Work Shower ... Help

cromanow · September 2010

I moved out of state for work 3 years ago w/ DH. We will be traveling home for our 'big' family and friend shower. However, I would like to do something here where I live for work folks and friends in this area.

1. Is it tacky to throw myself a shower?

2. I work with almost all men (would that be weird?)?

3. Should I just let it go ... Maybe one of the wives will step up - maybe wait and see?

Help!!!

Jenniferk08 · September 2010

1- yes it is tacky to throw yourself a shower

2- most guys are not really into showers so they might find it wierd. My coworker threw my a bridal shower and the guys definately ran off after snagging a piece of cake.

3- yes let it go.you are already having a shower so do not worry about it

PunkyBooster · September 2010

1. Yes, very tacky to throw yourself a shower.

2. Yes, men think that this would be weird. DH works in a very male-dominated industry, although there are women in the HR and accounting departments who throw the showers, then men just pool money and hand it over to the women to do something with.

3. Yes, let it go. A shower isn't a right.

cromanow · September 2010

Yeah ... just needed to read it. It is tacky! Already let go! Thanks for being honest and true.

EastCoastBride · September 2010

I know you've already "let it go", but I don't understand the concept of wanting to "do something for them".

If THEY want to celebrate your baby and pregnancy, THEY will do something for you. You "doing something for them" is basically saying "I'm going to throw a party where you get to go and buy me something! Isn't that nice of me?!".

This is why it's tacky! You're not really doing them any favors.

laurel22 · September 2010

Yes, very tacky to throw yourself a shower, so I would let it go and wait to see what happens.

A better idea would be to host a "meet the baby" party a couple months after your LO is born. You can invite all of your local friends & co-workers over for a celebration where you provide food and drinks, etc. Some people might get you baby gifts then (but don't expect them, and don't include registry info in the invitations... people can find it on their own if they want to).

TColeman · September 2010

EastCoastBride:

I know you've already "let it go", but I don't understand the concept of wanting to "do something for them".

If THEY want to celebrate your baby and pregnancy, THEY will do something for you. You "doing something for them" is basically saying "I'm going to throw a party where you get to go and buy me something! Isn't that nice of me?!".

This is why it's tacky! You're not really doing them any favors.

THIS

How is throwing yourself a shower doing something for them? Let it go....one shower is sufficient.

cromanow · September 2010

Thanks for the thoughts ladies ... this one sparked some good talkin! I dont think it would be for THEM per say - but I agree why get greedy one shower is enough. Im sure by that time anyway the last thing I would want to do is plan a party! Just a thought - thanks for yours!

Strunella · September 2010

EastCoastBride:

If THEY want to celebrate your baby and pregnancy, THEY will do something for you. You "doing something for them" is basically saying "I'm going to throw a party where you get to go and buy me something! Isn't that nice of me?!".

My thoughts exactly.