People are starting to give me a complex (pointless vent)

elizjane26 · September 2010

Friends, family, strangers are all telling me how small my belly is. I was in the ladies room and a girl asked me how far along I am, and when I said 22 weeks, she gasped and said she was shocked. And a friend of mine just told me how huge she already was at 22 weeks. I mean, my doc says everything's fine, but why does everyone keep telling me I am not big enough?? The baby was actually bigger than average at the 20 week ultrasound. And I feel like an absolute whale. It's just weird I guess, because I get this all.the.time.

Like I said, this was a pointless vent because everything is fine with the baby and that's all I care about

Swoop1 · September 2010

OH MY GOD!!! You're so big, are you sure you're only 22 weeks? Are you sure you aren't having twins? Are you sure you aren't due until January, I would have guessed October! Is there really only one in there? Maybe the 2nd one is hiding, have your dr. do another ultrasound. That's bound to be a healthy 9lb. baby!

Better???

I'm joking of course. Enjoy it while you can, one day you may wake up and not recognize the person in the mirror.

elizjane26 · September 2010

4boys?ohmy:
OH MY GOD!!! You're so big, are you sure you're only 22 weeks? Are you sure you aren't having twins? Are you sure you aren't due until January, I would have guessed October! Is there really only one in there? Maybe the 2nd one is hiding, have your dr. do another ultrasound. That's bound to be a healthy 9lb. baby!

Better???

I'm joking of course. Enjoy it while you can, one day you may wake up and not recognize the person in the mirror.

Ha! You're right. One way or another, people are going to have opinions.

SND2010 · September 2010

They are just insanely jealous. Read "oh my gosh your belly is so small I'm shocked" as "oh my god you brat, I didn't look like that and that makes me feel bad so I'm going to make you feel bad."

If your doc says you and baby are healthy then you are just lucky to have a body that handles being pregnant beautifully. Ignore them; or even better say "I know! Isn't it cute and perfect?"

elizjane26 · September 2010

SND2010:
They are just insanely jealous. Read "oh my gosh your belly is so small I'm shocked" as "oh my god you brat, I didn't look like that and that makes me feel bad so I'm going to make you feel bad."

If your doc says you and baby are healthy then you are just lucky to have a body that handles being pregnant beautifully. Ignore them; or even better say "I know! Isn't it cute and perfect?"

I like that!

lovemytannerman · September 2010

I get the same thing! When I tell people I'm 22 weeks and just started my 6th month, people tell me how tiny I am. A mom in my sons class said '6 months, I look like that after lunch' Well sorry I'm not bigger for you!

I'm sure come December/January, everyone will be sure to tell me how big they think I am.

nkubon · September 2010

i am RIGHT there with you. i get this daily. "omg are you sure you're that far along??" yes, i'm freaking sure. my response is "not everyone looks 9 months pregnant the entire time they are pregnant". drives me crazy. my MIL comes up to me all the time and says "OMG you dont even look pregnant!". i just want to slap her. if i don't look pregnant then why is my stomach popping out of my body, and where has the 12lbs i've gained freaking gone?

so annoying.

alisonjoy80 · September 2010

I'm sure your the perfect size for your body and your pregnancy at 22 weeks. Your baby is fine and you (and me, too) need to stop listening to what people say, unless it is to say "you look fantastic!"

I look HUGE somedays and smaller others. It totally depends on what I am wearing and what the baby is doing in there.

alisonjoy80 · September 2010

Side note: The other day my boss looked at my belly and said "it's so cute...but some of the women around here have bigger bellies than you and they're not pregnant."

I said, "I know, that's why when those women say douchey things, I just look at their stomachs, smile, nod, and walk away."

My boss laughed.

elizjane26 · September 2010

alisonjoy80:
I'm sure your the perfect size for your body and your pregnancy at 22 weeks. Your baby is fine and you (and me, too) need to stop listening to what people say, unless it is to say "you look fantastic!"
I look HUGE somedays and smaller others. It totally depends on what I am wearing and what the baby is doing in there.

