My uo: daycare

KKWISC · September 2010

I think working and sending your kid to daycare is way easier than being a sahm. 6 months ago I would have never thought so, now... And I've contemplated many times to quit bf'ing purely because I hate the feeling of a wet bra.

lil_rhody · September 2010

I think both have their challenges.

And breast pads?

delphinus12 · September 2010

Why do you have a wet bra? Nursing pads...??

ASmallWonder · September 2010

This is going to get bad, I feel it. That said, unless anyone has actually done both, I don't think they can say for sure. I think it also depends entirely on the person. I loved being on maternity leave and I struggle fitting in all my household "chores" in the few hours I have that I'm not working/playing with Aiden. But I still wouldn't be presumptuous enough to tell a SAHM that they DON'T have it harder because besides ML, I've never been a SAHM.

DeeandBrad · September 2010

Try working nights 3 days a week and being a staying at home mom with your children during the day. My family does watch my LOs at my house some days for a couple of hours but for the most part I get home from work just as my LOs are waking up and leave right before their bedtime.

megandjohn08 · September 2010

I'm a teacher so I was a sahm for almost 4 months. I can say they both have their challenges. One isn't easier than the other.

MCMoo23 · September 2010

I can't comment on this post because I think your original statement is really ignorant...sorry. And I AM a SAHM, but I have more respect for working moms then to say their job is easier than mine...I'm not one to judge. I've never been in their shoes and I don't know if they've been in mine. Like I said..pure ignorance.

LittleBabyC · September 2010

For the wet bra try lily pads- they work!

As far as SAH being harder than dropping kids at daycare- I feel this situation has too many exceptions. Everyones work is different, and while I bet there are tons of jobs that are a breeze compared to SAH there are also lots of jobs (i.e- housekeeping) that would be much more laborious than SAH.

yankeebaby2 · September 2010

1) You obviously don't have my job if you think taking care of a baby is easier.

2) That's a confession not an opinion.

buffalo_buckeye · September 2010

I've done both and right now I sah. Personally sah is much easier but that doesn't make it easy. There are moments I miss my lunch break but there are plenty of mornings I get a few extra minutes to sleep or nap when they nap. I will add that the age and temperament of your kids totally makes a difference. 2U2 I give mad props to!!! Harder than any job. But my almost 4 yr old and 4 month old are pretty easy going day to day and I am dreading when I have to return to work.

miaomi · September 2010

I also think it depends on the baby! I KNOW going to work would be easier than taking care of Livy all day. When I trade with DH, he's really happy to see me come back to take care of her, even after a few hours. And he spends lots of time with her and is great. I still wouldn't change a thing though!

That said, if you have an easy baby and a hard job...hmmm.

DelGrecoBride · September 2010

um....i have done both. i was in a super highstress job before i was a sahm. being a sahm is definitely harder. sorry dear.

and if you don't want to use nursing pads....then quit nursing.

lolagrinnin · September 2010

Silly. For some moms I'm sure staying at home is/would be much harder. For others I'm sure working is/would be. You assume that everyone's just like you. Might be shocking, but people (from the moment they are born, even!) have different temperaments, making them more or less suited for any job, including being a SAHM.

cactus5 · September 2010

I am a SAHM and think the exact opposite. I have stressful moments with 2 under 2, but I know that my life would be much more hectic/stressful if I worked.

RadicalDreamer143 · September 2010

I think most SAHMs would run screaming back home if they had to work my typical weekday schedule. I just now got finished with diaper laundry, need to dreamfeed Liam, shower, and be ready to repeat all of this starting at 5am, at a job where my boss is creating a hostile environment because of budget constraints. This doesn't include that I have to be incredibly productive, work through lunch (typical), fit in some pumping sessions in a not-very-nice locker room, and god forbid I speak with some coworkers in the break room while getting water (being a woman, and a new mom, means I must gossip all day). After I make it through the day, I get to drive home in rush hour traffic, pick up my son, put him down for a nap while I cook/clean/do chores, play with him for two hours, feed/change/rinse and repeat. DH is working OT (7am to 9pm) this week, so yeah.

Physically, it's hard. I'm beat. Emotionally, ten times harder. My maternity leave was like paradise - and that's after factoring in c/s recovery and clogged ducts every day for three months. SAH has its challenges... but my baby is easy, and my job is hell.

potluckbride · September 2010

I work full time and I completely agree. The hardest part for me is the guilt I constantly feel and have to deal with. My job is really stressful too, but it doesn't get to me the way it did before LO.

While I was home on maternity leave, I was physically exhausted at the end of every day. It was so draining and I was go - go - go all day long. And there is no clocking in and out, its your 24/7 job!

That said, I would SAH in a heartbeat if it were possible for us.

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