Need some help. Advice. Anything.

Re: Need some help. Advice. Anything.

• nothanks0

  September 2010

  Go see your doctor about it. Maybe you need a switch of meds.

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• Bridezookie

  September 2010

  Sometimes therapy can help you deal with a birth that didn't go how you wished. I'm doing that, and it's helped me tremendously. My therapist used EMDR to help me heal over my emergency C-section. I feel better about it now. I also read a book about the emotional recovery from an unplanned C/S.

  I definitely recommend an urgent visit to your OB to switch meds or change your dosage. Maybe you just need a tweak to feel much better. Also, I've learned there's a range of "normal" feelings after giving birth. It might not be immediate love at first sight, and that's ok. 
  

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• totallyshocked member

  September 2010

  Calm down sweetheart......pretty much all of us on here went through the same thing. I still do some days. I knew I loved my LO but got anxious everytime she made any noise or needed anything. I didnt want to be alone with her, didnt want to eat, couldnt sleep. You said money is tight so I would check with your state on any medical assistance plans, also look for support groups. At the least if your part of any church they usually supply free counseling. While the meds are slowly helping me with my anxiety and depression, therapy helped the most with my detachment issues.

  But what you are feeling is normal........its horrible but normal. Your hormones are everywhere and your birth didnt go as planned. Your doctor doesnt seem too supportive so maybe try seeing someone else because a change in meds may help. GL and post on here whenever you need help. were here 

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• IfferMarie member

  September 2010

  My OB did up my dosage but told me I needed to see a Psychiatrist in order to figure out a better fit if this one does not work.

  
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• teacherjess member

  September 2010

  I felt this way after my DD was born. It is the WORST feeling in the world. I would just go into the bathroom and cry and wish I had my old life back. I swear that in those early weeks, all I wanted was to not be a mother. I look back on it and it doesn't even feel like me. It was such a nightmare.

  Things that helped me: one week post-partum, DH realized that things weren't normal and forced me into the OB. She prescribed Lexapro, which took two weeks to kind of kick in. However, I had to go back and go on a higher dosage (20mg a day). So you may need either a higher dosage of meds, or maybe another med altogether, since I remember reading that sometimes you basically need to switch meds to keep things working.

  I also read Brooke Shields' "Down Came the Rain," which is about her battle with PPD. I cried through the whole thing, but I think just reading that someone else had been through the same thing and had the same emotions made me feel so much less alone.

  I won't lie. It was a good month before I even felt human, and at least another three before I truly felt bonded at all with my daughter. And it wasn't until six months that I really felt that parent-child bond that everyone talks about. Initially, she just didn't seem like mine and I really had very few feelings toward her, good or bad. It's very sad to think about.

  I'd get to a doctor to see about changing meds or upping your dosage. I feel your pain on not being able to afford therapy, as we couldn't either, but something has to help and there's no need to suffer in silence. You don't have to feel this awful, even if you can't afford therapy. I really recommend the Brooke Shields book.
  

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