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Can I have some hugs?

katie9136katie9136
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I really need to fall and break into a million little pieces. I need someone to catch me and to slap some act-right into me after I break down. I don?t have that someone. Not here, not now when I need them. I am honestly considering not coming back down here and staying at home with Gabe. Me and my DH are having problems. Most of it is do to the stress of not having any money. And that?s really all the details I care to share right now. But I am hurting and a lot of it could be prevented if I got myself out of here. I just pray that two weeks will be all I need to relax and regroup and come back with a better attitude. But seriously, I can?t do it all myself. DH needs to step up to the plate. I sacrificed EVERYTHING for him. And my fake smile is starting to crack.

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Missed MC 1 - 11/21/2006 Missed MC 2 - 03/10/2008 BFP # 3 09/18/09 - Gabriel David born 05/11/2010 baby
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  • knelliknelli

    Oh love, I am so sorry.  I can't imagine what you are feeling right now, you have made sacrifice anfter sacrifice and I understand why you are worn out. 

    I REALLY hope DH gets a clue as to what you have done for your little family.  It is time for Katie now, and I hope you get that in Texas.  Hopefully you will be healed and ready to head south again and not stay away. 

    HUGE HUGS!

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  • lovesinthehouselovesinthehouse

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    I am so sorry, Katie. (((BIG HUGS)))

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  • blondie223blondie223

    ((((SUPER BIG HUGS))))  I'm sorry that you are going through this and it especially sucks when it's between you and your DH.  Coming from someone who just went through issues with DH, I know what a toll it takes on you and your emotional well-being.  I hope that your time going back home will help and that the space will do lots of good. 

    I'll be sending you lots of t&p's!!!  Just keep trying to think positive....((HUGS))

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  • ezbakejessezbakejess

    I'm so sorry. I wish I had money I could send you. I hope every day only gets better.

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  • ibisibis member
    I'm sorry. Money trouble is so tough. *hugs*
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  • Addicted2thenotAddicted2thenot member
    ((((((((((HUGS))))))))) I am so sorry. Sometimesguys can be so clueless.
    I imagine it must be lonely out there with no family
    Hopefully you are able to get the support that you need & maybe DH will see the light in your absence 
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  • lil_rhodylil_rhody member
    ((big hugs)) I am so sorry you are feeling like this.
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  • mamaholicmamaholic member

    Oh hun. I am so sorry you feel that way. I hope you can get some relief during your time back in the states. Maybe the time away from your DH will help him to realize what he'd be missing if he doesn't get his act together.

    Sending (((big hugs))) your way.

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  • MrsGhappilyeverafterMrsGhappilyeverafter
    I'm sorry hun.  I hope your time at home helps and things get better for you and your DH.  Big hugs to you.
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  • KateAndMarkKateAndMark
    I'm so sorry Katie! Big hug! DH and I hit a rough patch to after M was born and I threatened to leave and take M with me and DH got his s#it in order and now DH is a great Dad and I never have to ask him to help me with anything.
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  • eas15905eas15905
    oh my goodness, please have some huge :::HUGS:::!!!  You and your DH will be in my t&p.  I know you have been having some anxiety issues too and so I'm sure it doesn't help to feel like you are bearing the brunt of things financially, plus taking care of your son, having your family in another country, etc.  I hope your two week "break" will help you to regroup.  I worry though too because I'm sure your family will be pushing for you to stay and not return back to Mexico.  Anyway, I just hope that you and your DH are able to work something out.  In the end, you need to do what's best for you and your DS.
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  • kellieokkellieok
    Oh Katie, big big hugs to you. I totally understand what you mean and you should take some time for yourself. I am going to be doing the same thing. I decided I am going to go back to grad school and so my DH just needs to understand and money will be tight for us too at that point. I hope you feel better soon. Send many T&P and love your way!
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  • Lucky428Lucky428

    I'm so sorry that things are so rough right now.  I really hope that things turn around and DH steps up to the plate.

    Big hugs!!!

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  • mchell9mchell9 member
    Oh I am so sorry you are going through a tough time right now.  By no means should you have to fake anything...that will not help you or LO in the long run.  Be true to you..sending you ((HUGS))
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  • skibrook82skibrook82 member
    <<BIG HUGS>>  I'm sorry Katie, I really hope things get better for you and that these 2 weeks fly by so you can spend some much needed time at home.  I can't even imagine being gone that long, and to have some trouble with DH on top of that just adds so much more stress.  Hang in there!!  Each day is one day closer to your trip home!
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  • katie9136katie9136

    Thank you girls so much! I don't have anybody here IRL but I know I always have you lovely ladies!

    I'll be okay. I just need out, I need a break. And I think seeing my friends and family will make it all better. Or I sure hope so : ) 

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  • kellialaynekellialayne
    Sorry you are having such a rough time. I hope being home will help! They say absence makes the heart grow fonder!
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  • roundtheworldgirlroundtheworldgirl member
    Big hugs to you. I hope your trip home helps - either in improving your mood or getting some clarity on your next step!
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  • jen-dalejen-dale member
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    Oh hun. I am so sorry you feel that way. I hope you can get some relief during your time back in the states. Maybe the time away from your DH will help him to realize what he'd be missing if he doesn't get his act together.

    Sending (((big hugs))) your way.

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  • jen-dalejen-dale member
    imageMrs.Nunley:

    Oh hun. I am so sorry you feel that way. I hope you can get some relief during your time back in the states. Maybe the time away from your DH will help him to realize what he'd be missing if he doesn't get his act together.

    Sending (((big hugs))) your way.

    Oct 2008 m/c #1 5 weeks, May 2009 m/c #2 4w5d. BFP 6/23/09 EDD 3/8/10!
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  • OregonMamaOregonMama
    I'm so sorry.  If you need to, text me or call.  FB me.  Whatever you need.  Much love!
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  • kimmie321kimmie321
    I am so sorry...((hugs))
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