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Who else is NOT having a shower, sprinkle, anything for 2nd baby...
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Even if it is a different sex, and they are 3 years apart?
I know it's not to be expected at all, but a few people have mentioned something about "at your shower, blah blah blah....". And this is coming from people who would be the natural ones to plan it. So I got a little excited b/c there is some stuff that we really need, and we are barely getting by financially.
I guess I just wanted to vent about being slightly disappointed that there won't be a teeny tiny celebration around baby #2, even after people have mentioned it.
I'm over it - thanks for listening!! Just in a crappy mood today I guess 
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Re: Who else is NOT having a shower, sprinkle, anything for 2nd baby...
In my family/circle of friends, I have never heard of having a shower for the second baby. I definitely won't be expecting one if I have another baby after this one.
However, MH's family (who lives in AZ) and the people I knew when we lived in FL all have thrown showers for each baby. I don't know if this is a regional thing or just my family, but either way I would just be thankful that I got a shower with any of my babies.
Ok, eeasy..not looking for birth faries here. I'm just saying that I got my hopes up when people like my Mom, Aunt, Boss, and close friends were talking about my shower-to-be. We are not starving or anything, but it was just a bit of a relief when they were all asking about registries and stuff....that's all.
We?re not even having one for this baby, and it?s our first. For one because it?s not really that common in Europe and Asia to have them, and for two cos we have only been in this country for about a year now AND it?s our third country in as many years, so we didn?t feel we knew anybody well enough over here to ask/rely on them to throw us a shower.
Here it?s more normal for people to visit the baby once born and then bring gifts.
My kids will be 16 months apart but are of the opposite sex.
No, I am not having a shower or sprinkle that I know of. I don't expect one nor am I disappointed.
Well, I had two boys 2 years apart and did not have a shower for my second, which was fine. One was mentioned albeit casually and I shut it down because we didn't need anything etc. But close friends and family still came round with diapers, bibs, blankies and clothes for the little guy.
For my 3rd (a girl this time) will also be almost 3 years apart, I was hoping a little bit - not gonna lie, lol. Only because I am really excited to be having a girl! But that being said I am reusing everything I can and taking advantage of the babiesrus trade in sale. People have also been very generous from the minute they found out I was having a girl, i already have bibs, onesies and outfits! i hear my work place is planning on throwing me something small - God bless 'em. My girlfriends are having a 'girls night out - pregnant in the city' dinner that we usually have when anyone's having a baby and I do know i'll be getting little gifts along the way. People just love babies.
so don't worry, it'll work out - you might not get what you want, but you can always exchange it for someting else or get store credit.
Around here for both coworkers and friends, it is not abnormal to have a shower for the 2nd (or 7th) child, regardless of the number of years between children or gender. Stuff that people register for may be different, like you wouldnt register for a crib if you have the one from your other child still, but little things would be okay.
Yes, I have a coworker who has had 7 boys in 11 years and she had a shower for every single one of them. Most of the people in office went, and we had a great time, none of us had a problem giving a gift for the baby, we considered it being stingy to say no to new presents for a new baby.
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Absolutely nothing here!! Unless someone has a surprise one planned that I don't know about!
I'll have 2 boys, 23 months apart. So clothes should fit and everything.
I know we did a surprise "sprinkle" for my BFF when she had a girl and her 1st was a boy! We just had people bring one girl outfit. It was very small and laid back.
I do really like that idea
And it would be much for fun than some suffy shower anyway, hehe! I am on the edge of the very steep hormonal cliff today, and it's not going to take much to send me over the edge. Thankfully I have not had too many days feeling like this, but it's my turn today!!
Thanks for understanding!
I threw my friend a small shower at work when she had her son(her daughter was 4 at the time). I decided that we weren't there to help her celebrate before her daughter was born, so we should help her out with her son:) She was shocked beyond shocked. I still love seeing that moment when she walked up the stairs! She didn't have any other showers at all for her son.
Second showers are not the norm in our circle. I never heard of the term "sprinkle" before thebump.
I have a boy and when he is 3.5 will be having my girl. no shower, sprinkle, etc.. Honestly a few people mentioned something and wanted to know a list etc, I just said no thank you. I was not comfortable with it.
We will be having a Ethan welcoming his new addition to the house party in late Nov/early Dec. This way it is more about him throwing a party for his sister.
We are not having anything for our second, even though it's a different gender. Personally, I see our LO's baptism as a kind of "meet the baby" party, as DD will be baptized right around 2 months old. And there is no way I would try to host a meet the baby party that would coincide with the holidays, but only because that's too much work for me. : )
i've been to a few friend's 'sprinkles' for their 2nds - it's usually smaller and more laid back than a full blown baby shower. gifts are usually diapers/wipes or pitching in a small amount for one large gift. the majority of 2nd time moms around here don't have anything though.
even so, i have this tiny yearning that my friends and i could get together to celebrate this baby. it's not a big deal though. we don't know the gender, so not sure what they'd buy! i simply like parties though. i might even organize a girls night out, 'cause even though half of us are pregnant and we all have kids, we still love going out and getting away.