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wifeyvana
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Poll: How much does your DH help?
wifeyvana
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I'm just curious...
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Re: Poll: How much does your DH help?
i voted SS.
in our house, since i am a SAHM, it is 100% my job to take care of DD in every aspect; however, DH does DD's bedtime routine and puts her to bed so he can bond with her and spend some time with her one on one.
also, he will help out with diaper changes on the weekends or when he's not working. but he has never been up with her overnight.....
I'm a SS too. It's a hard poll for someone like me with 3 kids. I can't really answer it. My DH is as helpful as humanly possible when he is home. Someone always needs something, and we make a great team.....
I take care of ALL nighttime feedings since I EBF and I don't have to be "on" at work. Of course, there are no more nighttime feedings for me.....
SS here.
DH works shift work, so he is essentially gone except to sleep for 4 days/nights - and then is off 4 days. When he works days, he helps get Alex & Taylor to bed at night. When he works nights, he does not help with anything. On his days off, he is a big help - usually doing something to get one if not both big girls out of the house.
SS
As a SAHM I take care of DD a bulk of the time. DH loves spending time with her when he can, so he'll feed her and play with her when he gets home from work. On weekends we take her for shifts (he gets the mornings, I get the afternoons) so we each have time with her and the other person can get things done around the house. Or we have a family outing. It just depends on the day.
Once a week DH has a night out, and once a week I do. So the other person is 100% about DD.
DH and I do baths as a team sport
DH doesn't do many diaper changes but we CD and it still intimidates him. He makes her bottles every morning, but is only around to feed her maybe once a day. Now that she's on solids, he'll feed her while we're having dinner.
Sorry to be another SS
When DD was <1yr, DH changed diapers when he was home but I did all feedings - he very rarely (I can't remember a time) got up in the middle of the night with us.
As DD got bigger and was doing more than BFing every few hours, DH started doing a lot more with her.
I voted SS.
Im pretty new to being at home and when I worked both me and DH took turns so we are kind of still in that routine. On the weekends we swap days, one day i take most care the other day DH does. It works pretty well for us.
SS
When DH is heavy into school (he is working on his PhD and also teaches undergraduates), he is more limited when it comes to helping. We agreed that we would rather him spend his time with us interacting as a family or one on one with DD as opposed to washing bottles or taking out the diapers. However, his interaction often involved daily activities such as feeding, bathing, bedtime routine. He has never done night wakings/feedings!
DH took the past year off from school and his interaction and help have both increased a ton! He just has more time and he even kept her pretty much full-time for a few months while I was working. He is headed back to school in September so it should be interesting to see how our family dynamic evolves again now that DD is almost 2 and we are talking about #2.
m/c at 13 weeks - March 23, 2011
this exactly
this exactly
I picked SS. DH takes care of DD in the morning while I am out exercising before he leaves for work (first diaper change, breakfast, etc). He then plays with her after work while I am cooking dinner. During dinner she sits next to him and he feeds her. We clean up after dinner together. He also does bath/bedtime routine. He also helps with washing our CD.
I take care of all the night time activities. He has a semi-dangerous job and he needs to be 100% so he doesn't make a careless mistake because he is overtired.
I do need to add that he has picked up on the amount he helps with DD because he is pushing for us TTC again.
Eleanor 9.30.13
SS
I have B 100% from the time he goes to bed to when DH gets home the next evening. DH usually does the meals and diapers after he gets home, and does most of the care on weekends. If B is having serious issues after he goes down for bed (pain, fear, etc.), we'll usually both go in and take care of him until he's at a normal level, then whoever is watching him takes over until he's totally calm and back to sleep.
I think we probably split B's care as much as possible with me staying home and DH working. DH always does baths, I always do a quick diaper change/bed check before I go to bed, no matter the day.
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First my DH would like to lodge a complaint against the word "help". He does a lot around the house and with/for the kids. He does not "help" me, he does things.
My job as a SAHM ends when DH gets home. At that point we are both parents. Yes, he's been working all day, but so have I.
He changes diapers (and we CD) and even washes them. He doesn't help with night feedings since I EBF, but if there's a sick kid he takes a turn (though I try to let him sleep as much as possible if he has to go to work).