So um...my DH's 16 year old cousin is pregnant

cecig · September 2010

and she made her big announcement on FB. Yes, I know babies are a blessing, but at 16 years old, REALLY? Ayyyy!

redshoegirl · September 2010

Ha! Your DH and I must be related. My sister and I are the only girls in our generation in our family who weren't pregnant before 17.

My sister doesn't ever want kids and I had the boys at 29, so clearly I'm an old fogey. Stick out tongue

redshoegirl · September 2010

Oh and I should mention that while most were "oops!" babies, at least one (and I suspect possibly a second) was an attempt to trap a boyfriend into marriage. It worked, although he turned out to be an abusive asshat - she finally divorced him about 6 years (and 3 children, since apparently she felt that more kids would improve the situation) later after he put her in the hospital for 2 weeks. Nice dude.

My family is like a Jerry Springer show. For real.

cecig · September 2010

You must be related because his family is definitely qualified for the Jerry Springer show. My DH has been the only person in his family to have a child only after getting married and being over the age of 20! Heck, he was 32 and I was 30, almost double her age.

Just sad!

sanae78 · September 2010

Yikes. Crazy. Especially announcing on FB. Like she's proud?

I'm actually amazed at my family sometimes. Out of my first cousins on my dad's side, all of us graduated from college, all of us are married and had kids after marriage (except one but she married her daughter's dad eventually, and one who doesn't have kids). No one has been in any trouble as far as I know. No one does drugs or drinks excessively. It's pretty amazing. Of course, there are only 6 of us, but still.

My mom's side is another story...but I don't know that they'd qualify for Jerry Springer. Heh.

Married2MrWright · September 2010

Oh wow. I am in the Jerry Springer camp as well...of 14 first cousins I am one of the only ones who graduated high school, graduated college, got married and THEN had a baby, who was very much planned. Most of my family members were pregnant young, unwed and then decided to get themselves together go to college/join the military, get sober, etc. Oy veh.

I have several second cousins who are in their late teens and early twenties and their parents (my first cousins) are only 1-2 years older than me. Doesn't help that my aunts and uncles (their parents) got KU young (and then married, in one case)...of course "back then" it was more "acceptable" to be 18 and pregnant.

Now that I am a mother I have no idea how these teenagers do it...I mean how do they raise a child when they are still one themselves? Maturity seems so delayed these days (with 25 year olds still living at home off of mommy and daddy) that I cannot imagine a 16 year old who is emotionally mature enough to become a parent. Eek.

MrsZiz · September 2010

It would be interesting if all of our families got together, mine is part of the jerry Springer cast as well!

I'm the ONLY one on my side to get married BEFORE having a child and the only one to finish college. I should add that my brother has 5 kids by 5 different girls... he's finally getting his life together but it's taken some time to get there. My sister also has two kids by two guys... not ideal. DH's siblings are all unwed with 2 children each and he's also the only one to finish college... I wonder, how when raised in the same household can we all be so different?

I'm with Lori, I can't imagine a 16 yr old mature enough to handle a child and being a parent. I'm 30 and it's still shocking sometimes to me how difficult physically, emotionally and mentally being a mother can be. It's SO worth it but SO much work as well! I guess I'm also very vested in being sure I raise a respectful, responsible person.

vanilla15 · September 2010

MrsZiz:

I'm with Lori, I can't imagine a 16 yr old mature enough to handle a child and being a parent. I'm 30 and it's still shocking sometimes to me how difficult physically, emotionally and mentally being a mother can be. It's SO worth it but SO much work as well! I guess I'm also very vested in being sure I raise a respectful, responsible person.

I am with yall too. DH & I keep saying I just don't know how these teenagers do it. I guess they probably have a lot of help from their parents (b/c I am guessing they still live with them) but remembering back to the things I thought & did at 16 (or younger 20s), I can't imagine being responsible for another person!

MauiBride2008 · September 2010

That is so crazy!

My step daughter is a Freshman in High School and at her 8th grade promotion ceremony there was a girl in her class who just found out she was PREGNANT!!! Right now this girl is almost ready to give birth as a Freshman in High School!!!! Indifferent

It's so sad

cecig · September 2010

I'm glad someone can relate to all of this craziness.

Do any of you ever watch 16 & Pregnant on MTV? It's so sad, I just want to reach in my tv and rip those babies out of there! Babies in carseats that are not fastened property, babies left on counters unattended, babies that constantly cry....it tears my heart.

Just imagine, Cassie would be 16 years old right now if I had her when I was 16.....yikes!

MrsNJSwimmer · September 2010

so sad! was her post sounding like she was proud?

mrspresley · September 2010

that is so odd to me that she would post it like she was proud of the fact or something (i assume that was her tone from your post). i can't even imagine having to go through everything that young! i was talking to a coworker about BFing and she was telling me how great it was that i was still BFing at 10 months... i asked her about her own experiences and she said she pumped exclusively for 4 months b/c they couldn't get a good latch and then one night he STTN and her supply tanked! we talked further about the latch problem and i came to find out that this was her 2nd baby and that she had successfully BF her 1st baby for 6 months... i told her how great it was that she was able to do that and she said, "yep, and i was only 16!! 16 and BFing. talk about hard!!" Surprise

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