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Thanks for telling me I'm a bad mother (re: marriage post)
So, what I got out of that is since I'm 18, married with a son, I'm a bad mother because it's potentially harmful?
If you haven't been in that position, you really don't know what you're talking about! It's unfair for me to come on here and look to you ladies for advice, support & help (what this website was made for, right?) and to read that.
DH & I were engaged at 16, married at 17, and had DS at 18.We're both full time students working for degrees (my BA in elementary ed. his AA in nursing). He's working full time at a nursing home. I'm raising LO. We live with my parents to save money to buy our own home instead of renting (throwing away money basically).
We've done all we can to provide for LO and make sure he is LOVED, taken care of and safe. Neither of us will drink, even after we turn 21. We don't smoke (in fact, while I was pregnant, I took extra precautions like putting my shirt over my mouth so I wouldn't breathe in 2nd hand smoke.)
But since we were married young, we're bad parents?? OUCH.
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Re: Thanks for telling me I'm a bad mother (re: marriage post)
We're all a bunch of internet strangers. As long as you and your H are happy with your marriage/relationship and the way your life is going - that's all that matters.
This is the interwebz, who cares what we say.
(and thanks for allowing me to pull out one of my favorite replies)
Of course, if they made fun of you for wanting to put a tu-tu on your son, then all bet's are off!
Haha! I loved this. Thanks
This.
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Also please note i only read this post and have no clue about anything else that went on!
Eh, people judge everyone for any and everything. I'd say when you got married and had a child at such a young age you knew you would be judged.
At 18 (which was only 7 years ago for me) I was NOWHERE close to being ready for marriage and babies, maybe you are. Who knows. It's your life, do what you want. As long as you are "happy and healthy", you shouldn't really care what other people think.
You've made some decisions that I personally do not think are prudent, but why do you care what I think? I don't think that makes you a bad mom (I don't think I can really judge anyone as a bad mom on here because I don't know them).
Part of maturing is not taking everything people say personally. Relax, and be confident in your choices.
GL
as for renting = throwing money away, come one. The analagy that you don't own it so its throwing money away is absurd. I don't own my health insurance, either, but I hardly see that as throwing money away. I would have hoped that the recent issues with the housing market would make people realize that home ownership is not the end all be all.
But thats another topic for another day.
That would be a fun topic
And though it is late for this,
Living at home with your parents/ accepting a lot of financial support from them means you obviously have some growing up to do. Most adults save for a house WHILE renting a place on their own. Obviously some people can fall on hard times... but coming out of high school, getting married, then depending on your parents so you can play house while going to school/raising a kid... you know, it is what it is, but you really shouldn't be boasting about how awesome you are.