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I posted this on FB but thought I would say it here too.

mkoelkermkoelker member
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Why do people think it is appropriate to ask me "Are you excited?!" about The Little Lady.  I think it's the dumbest question I've ever heard...that and "were you trying?"

 

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  • vflipovflipo member
    Haha that's my absolute favorite question. One of these days I want to say "no, it's such a pain in the ass to have a kid..." but then I won't because I don't mean it and I don't want little EP to hear me say it.
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  • Scout05Scout05 member
    You should reply with "no, and we just fvcked a lot so it was bound to happen."
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  • SonadoraSonadora member

    Personally, I prefer the "Was it planned?" question.

    I responded to someone who said that the other day with "No, I just forgot how bcp worked after 10 years of taking them."

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  • mkoelkermkoelker member

    imageambrandau2:
    You should reply with "no, and we just fvcked a lot so it was bound to happen."

    Hahaha! I wish I had the balls. 

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  • ashleyy0219ashleyy0219

    I was actually shocked the first time someone asked me if this was planned.  Because for the past year all I could think about was getting pregnant so yes it was planned and I'm so excited I can't contain myself.  

    What are they expecting us to say umm yeah actually I'm not really looking forward to this at all.

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  • mkoelkermkoelker member
    The last time someone asked if she was an "accident" and I said "yes, I'm not even sure who the father is"
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  • vflipovflipo member

    imagemkoelker:
    The last time someone asked if she was an "accident" and I said "yes, I'm not even sure who the father is"

    Yes

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  • kndeckarkndeckar member
    imagevflipo:

    imagemkoelker:
    The last time someone asked if she was an "accident" and I said "yes, I'm not even sure who the father is"

    Yes

    This is a great answer. Love it!

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  • darkskyydarkskyy member

    imagemkoelker:
    The last time someone asked if she was an "accident" and I said "yes, I'm not even sure who the father is"

    LOL - NICE!!!  I can't stand that question!  I always want to tell them how I've been monitoring my ovulation and having sex almost every other night  for many months, but thought that might be inappropriate.  Instead I remind them I'm 32, been married for 3 years, and bought a house a year ago...

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  • jesmckennajesmckenna member

    imagevflipo:
    Haha that's my absolute favorite question. One of these days I want to say "no, it's such a pain in the ass to have a kid..." but then I won't because I don't mean it and I don't want little EP to hear me say it.

    I always think the exact same thing!  I want to be a smart-ass, but don't want the little lady to think I'm serious... As if she has any idea what I'm saying! Stick out tongue

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  • vlewis515vlewis515 member

    I am so sick of hearing "Are you getting excited?" and "How are you feeling?" Those are 2 questions you should never ask a woman who is 9 months pregnant...hell I didn't even like hearing that when I was 6 weeks pregnant!

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  • vlewis515vlewis515 member

    Oh and since when did it become ok for the general public to ask if it was planned?! I have only asked that question twice in my laugh to my 2 closest friends because I knew that they were both having rough times in their marriages and as I suspected they weren't. Neither of them were particularly happy to be pg at that time and both were on bc which failed. So for them it let them know that I understood the situation and was sympathetic for them to talk to.

    I got asked this question at work by some loud mouth in the middle of dispatch. My response was, "Yes as a matter of fact it was but my miscarriage last Sept was not, in case you were wondering about that."

    I think that sent the message about that question.

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  • *KC*luvs*RJ**KC*luvs*RJ*
    I'm asked that a lot too, and it IS the dumbest question ever. 
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  • kazpinkazpin
    I so agree that these are dumb questions!!  One of my employees found out this last week and asked "So is congrats in order?"  What another dumb one along those lines!!
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  • ShemicoShemico member

    imagemkoelker:
    The last time someone asked if she was an "accident" and I said "yes, I'm not even sure who the father is"

    love it.

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  • darvadedarvade member
    imagemkoelker:
    The last time someone asked if she was an "accident" and I said "yes, I'm not even sure who the father is"
    Maury can help you out with that Wink
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  • Aubs0009Aubs0009 member
    My DH's brother asked us that. I thought this was a particularly odd questions after he knew we had already been trying and lost our first LO. I don't understand people sometimes.

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