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Quick! i need some advice about DH....

DeAnna&DavidRyderDeAnna&DavidRyder member
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Ok, so I scheduled a chlidbirth class for the next few saturdays. and evidently DH can't make it. well he can but he'll have to leave early and then we got in a fight about it. so now he doesn't want to come to this one...

 

anyways.

i'm just wondering. Should i just cancel and reschedule... or go without him. 

My reasoning for canceling is that he could...win this and i could save my battle for a bigger issue haha. i'm just so torn. i would feel like such a flake canceling this late. but i feel like it would be good for us and like me apologizing for not checking his schedule... (his dad is coming in town and his flight lands like 30 mins before class gets over. 

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Re: Quick! i need some advice about DH....

  • erbearerbear member
    I would change it. You should have checked his schedule before signing up for a class.  It's not about letting him win; it's common courtesy.
    "Hello, babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. At the outside, babies, you've got about a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies. God damn it, you've got to be kind." - Kurt Vonnegut
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  • alli&patalli&pat member
    change it - i think it's important to attend as a couple, thinking back to what dh and i gained from our class.  plus, i agree with the others about "letting him win" not being that at all.
    DS - June 2009
    DD - February 2011
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  • DeAnna&DavidRyderDeAnna&DavidRyder member

    ya...I guess i just assumed his dad would be getting here later (we have a small airport.. not a lot of options haha)

    i guess i got defensive because he really freaked about it. 

    sigh... damn. i hate knowing what i should do and not wanting to. . . . 

     

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  • MichelleL1118MichelleL1118 member
    Well, how many Saturdays does the class last, and how many have conflicts for your DH?  I ask because I know that the class I registered for, if I have to cancel at the last minute, it'll be 6+ weeks before we can start another session.  If the only conflict is that your DH has to leave early tomorrow to pick up his dad, but will be able to make the entire session for the rest of the dates, I'd just keep it as scheduled.  If he has a conflict every week right now, but will have a clear schedule for a future set of class dates, then I would reschedule, assuming there is availability.
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  • DeAnna&DavidRyderDeAnna&DavidRyder member
    ok i did it. whew. i feel so much better. thank you.
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  • DeAnna&DavidRyderDeAnna&DavidRyder member

    imageMichelleL1118:
    Well, how many Saturdays does the class last, and how many have conflicts for your DH?  I ask because I know that the class I registered for, if I have to cancel at the last minute, it'll be 6+ weeks before we can start another session.  If the only conflict is that your DH has to leave early tomorrow to pick up his dad, but will be able to make the entire session for the rest of the dates, I'd just keep it as scheduled.  If he has a conflict every week right now, but will have a clear schedule for a future set of class dates, then I would reschedule, assuming there is availability.

     

    its a bradley class and they're usually 12 weeks but this is a condensed version that only has 3.. or 4... i can't remember now. but either way he'd be missing the equivalent of almost 3 regular classes. and no, no other classes. i hope i can get into another one :/ if not i guess i'll just use a different teacher.  

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  • wall0307wall0307 member
    I would change it.  Everyone at my birthing class had a SO there. 
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  • gwenypher7gwenypher7 member
    Reschedule. Childbirth classes are one way for the daddy's to feel involved and get really excited about the baby!
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