People complaining

trombagn · September 2010

(also posted in 2nd Trimester)

So intives for my baby shower went out this week, its planned to be Oct 10th (Due date Dec 24th), to be able to house a large number of people the girls throwing me the shower decided to have it at my MIL's house which is about 20mins away (driving) for most of my guests.

The first complaint i recieved was that my shower was scheduled too early, all the website say to have it about 2 months before due date to have time to set up and purchase any last min items that you will need...so this was annoying

The second complaint i recieved was that its too far of a drive, are you kidding me? Most people drive longer to go to work....so this was again annoying

what do you guys think?

EastCoastBride · September 2010

First, really, just ignore! People complain to complain.

To those specific complaints, though, all I would say is:

A - "Well, thats the date that worked best for me and the hosts" w/ a big smile.

B- "I'm sorry it's so far for you. Obviously, if it's too far, I totally understand if you can't come" (and be sincere).

golichmi · September 2010

I think it's a little early, but with how hectic it can get around Thanksgiving and Christmas, I don't really think it's that big of a deal. It actually works out to be pretty considerate of people's schedules if you'd like to put it that way. I am co-hosting a baby shower on the same day for my brother and SIL, but their LO is due 11/15.

As far as the drive, I don't think that's a long drive at all. I wouldn't worry too much about it. If people want to come, they will come. If they think it's too far, they won't. Not your problem, so try not to stress yourself (or LO!) out about it!

Also, why does anyone think they have the right to complain to you about these things? You aren't planning the shower, and it's what your hostesses decided/are willing and able to do for you.

CrazyToast · September 2010

That isn't too early - my first shower was 3+ months before I was due because it fit into the schedule a work (it was a work shower).

I think you need to ignore those who are making comments. It's quite rude of them. Just give answers like the PP gave you to use, and remember that you'll have a great shower with or without those people.

CheyenneShaw · September 2010

If they dont like it, they dont come. simple as that.

watermellens · September 2010

I can't believe people are complaining!! I don't understand what they have the right to complain about - what do they care if your shower is 2 months before your due date? I mean how does that impact THEM at all? UGH

RachieTK · September 2010

I can't believe people complained! If you made it later, they would be complaining that it was too close to Thanksgiving/Chanukah/Christmas/Kwanza/Winter Solstice/Whatever

People are so tacky. Enjoy your shower and don't give it a second though. My friend's shower a few weeks ago was over an hour away, and I've definitely driven an average of a half hour for most. People look for reasons to be annoyed when they are jealous. Ignore them.

njmoh · September 2010

My sister is due on Dec 31st we are having her shower on Oct 10th as well....why are they complaining to you. That's so rude

trombagn · September 2010

njmoh:
My sister is due on Dec 31st we are having her shower on Oct 10th as well....why are they complaining to you. That's so rude

im glad to hear that im not the only one having it 2 months early, and yeah they are way rude, i dont know why they dont just call the rsvp people, im not planning this ovbiously

Jennis22 · September 2010

First, two months before your due date is the standard so I don't see why people would complain. Maybe they have plans that day?

Second, if 20 minutes is too far they are just looking for an excuse not to come. Ignore them. Okay, maybe you shouldn't ignore these people. I would just say, "If the time/location doesn't work, I understand and I'm sorry you can't be there."

Third, that is unbelievably rude of them to complain to you!!! This isn't their party so they don't get to pick when and where it is. Ugh!

dragon_chica · September 2010

EastCoastBride:
First, really, just ignore! People complain to complain.

To those specific complaints, though, all I would say is:

A - "Well, thats the date that worked best for me and the hosts" w/ a big smile.

B- "I'm sorry it's so far for you. Obviously, if it's too far, I totally understand if you can't come" (and be sincere).

This. Rinse and repeat. Those folks need to STFU. I had guests that drove 1-2 hours to my shower because they love and support me. If those folks are complaining about a measly 20 minutes than obviously they don't value you as much as you thought.

rvandiver0705 · September 2010

I flew from Omaha to Nashville for one of my friend's baby showers. I would definitely use the answers from pps. You can't go wrong with those!

tSquared1987 · September 2010

First off, it is incredibly rude, tacky, and disrespectful to complain about your baby shower. the date and time don't work for them, well, that sucks for them. This is YOUR shower. This is the time that worked out best for you and the people throwing the shower for you! And as for the measly twenty minutes they have to take to drive there... seriously?! they need to complain about TWENTY MINUTES??? I have someone flying in from Texas to Wisconsin to come to my shower. And my first shower is about 40 minutes away for my SIL and mother. No complaints from them! And my grandmother is coming from 4 hours away (driving time).

Honestly, I would take PP advice."if it doesn't work for you, then i'm sorry you won't make it".

If it was me on the other hand, I would snap. Wink

dehsignz · September 2010

No idea why on earth anyone would complain to you about it - just wrong!

Don't let it get to you - just enjoy YOUR shower - it is all about you and baby ; )

My shower is 10/23 and due 12/24.

mandiroo · September 2010

I'm due Dec. 23 and my shower is Oct. 9, so the same time frame. No one has complained yet, but we'll see. If it was any later it'd be too close to a holiday anyway. Don't sweat it, people find something to gripe about no matter what.

JGorka · September 2010

I'm due Feb 8 and my shower is going to be Nov. 6. This is the date my hostess chose, not me. She wanted to avoid the holidays and didn't want me to feel overwhelmed if she had it in January. I have had only one complaint from an aunt who has no children and has to complain about anything and everything. Everyone else I tell about the shower remark on how it's a good idea to have it early to avoid the holidays.

mysticporter · September 2010

Try to look on the bright side: you have now learned that a few of your friends/relatives/whatever are a touch on the obnoxious side. Makes one appreciate the ones that aren't

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kwitt22 · September 2010

Its very rude of them to complain to you about your shower. I am due in march and it is possible that one of my showers will be in nov. We have alot of family that is coming from 2 hours away. For one of my bridal showers, there was a blizzard and we had to cancel. If we do that shower in nov, then the risk of a blizzard goes way down.

TheBatPrincess · September 2010

I don't think that is too early, especially with the holidays coming up! I can't believe they think 20 minutes is a long way to drive, especially if they are people who care about you! I'd drive longer for a baby shower. I can't believe some people are complaining!

JulietBair · September 2010

I totally agree with PPs. How rude to be complaining about YOUR shower at all! If they don't want to come, then don't come! My shower was about 6 weeks before my due date and I wish it had been earlier. I was so tired and my feet so swollen, I wasn't totally able to enjoy it. Also it's been crazy trying to get all the last minute stuff for LO since only 2 of my guest shopped of my registry and we were still missing all the basics! I truly believe people have gotten so selfish that they are incapable of thinking about anyone else these days! Between buying what they want you to have and apparently complain that 20 minutes is too far to drive! So sad.. Either way, just remember to relax and enjoy your day..

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