You're right! Oh and I love your daughter's name. Very pretty!

companion cube · September 2010

Maybe you are just good at picking flattering clothing, so it minimizes your "whaleness". Just take it like a compliment.

alisonjoy80 · September 2010

elizjane26:
alisonjoy80:
I'm sure your the perfect size for your body and your pregnancy at 22 weeks. Your baby is fine and you (and me, too) need to stop listening to what people say, unless it is to say "you look fantastic!"
I look HUGE somedays and smaller others. It totally depends on what I am wearing and what the baby is doing in there.
You're right! Oh and I love your daughter's name. Very pretty!

Thank you! My husband was just asking me last night if I was still sure about this name, and I was like...for the time being. Haha, I am not very decisive, so I thought having a name badge would make me stick to something for a change.

skoogirl · September 2010

I too get the comments about not looking pregnant yet. In fact someone on the train platform asked me out on a date last night! I feel really bad about it but I actually laughed out loud at him. poor guy. I don't want to look huge, but I'm ready to look pregnant.

elizjane26 · September 2010

alisonjoy80:
elizjane26:
alisonjoy80:
I'm sure your the perfect size for your body and your pregnancy at 22 weeks. Your baby is fine and you (and me, too) need to stop listening to what people say, unless it is to say "you look fantastic!"
I look HUGE somedays and smaller others. It totally depends on what I am wearing and what the baby is doing in there.
You're right! Oh and I love your daughter's name. Very pretty!
Thank you! My husband was just asking me last night if I was still sure about this name, and I was like...for the time being. Haha, I am not very decisive, so I thought having a name badge would make me stick to something for a change.

I'm not very decisive either. I keep going back and forth on names!

whits900 · September 2010

I get opposite - as one poster was joking about. My mom called me and said my cousin told her that when she saw me last I looked 8 months pregnant. And people keep asking me - no, TELLING me, I'm having twins. It's super annoying and I just want to scream at them - NO - I"M JUST FAT!

Sometimes I hate people. Why does everyone feel like when you have a baby you are all of a sudden open to all of the comments they could possibly think of about your body, eating habits, parenting style etc? Very annoying.

elizjane26 · September 2010

whits900:
I get opposite - as one poster was joking about. My mom called me and said my cousin told her that when she saw me last I looked 8 months pregnant. And people keep asking me - no, TELLING me, I'm having twins. It's super annoying and I just want to scream at them - NO - I"M JUST FAT!

Sometimes I hate people. Why does everyone feel like when you have a baby you are all of a sudden open to all of the comments they could possibly think of about your body, eating habits, parenting style etc? Very annoying.

Yep, EVERYONE has an opinion about EVERYTHING that concerns a pregnant woman.

luckybride1128 · September 2010

Yep. I get the whole "you don't even look pregnant!!" ALL THE TIME. It drives me freaking crazy, because trust me I am way bigger than normal. So I sometimes say "I hope you don't think I'm usually this fat."

I was in the dressing room today in all my bra-trying-on pregnant glory and my bra fitter said "oh you're so tiny!" I was rude without even realizing it because she was probably paying me a compliment and was expecting a thank you. Instead, I was so annoyed and fed up with hearing that, I just said "I know." It was a total woops moment, but oh well! Stop commenting on my belly, then!

atownpreggo · September 2010

elizjane26:
Friends, family, strangers are all telling me how small my belly is. I was in the ladies room and a girl asked me how far along I am, and when I said 22 weeks, she gasped and said she was shocked. And a friend of mine just told me how huge she already was at 22 weeks. I mean, my doc says everything's fine, but why does everyone keep telling me I am not big enough?? The baby was actually bigger than average at the 20 week ultrasound. And I feel like an absolute whale. It's just weird I guess, because I get this all.the.time.
Like I said, this was a pointless vent because everything is fine with the baby and that's all I care about

I've been getting that too! It's driving me crazy!

brymanda · September 2010

Yep, I get the "oh, you're so small." I don't let it bother me though because my doctor tells me at every appointment that people will tell me I'm too small but not to worry about it because everything is measuring just fine and the baby and I are both healthy. BTW, I am also 22 weeks.

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