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DoingItRight · September 2010

Ok Ladies

I posted here a little over a month ago about hosting a Chinese exchange teacher for two months. We are now into our second month. They are wanting to know if we are willing to host longer. I am just not sure if I am willing to take on this task for the rest of this semester. They are checking to see if the school board will pay the utilities for the garage apt for the rest of the time since she like to keep the apt at 80-90 degrees and we just cannot afford to pay for the gas and electricity to be able to do this.

The other problem is the girl is driving me up one wall and down the other. It is like I have to babysit from the time I get home at night until I finally go to bed. I cannot get anything done or have any real time to myself.

If it was you and the school board is willing to pay the utilities what would you do.

Sorry this is so long.

KristysRedBarn · September 2010

I would say no. It doesn't sound like she fits into your lives very well. I think they should be able to find somewhere that is a better fit.

Aubs13 · September 2010

Okay...I'm sorry I don't know the backstory to this. Do you work with her at the school as well? Does the staff at the school offer to host any events or anything?

During my first year teaching, we had two international teachers. Each grade level was responsible for hosting an event a week (in the beginning, then I think it slowed down to once a month or so) that was after school, and would help to "show the new folks around the area" or something to that effect. Could you get the school more involved if you do decide to continue hosting her?

Good luck!

Court1 · September 2010

I'd say no. It's your house, your life & she's clearly fitting in very well. See ya later!

ERICA21779 · September 2010

In my opinion you're almost thru the alloted time, you've tried it out and at the end of the day it is not working out. But you gave it a try, I say good for you! It is never easy having a house guest. In my opinion I would not be able to sign on for additional time especially if she is driving you nuts!

Mrs.Albie · September 2010

If she's driving you nuts and you're not obligated to keep her at your residence, I'm leaning towards letting her find other accomodations.... GL.

DoingItRight · September 2010

I do not teach with her. I am not a teacher. They spent the whole summer looking for someone to host her. I ended up finding out about the program 3 days before she arrived. The school system does not provide her a salary, but provides room and board by having people host the teachers. I really wanted to be able to help, but I kind of feel that the school system should pay them a salary so that they are able to provde for themselves. If she just rented the garage apt and came and went and cooked and cleaned then I would not have a problem with it. We have though about renting out the apt anyways. Right now as it stands I have to make dinner for her, she wants to go everywhere I go, and then her constant questions. If she would ask a question, then get the answer and be done that would be one thing, but most evenings she has a set of 3 questions that she asks over and over again all evening. She is a very nice girl and I just really worry that they will not be able to find somewhere else for her to stay.

Olive44 · September 2010

You need to do what is best for you. I know you feel bad, but you shouldn't have to be uncomfortable or irritated in your own home. I would say it just isn't working out.

butterfly843 · September 2010

I would just tell them no, you have had her 2 months and if she was more independant that might be different.

KristysRedBarn · September 2010

If you decide to keep her (that sounds weird) then I'd set some ground rules. The temp must stay at X. Your on your own for supper X, Y, Z, nights. What ever will make the situation more feasible.

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