2 baby showers?

kdidit · September 2010

My family lives in Pennsylvania but Me, My boyfriend, and his family all live in West Virginia.

Should I try and have 2 baby showers or one in the middle for everyone to travel to???

EastCoastBride · September 2010

It depends on whether people offer to throw you a shower! If someone from each side of the family offers, then have one shower. If only one person offers, then come back and talk to us again.

But you should not be throwing your own shower nor should you ask anyone to throw one for you.

kdidit · September 2010

Thanks! I know my mom and sisters will be throwing me one but I haven't had a chance to talk to my boyfriends mom yet.

EastCoastBride · September 2010

Well, still, "how" you talk to her matters.

After finding out from your mom and sister how many people they feel they can host, you can figure out who to invite. Is there even room for your bf's family?

If there is, THEN you can go to his mom and simply say "my mom and sister are throwing a shower in PA. They wanted to know if there is anyone you'd like to invite.. (if there is an issue of # of people, add: ) They have room to invite up to __ more people.".

From this, either she'll say yes, no, or "Oh- we want to throw you a shower too!".

If she says "no" and doesn't say anything past that, then you say "o.k." and leave it at that.

Remember a shower is a gift and it's on the hostess to offer!

PunkyBooster · September 2010

I wouldn't ever "talk" to someone about a shower. I'd wait until someone said, "Oh, we are throwing you a shower, what week works best for you" or something. I wouldn't be the one to bring it up, that is for sure. That is kind of rude and presumptuous, IMO.

You could say, "Mom and sister are throwing my shower on this date, I'd love it if you could come!" (my opinion is MIL and SIL should be invited, regardless) and your MIL may say, "Oh I'm throwing you one, too! What week works best for you, etc." But that is the ONLY way I'd bring up a shower to her.

Just my opinion.

kdidit · September 2010

Thanks!! These are all good ideas. I just want to make sure I include everyone as best I can.

kimski · September 2010

We live in the middle of our parents They live 4 hours apart but the extended family for each side lives even further apart. So my mom is doing a shower for my side. Then my MIL is hosting one near her house (more central to their side of the family).

GoMommy · September 2010

I am having 2 baby showers. My mom is hosting the one that will be for the family (and it will be co-ed) and my best friend is hosting one that will be for friends. The friend one is going to be in the town I live in now and my family one is going to be in my old home town. It'd prolly be easier to have 2, that way people don't have to travel. HTH.

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