactly.

I was so excited that I told my parents and IL's right after I got my positive test results - so about 5 weeks along!

megann831 · September 2010

SittinUnderAPalmTree:
It's totally up to you! There is no rule saying when it's okay to tell. A lot of people wait until they are 12 weeks because the risk of miscarriage is lower at that point. However, I would say tell the people you would want support from if, heaven forbid, something were to happen.
Good luck for a happy, healthy pregnancy!!

right, I told my mom at 5 weeks because I would have wanted to tell her if I miscarried, I didn't tell MIL till after 12

bella9280 · September 2010

i felt the same way so i told my family at 8 weeks everyone else i wanted till 2nd tri

tattooedgwen · September 2010

We told everyone at 6 weeks after we saw the heartbeat on the ultrasound. There's definitely no "rule", just do what works for you.

freeatlast2014 · September 2010

I told my mom right after my BFP! And I made a dr. appt the very next day and then told my ILs. The rest of the family found out maybe a week or so later - so basically most of the family knew around 7 or 8 weeks. My mom told me that we need every prayer we can get and if something ever did happen then I would need those prayers even more (plus she was bursting at the seems with the secret!)

You really have to do what you are comfortable with, like PP said!

bridgette409 · September 2010

As soon as I missed my period I told my boyfriend right then and for our 4 year anniversary I surprised him with the pregnancy test...which came out positive. I told my sister next BIG mistake. I just found out that she secretly told all of my cousins! When I told my parents at 6 weeks they told people too instead of waiting! Now everyone on my side of the family knows behind my back!! The sad part is that no one in my boyfriends family knows...he is so nervous it is cute even though I KNOW how excited they will be. Point here is...you can't trust anyone! Even my boyfriend told his friends! There goes the joy of sharing the news.

RebeccaJayne · September 2010

We told our immediate family after our first doctor's appt, which was ~7 weeks. They did good keeping it a secret. At 12 weeks, we told everyone else. Congrats!!

brooke82308 · September 2010

Like other posts said, it think it is a matter of personal opinion. I knew immediately I was going to tell my mom because we are very close and i knew I need her for support (if anything happens). DH told his parents and his brother and I told my dad, sister, brother, sil, and grandma. DJH told his best friend and i will probably tell my closest friend on Saturday because we are going on a historcial tavern tour and if she sees me not drinking, she miht think something is up!!

Do whatever feels right to you!

G/L

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