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January 2011 Moms
mchupie
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A Baby Story - how would you feel?
mchupie
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I've been DVRing lots of episodes of a baby story and just watched one where there were literally 15 people in the delivery room.
The mom-to-be was completely spread eagle on the hospital bed, and all of her friends and family watched her push the baby out. They weren't standing too far from the end of the bed, meaning that they all had a full view of her hoo-ha.
I know they say that all modesty goes out the door during delivery, but 15 people? Extended family and friends? Really? Would you consider this?
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Re: A Baby Story - how would you feel?
Not me, but this is a 'to each their own' type situation. I'm not really close with a lot of people in my family except my mom, and I don't even want her there! But I guess some people really want to share the experience.
I even felt uncomfortable getting half naked in front of the midwife and doula to get into the tub! And don't get me started on my first internal with the MW about 12 hours into labour... so awkward.
ETA: I did show a couple friends pictures of the experience though... including full on crowning shots... :S
Would I consider this?
Not in a million years. Nobody needs to see that but my doctors and nurses. Not even DH wants to be down there in the war zone. We've come to an "elbows and up" agreement.
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
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Hell no! Can you imagine your FIL seeing your cash and prizes? No thank you!
It also kind creeps me out when they have at home water births and have their other little children watch the births. I think that would be traumatizing. I was 28 when I watched my sister give birth and it was almost too much for me!
I don't know how these people are ever going to be able to look this woman in the eye ever again. I don't care if there is a baby coming out, its still a full on view of your vagina and anus.
For me, DH only and he will be mostly up around my head. Everyone else will have a medical reason to be there and I will likely not see again except my doc for my annual pap.
this!
Meh, I think it gets scarier as you get older if it's not 'normal' for you, you know? I'm hoping for a homebirth and DD will be there (she'll be 18 months). The doula we just interviewed said young children usually do great with it all because they just go with the flow.
Double post.
I agree with this.
DD (5 years old) from IUI in 2012
TTC 3rd and final!: IUI #1 in progress!
I did not want ANYONE in the delivery room when I was in labor. DH was there of course, as well as my doula and the nurse and midwife were in and out. I found it more difficult to deal with the pain when people were talking to me. I spent a lot of time in the bathroom by myself.
I may have felt differently if I had an epidural, but I doubt it.
Although I wanted privacy, by the time I was pushing DD out, a marching band could have paraded through the delivery room and I doubt I would have noticed.
I guess it is true that children are much less fearful than adults when it comes to new experiences, but I still feel like I wouldn't want my other LO to see me in pain and or to be scared at all.
I did not mean to make it seem that I think home birth is scary or creepy, I feel the exact opposite about that. I wish I had the courage to go through with it, but I am too nervous of something going wrong since this is my first. Good luck with it!
Nope. DH is the only person I want in the room when I deliver.
I don't know of any hospitals that would allow this....and now, that many pple is too much. I stayed for my sisters and will have DH, sister and mom and that's it
Who's gonna hold your legs??? :-) He may not be able to avoid it... I thought this too until I was there for my niece's birth. He's going to want to see his son come out.
More Green For Less Green
This time I'm having a c-section and kinda glad that i don't have to deal with the whole who is going to be in the room with me and I don't have to put the smackdown on anyone.
But I do have to say that I was in the room when my best friend had her daughter. I stood up by her head and held her hand, I wasn't all up in her business. I did see a bit of her head come out when she born, but after she was born I forgot all about it and was so focused on the baby. It's not like I left thinking "oh my God, I just saw my friends vagina!' kwim?
Agreed, was just about to post this myself.
DH, my best friend, and my doula will be with me. They can all be south of the border if they want. They're not queasy (BF has had three babies naturally, so she's a pro). But no other friends or family, just because I don't think they would be good at supporting ME. Mom would be too worried and hovering, sister would be blabbering, etc. If they were as chill as DH and BF, maybe I'd have mom or sis, but not extended family, and certainly not male family members!
I think it's going to be just me, my husband, and my mom. I actually feel a bit guilty not inviting my father, but I'm just not quite that open-minded.
My mother had a home birth with me (I was the third). She invited quite a few family members to take part in the experience including my grandmother, my aunt, and my 6-year-old and 2-year old brothers. She also had a midwife and an attending physician (a family friend) and my uncle (by marriage) was responsible for taking photos. My grandfather was also present, but not actually in the laboring room. She often talks about how much she loved that experience of having so many supportive loved ones nearby as she she was laboring. She wanted my brothers to experience their sister's birth, although they don't remember much of it. My oldest brother even had the job of announcing my gender - "It's a boy!" ("Look again...") and then he got to cut the cord. I actually love the stories I hear of my birth. They make me feel so loved.