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R&R and delivering twins!
My husband is coming home on R&R, and I am scheduled to have a c-section to deliver our twin boys while he is here. I have asked him if there is any way he can qualify for extended leave, etc. due to the fact that we are having twins, but he says that there is nothing like that. Does anyone know if this is true? Are there any cases in which extended leave is granted? I am nervous about dealing with two newborns by myself once he is gone! Thanks for any advice.
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Re: R&R and delivering twins!
1. Take the exact date out of your post!! That's an OPSEC violation.
2. I've never heard of anyone getting extended leave, but it's worth a shot by talking to his chain of command. GL!!
If there is something wrong with you or one of the babies he may qualify for emergency leave. Otherwise, no there is no special treatment for twins. God I wish. The newborn days would have been a hell of a lot easier if he hadn't had to go straight to 24 hours shifts (right after coming home from a deployment) when our kids were 2 weeks old. AND his commander was a douchenozzle who tried making him go back to work 2 days after they were born... while I was still in the hospital unable to walk on my own. The only reason he even got 2 weeks was because my OB sent his command a very stern letter basically saying give him 2 weeks off or else. It wasn't pretty.
I know it's a scary thought, but you CAN do this on your own. Newborn twins are a lot of work obviously, but they're not impossible. Once you get a routine down things will seem like no big deal, and you'll look back and laugh at how hard you thought it was going to be.
Good luck, and if you have any questions let me know!
Actually, the 10 days "extra" leave is up to his command and does not require any medical issues with the spouse or child.
What you can do is send a red cross message to the command upon the birth of the children - if your husband is NOT mission essential and they can afford to have his leave extended they will approve it.
While it is NOT likely it is possible. What you need to remember is that if he gets it NOW - he will not get it later.
Red cross will not send a notification message if the babies are born healthy with no complications. They do not notify simply based on delivery of a baby.
All of this is amazing news to me. We had 5 (yes 5) births within 3 months during the last deployment. The command was notified each time via the ARC. They responded by granting leave to those individuals. Maybe it is different depending on which branch of service - but since it is a hospitilization of the spouse the ARC will send a message.
At least... they did for us.
Red cross will not send a notification message if the babies are born healthy with no complications. They do not notify simply based on delivery of a baby.
They may have changed their policy? This is what they told us when DH deployed last year and I know that they refused to send notification for a few wives who gave birth during the deployment. However, DH's unit and commanders were very nice about all this and let any of the dads come home that wanted to come home. They tried to time their R and R with the births, if that is what they wanted to do. To the OP, I would talk to your FRG and have your DH talk to his command and see what is goign to happen. Good luck!
(and sorry for the repeat posts, the Bump is giving me errors left and right today)