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Parenting after a Loss
isacdimi10
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So my MIL is at it (again)
isacdimi10
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This time though we have a baby to bring into it.
She has a complex about how I stole her son from her and he'll see in time I'm a she-devil. I've gotten used to those comments from her. Hey I'm evil it's kind of cool, I get a big looming tower right?
A few weeks before I had DD she was dropping some major "are you sure the baby is yours" hints. She never came out and said it but there were side comment and such.
She frequently tells DH about how when he's ready to come home she still has his room ready and keeps it clean. Yesterday she told him that when he comes home she'll only allow him to bring the baby only if he paternity tests her. REALLY?
I'm actually quiet used to the "she cheats" comments, I think its funny that she cleans his room still. But really A) DH and I are in a relatively happy marriage thanks 
if he did leave me why on earth does she think I'd give him DD
BFP #1 10/28/09 EDD 06/24/10- Miscarriage 11/2/09
BFP #2 11/30/09 EDD 08/12/10- Sophia Grace born 8/1/10
BFP #3 11/16/10 EDD 08/04/11- Samuel Richard born 7/28/11
BFP #4 01/04/12 EDD 09/19/12- Simon Nathaniel born 9/6/12
BFP #5 03/27/13 EDD 11/25/13- Savannah Lee born 11/18/13
BFP #2 11/30/09 EDD 08/12/10- Sophia Grace born 8/1/10
BFP #3 11/16/10 EDD 08/04/11- Samuel Richard born 7/28/11
BFP #4 01/04/12 EDD 09/19/12- Simon Nathaniel born 9/6/12
BFP #5 03/27/13 EDD 11/25/13- Savannah Lee born 11/18/13
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Re: So my MIL is at it (again)
Oh my!! I thought my IL's were bad. It sounds like you have your hands full with just the MIL. She sounds like a piece of work. I don't know how you deal with those comments. What does DH think about what she says?
GL!!!! Hopefully, she'll come around....someday.
Wow, you may have one of the worst MILs ever! I hope your DH is telling her what to do with her theories ...
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this. UGH. How do put up with that sh!t!
DH doesn't really deal with it. When she says it he ignores it like she wasn't talking and when I get upset he just doesn't respond to me.
She was verbally and physically abusive to he and his sister growing up (like went to court for physically child abuse and was found guilty) but for some reason he's dead set on making her happy. He has said he knows what she's like but he still feels the need to try to "make her love him"
BFP #2 11/30/09 EDD 08/12/10- Sophia Grace born 8/1/10
BFP #3 11/16/10 EDD 08/04/11- Samuel Richard born 7/28/11
BFP #4 01/04/12 EDD 09/19/12- Simon Nathaniel born 9/6/12
BFP #5 03/27/13 EDD 11/25/13- Savannah Lee born 11/18/13
I'm sorry. What a terrible situation. You're DH seems to be a very forgiving person. I don't think I could easily accept that kind of person in my life still. I can't imagine when your child gets older the ideas she will put in her head. You're a much better person than me. I would wnat to throat punch her.
oh.my.gosh. I'm speechless.
I would say that I'd hope she'd change but I don't, I'd rather have her out of my life completely if I were you. What I can't understand is why your DH puts up with this? You are his wife and when you guys got married he was supposed to leave his mother (I know...this can be a tough one for the guys) and be with you. If she continues making comments like this I would never let LO around her. Your LO doesn't need to hear that crap (heck, you don't even need to hear it). GL girl, I hope your DH grows a pair and starts standing up for you.
I would prefer she never saw Sophia but I allow it under the rules that she is never alone with her. I have always been present and honestly sometimes I have no clue how her children survived the infant stage.
I posted once about Sophi screaming bloody murder (the first time I ever saw tears) when MIL was holding her and she did NOTHING like no attempts at soothing whatsoever
BFP #2 11/30/09 EDD 08/12/10- Sophia Grace born 8/1/10
BFP #3 11/16/10 EDD 08/04/11- Samuel Richard born 7/28/11
BFP #4 01/04/12 EDD 09/19/12- Simon Nathaniel born 9/6/12
BFP #5 03/27/13 EDD 11/25/13- Savannah Lee born 11/18/13
I'm so sorry. My MIL is also a crappy one. But her issue is that she thinks I just want the$. She tells DH that as soon as she dies and we get her $ that I'll divorce him. the nerve.
She even says I am trying to kill her. And my DH, like yours, still wants to be the good son.
I don't have any words that can help you. I kicked mine out of my house a couple weeks ago bc hormones were speaking louder and she provoked me. I told her to leave me alone and that I don't want her in DD's life.
I know that it won't happen but it felt good to say it out loud.
Hugs to you, hang in there. If you need to vent, we are here for you.
I PPH THIS!! I think you're MIL and mine would get along great. She hasn't made any comments about the baby being DH's(that's my SILs job) but there was definately alot of emotional and some physical abuse in that house. I'm sorry your MIL is such a uh.... fine individual, yeah that's the best I got right now. I know dealing with a DH that won't deal with it is hard but you need to get him to stop this in one way shape or form before Sophia can understand Grandma. Hopefully things get better and if not, keep your sense of humor about it and at least you'll have that!