Sad about a Facebook post, i.e. healthy babies

SeaStar430 · September 2010

One of my friends is going in for her 16 week u/s today and posted that she was so excited to hear that little heartbeat. One of her friends responded:

"I had an u/s today. Damn kid wouldn't stop moving so we didn't even get a good pic of him. His hands ketp getting in the way of his face. I'm thinking about going for one of the 3D/4D u/s. Either way, very disappointing. BUT they ruled out a Cleft lip and anything else, so that was good."

I know that she probably didn't mean it like it sounds, but sounds to me like someone needs a good dose of reality. God forbid my friend finds out that something is wrong with her baby today, and how insensitive to everyone who is not so lucky. Hearing that your baby is healthy should be one of the best days of your life, seeing the picture is so insignificant in the scheme of things. I can't imagine calling that moment "disappointing," and I also can't imagine referring to my unborn baby as the "damn kid."

I really hope that she just wasn't thinking when she posted that.

Amber68W · September 2010

Maybe she was saying it kind of sarcastically, and you just didn't catch it over FB? That's the problem with the internet sometimes. I hope she was, anyway.

SeaStar430 · September 2010

I don't know, I'm usually good about giving people the benefit of the doubt, but with her frown face and follow up comment about how disappointing it was, I don't think so.

Nicole731 · September 2010

SeaStar430:
I don't know, I'm usually good about giving people the benefit of the doubt, but with her frown face and follow up comment about how disappointing it was, I don't think so.

I would be disappointed if I didn't get a decent picture of my baby. Especially because you only get one ultrasound in most cases (which sounds like it is her case, if she plans to go to the 3D/4D place). I think you are reading too much into it.

SeaStar430 · September 2010

Nicole731:
I think you are reading too much into it.

That's possible. It's likely I've just known too many people who found out their baby was not healthy at that appointment that I've got my priorities in order and have learned to not be insensitive about it.

Nicole731 · September 2010

SeaStar430:

Nicole731:
I think you are reading too much into it.

That's possible. It's likely I've just known too many people who found out their baby was not healthy at that appointment that I've got my priorities in order and have learned to not be insensitive about it.

I can see where you are coming from. Hopefully your friend's baby turns out to be healthy as can be

planeNsimple · September 2010

SeaStar430:

Nicole731:
I think you are reading too much into it.

That's possible. It's likely I've just known too many people who found out their baby was not healthy at that appointment that I've got my priorities in order and have learned to not be insensitive about it.

I think you are reading too much into it too. I would have been disappointed if I didn't get a picture/didn't get to find out the sex. And i'm one of those people that when I called everyone after the appointment the first thing I said (and emphasised) was "we it is a healthy baby and we couldn't be happier". When people post on their FB about finding out the sex, I always congratulate them on having a healthy baby. I would give her the benefit of the doubt.

With that said...WOW way to be a little bit of a B here. Sorry, but damn. By this statement you were trying to be rude and say everyone else is insensitive and doesn't have their priorities straight because they would be dissapointed. You can still be happy about a healthy baby and a little disapointed too! Confused

planeNsimple · September 2010

Oh and I hate when people are labeled "insensitive" when they post how they feel about their pregnancy on their FB! God forbid I ever have to go through what some people have with their pregnancies, but just because someone says they are sick of being pregnant doesn't mean they were being rude to the person who has had some health issues.

(And no this hasn't happened to me. I never posted feelings like that on FB because too many people are so sensitive and I didn't want to offend or come off as "insensitive")

kcisthebombdotcom · September 2010

planeNsimple:
SeaStar430:

Nicole731:
I think you are reading too much into it.

That's possible. It's likely I've just known too many people who found out their baby was not healthy at that appointment that I've got my priorities in order and have learned to not be insensitive about it.

I think you are reading too much into it too. I would have been disappointed if I didn't get a picture/didn't get to find out the sex. And i'm one of those people that when I called everyone after the appointment the first thing I said (and emphasised) was "we it is a healthy baby and we couldn't be happier". When people post on their FB about finding out the sex, I always congratulate them on having a healthy baby. I would give her the benefit of the doubt.

With that said...WOW way to be a little bit of a B here. Sorry, but damn. By this statement you were trying to be rude and say everyone else is insensitive and doesn't have their priorities straight because they would be dissapointed. You can still be happy about a healthy baby and a little disapointed too!

I agree with this. I hate the attitude that if you feel any sort of disappointment over not finding the gender or whine about being pregnant in any way that you're ungrateful.

shihtzumomma · September 2010

Wow. That's a horrible thing to say. She has no idea how badly she would wish for that moment if something were to (God forbid) happen to her baby.

SeaStar430 · September 2010

planeNsimple:

Sorry, but damn. By this statement you were trying to be rude and say everyone else is insensitive and doesn't have their priorities straight because they would be dissapointed.

Thank you so much for explaining to me what I was trying to do. (which is completely inaccurate by the way). Talk about being too sensitive and looking too much into what someone writes and then acting like a B about it. Pot, meet kettle.

MrsPatterson · September 2010

I definitely don't think the OP was being rude or b!tchy or whatever by anything she said. I think she's simply stating that from her experience, she has a different perspective than many women out there. I experienced a miscarriage, and that has forever changed my perspective on pregnancy. Yes, it's disappointing to not get a good u/s picture, but to be disappointed because the baby is so healthy that it's moving and kicking so much that the tech can't get a good picture is a little ridiculous. I understand minor disappointment, but it's clear from the girl's post on FB that she has no clue what it's like to find out bad news about a pregnancy. I completely get where OP was coming from.

meghann0409 · September 2010

KC_13:
planeNsimple:
SeaStar430:

Nicole731:
I think you are reading too much into it.

That's possible. It's likely I've just known too many people who found out their baby was not healthy at that appointment that I've got my priorities in order and have learned to not be insensitive about it.

I think you are reading too much into it too. I would have been disappointed if I didn't get a picture/didn't get to find out the sex. And i'm one of those people that when I called everyone after the appointment the first thing I said (and emphasised) was "we it is a healthy baby and we couldn't be happier". When people post on their FB about finding out the sex, I always congratulate them on having a healthy baby. I would give her the benefit of the doubt.

With that said...WOW way to be a little bit of a B here. Sorry, but damn. By this statement you were trying to be rude and say everyone else is insensitive and doesn't have their priorities straight because they would be dissapointed. You can still be happy about a healthy baby and a little disapointed too!

I agree with this. I hate the attitude that if you feel any sort of disappointment over not finding the gender or whine about being pregnant in any way that you're ungrateful.

This. Not a hill to die on.

Lucky428 · September 2010

MrsPatterson:
I definitely don't think the OP was being rude or b!tchy or whatever by anything she said. I think she's simply stating that from her experience, she has a different perspective than many women out there. I experienced a miscarriage, and that has forever changed my perspective on pregnancy. Yes, it's disappointing to not get a good u/s picture, but to be disappointed because the baby is so healthy that it's moving and kicking so much that the tech can't get a good picture is a little ridiculous. I understand minor disappointment, but it's clear from the girl's post on FB that she has no clue what it's like to find out bad news about a pregnancy. I completely get where OP was coming from.

Seriously, this!!!

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