A not-so-hypothetical poll

lite-bright · September 2010

Say that your parents were just in town for a visit and, being incredibly generous people, slipped you some cash on their way out the door.

You are a SAHM and don't come by much fun money -- but bills are covered, savings is healthy, and this is fun money.

Would you tell DH and split it with him? 50-50, or an uneven split?

Does your answer change if it was $20 versus, say, $100?

punkfiction_v.3 · September 2010

keep it. i mean, id tell dh, and if we needed it then we'd use it for that. if its for totally fun - then he'd TELL me to use it on myself.

AshSchultz · September 2010

punkfiction_v.3:
keep it. i mean, id tell dh, and if we needed it then we'd use it for that. if its for totally fun - then he'd TELL me to use it on myself.

ditto!

vbarnie · September 2010

Personally, I'd save it as my own little stash and use it when the time is right. Maybe surprise DH with a gift using some of the cash, maybe one day when you get mommy time, splurge a little on you.

xtencornfield · September 2010

I wouldn't hide it but I would definitely use it on whatever I wanted if all other bases were covered.

claire1983 · September 2010

For me, it would depend how much it was and what your parents intended it to be used for? Do your parents want you to spoil yourself with something fun or relaxing?? If so, tell DH you got it and why the parents gave it to you. If you don't NEED NEED the money for diapers or bills then I think he would understand that it is yours to do what you want with, no?

rubiafaerie25 · September 2010

My Grandma likes to give me a 20 everytime I see her. I see her about once a week or so. Some weeks she doesn't but usually she does. I store that money away for my own "fun money". Use it for lunch with friends, a pair of jeans if I need them, etc. that way I'm not using the joint acct. Plus, she's giving it to *me* not me and my DH. It's for gas or food etc she says. Being that stuff is usually covered I save it for fun stuff

For awhile I had a good chunk saved up and was planning to use it for a prenatal massage. Then I went into labor before I could. Poo. Haha so I used it on baby items we still needed, but fun ones, like more clothes and toys, etc. Though I should have saved it for a massage now! haha

Qmommy · September 2010

my money is his and his is mine... there would be no splitting or hiding... it would just be... I would tell him about it and how I plan to spend it.

1ht

punkfiction_v.3 · September 2010

oh and i wouldnt even mention anything under $50. maybe more. id prob only say something if it were $100+. and just in passing. bc honestly, he wouldnt care lol

katesmom73 · September 2010

I'd definitely split it with my husband. He's received "fun money" in the past from his family and we've always split it for whatever we want.

lite-bright · September 2010

My parents call it "turnpike money" -- when I was in undergrad and came home to visit, they used to give me enough to cover the tolls to drive back to college. Plus a little extra.

I always end up telling DH and splitting it with him down the middle. But I'm always tempted not to!

IrishBrideND · September 2010

punkfiction_v.3:
keep it. i mean, id tell dh, and if we needed it then we'd use it for that. if its for totally fun - then he'd TELL me to use it on myself.

this.

I think if you feel that you have to hide money from your H, then there are bigger problems there.

synchrosally · September 2010

punkfiction_v.3:
keep it. i mean, id tell dh, and if we needed it then we'd use it for that. if its for totally fun - then he'd TELL me to use it on myself.

This is probably what my DH would do too.

ToBeMrsT · September 2010

I'd tell dh and keep it. He wouldn't care.

BFab11 · September 2010

Id tell DH, and we'd probably split it (me getting the bigger half). Or we'd use it for LO, or do something fun together.

Princessn678 · September 2010

xtencornfield:
I wouldn't hide it but I would definitely use it on whatever I wanted if all other bases were covered.

This

rlscheck · September 2010

I would use it towards a fun date with DH.

cherylnicole · September 2010

ToBeMrsT:
I'd tell dh and keep it. He wouldn't care.

This exactly

tlmommy2b:) · September 2010

I would tell DH but I would also tell him what I planned to spend it on

jilicious · September 2010

I would tell DH about the money and then say "I reeeeeally would loooooooooove to get my nails done, or hair done, etc etc"

Lambie. · September 2010

I would keep it, spend it, and not think twice about not telling him about it. If he found out about it though he he would be mad or think it was strange I hadn't told him. It just really wouldn't even occur to me unless it somehow came up in conversation.

Bashert628 · September 2010

I can't see hiding money from him. If this were me, I'd tell him. Chances are he'd tell me to jeep it or suggest something to do as a family.

Dreamsicle23 · September 2010

My dad likes to hand me some extra cash every once in a while. I don't always make it a point to tell DH, but I don't try to hide it from him either. It usually winds up going to groceries or baby stuff anyway.

BelleIsa · September 2010

Qmommy:
my money is his and his is mine... there would be no splitting or hiding... it would just be... I would tell him about it and how I plan to spend it.
1ht

This. All money is 'our' money - there is no 'my' money so I would tell him and just stick it my wallet to spend on whatever needs buying. (Which could be food, formula, or a manicure.)

rissa06 · September 2010

i would tell DH and probably use it for myself . or something fun for both of us.

rchelone · September 2010

BelleIsa:
Qmommy:

my money is his and his is mine... there would be no splitting or hiding... it would just be... I would tell him about it and how I plan to spend it.

1ht

This. All money is 'our' money - there is no 'my' money so I would tell him and just stick it my wallet to spend on whatever needs buying. (Which could be food, formula, or a manicure.)

This, but IDK if I would even think to tell him. I pretty much handle everything financial in the family: I pay the bills and he doesn't shop, so I don't see this as an issue. If I wanted to use it for me I wouldn't think twice.

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mojito14 · September 2010

punkfiction_v.3:
keep it. i mean, id tell dh, and if we needed it then we'd use it for that. if its for totally fun - then he'd TELL me to use it on myself.

Ditto!

BelhurstBride · September 2010

I'd tell DH and we'd either agree to use it toward something together or if I wanted to go shopping I'd tell him. (And he'd likely agree.)

mojito14 · September 2010

punkfiction_v.3:
keep it. i mean, id tell dh, and if we needed it then we'd use it for that. if its for totally fun - then he'd TELL me to use it on myself.

Ditto!

cassianddavid · September 2010

DH's Aunt gives him money like that all the time. We usually use it to go out to dinner or do something together.

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