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NBR: Is honesty the best policy?

StrawberryAlarmClockStrawberryAlarmClock member
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DH has awesome social skills. He can make anyone think they're the coolest thing since sliced bread. He's a great listener, laughs at all the right times and agrees with everyone. In fact, he's most famous for diffusing a heated political debate with: "I like pudding. Not yogurt so much, but pudding is great. Anyone else?" LOL. Anyway, I'm not so smooth. I wear my opinions on my face and I feel like I'm lying to people if I let them think I agree when I don't. I tell people when I'm mad and expect them to do the same for me. In my mind its not fair to the person you're mad at not to tell them and give them a chance to defend themselves. So, is either style better? Honest to a fault or schmoozer extraordinaire? I feel like blatantly honest people get labeled as b*tches when maybe schmoozers (good "nod-and-smile" skills) may be just a bit "dishonest" for my taste. WDYT?
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Re: NBR: Is honesty the best policy?

  • Shandie_725Shandie_725 member
    It depends - if I'm mad at someone that I am working with for a day, I won't say anything. If it's a friend/someone I deal with more frequently, than I will give them that chance.

    It all depends on the situation.
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  • doremi29doremi29 member
    I'm more like your hubby and honestly, I often feel that I get taken advantage of or walked over by people- example: if someone at works asks me to help them out with something that would be a lot of extra work for me and I have no interest in doing it, I'll usually do it anyway because I have a hard time saying no.  I would love to be more upfront and honest in certain situations- maybe I just need to grow a pair!  I think it's possible to find a middle ground- I just haven't found it yet!
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  • StrawberryAlarmClockStrawberryAlarmClock member
    Agreed about depending on the situation. I have certainly never told my boss off or anything like that ... Well not this boss. I think I did back when I was a kid. :-/ I did also say something to a cop that was not wise. He asked, "do you know why I'm pulling you over?" and I said, "because it's the end of the month." he didn't find it nearly as funny as I did. ;)
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  • Lambie.Lambie. member
    You can be honest without coming across as a biitch. It's all in the delivery ykwim?
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  • StrawberryAlarmClockStrawberryAlarmClock member
    Yeah. I gotta work on my delivery ;)
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  • sleepingbeauty825sleepingbeauty825 member
    I'm kind of like your hubby but I'm always honest. Something in the way I present things make people happy, even if it's the worst news ever. I hardly ever lie, but I rarely ever offend people either. It's my gift.
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  • yourmomwreckedmybikeyourmomwreckedmybike
    Honesty is the only policy IMO. But at the same time, honesty doesn't give you a reason to be a ***, as the pp said, it's in the delivery. Being a nice person and being always honest is possible, but very rare.
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  • punkfiction_v.3punkfiction_v.3 member

    it depends. my DH is respected for his blatant honesty. if youre an idiot, he'll say it. if he thinks something, you'll know it. sometimes i want to be around new people to be like "ok he didnt mean it like that", but i dont really HAVE to be - bc people just, like it.

    i am a schmoozer (irl) but ONLY in the sense that i can make anyone feel how they want to feel. i still am blatantly honest, but if i need something - i know how to get it.

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