invite co-workers to shower?

nkubon · September 2010

so i can't decide what to do. when i started working at my new job, and they found out i was pregnant one of the girls said "oh we have to throw you a shower at the office". well since then there's been no talk of it, which is to be expected of course, but now in the planning of my shower with friends and family i am wondering if i should invite my co-workers? i really can't decide what to do.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

discobelle:
I would probably only include them if we were close friends and spent time together outside of work.

Pretty much this. It's quite possible they ARE still throwing you a shower, but it might be a surprise. In any case, unless you spend a lot of time with them outside of work, it would probably be awkward to have them at your shower.

stellabelle · September 2010

I just straight up asked the gals I work with at a bank, "Do you all want to be invited to my 'friend shower' or would you rather do your own thing for me?!" lol, hahahaha.

No one was offended, and one of the gals even offered to have a "work shower" for me at her house!

themissizz · September 2010

discobelle:
I would probably only include them if we were close friends and spent time together outside of work.

Agreed. I didn't invite my co-workers because, to be honest, I wanted to feel comfortable and just around my closest friends and family for my shower.

EastCoastBride · September 2010

discobelle:
I would probably only include them if we were close friends and spent time together outside of work.

This.

This is the thing- people can express excitement for you (I see this w/ engagements too) and be genuinely happy, but that doesn't mean they expect or want to be "involved" past that. As in, I can be really excited a coworker is engaged but I dont' expect to be invited to the wedding, and the same goes w/ pregnancy.

Being happy for you doesn't mean they have to now be included in the personal aspects of your life!

So, even if they don't throw you a shower, unless I was friends w/ them outside of work, I would not invite them.

deltagirl79 · September 2010

discobelle:
I would probably only include them if we were close friends and spent time together outside of work.

I agree with this. How big is your office though? There are only two other women in my office so they were invited to mine since they know my family.

laurel22 · September 2010

discobelle:
I would probably only include them if we were close friends and spent time together outside of work.

Ditto. Every work shower I've attended has been a surprise for the guest of honor, so there's still a chance someone is planning something.

ToBeWedJuly07 · September 2010

I'm already having a tough time narrowing down my guest list for my mom as she is paying per person, so I think it depends on budget as well as how close you are to them and if they will have a shower for you. I personally would leave it alone as they may throw one and if not, if they really want to give you a gift they will or may even ask you where you are registered. Good Luck

rhubarb123 · September 2010

Unless you socialize with these women outside of the office they should not be invited to your friend/family shower. If they give you a work shower fine...if not fine. Is it common for women to have work showers given for them at your place of employment? If you don't know or if there are very few women I would just wait and see. If they don't give you one and they want to give you a gift, they will do that whether they are invited to your shower or not.

mypreciouscargos · September 2010

Invite your co-workers who are your friends. I wouldn't include them just because I work with them. A baby shower is personal I think.

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